I am 17 and a Senior in High School. Last year in one of my classes, there was this one girl who I wanted to ask out but I never found the right opportunity. This year, she isn't in any of my classes but I feel if I don't make a move I will never get another chance. She is the really, really, quiet type so it's not that easy to make conversation with her. Our school is pretty big so I dont see her often, maybe once every two weeks in the library.
My question is this, how do I talk to her? Does anybody have any advice on conversation starters for someone who barely talks and you don't really know her at all? My friend has a class with her and offered to help me get to know her but I don't know if I want to meet her through someone else. Does anybody know how to start a conversation with her despite our "distance?"
2006-09-18 14:24:28 · 7 answers · asked by † ¯|¯igerz ßlood † 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The class we had was P.E. so it wasn't exactly easy to make something happen in that situation. We have never really "met" but I want to get something started, I just need some advice/ideas as to how to get that started.
2006-09-18 18:04:38 · update #1
Just walk up to her and share interests, tell her a joke, and get to know her better. Then maybe ask her to hang out with you at games or something like that! I hope this helps!
2006-09-18 14:27:02 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Love Love♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been interested in this girl for a year. Had the opportunity to ask her out last year at different times but appaerently you are "quiet" too. Why don't you see who her friends are and maybe a group outing could be arranged, if you could be more comfortable that way. However, if you decide that you've been "quiet" long enough, approach her in the library and start to chat...... if seemingly nothing more than needing help "finding a particular book" and take it from there. Good luck!
2006-09-18 14:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by kathy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is, when you see this girl at the library or wherever, walk up to her and start out with a "Hello". Introduce yourself, and tell her that you see her around school, and maybe bring up the class that you had with her last year. Then start asking about the simpler stuff like: what she's into, what she takes at school, the kinds of things she likes to do. It's not that simple to ignore a conversation like that. Once she starts talking about the things mentioned, it's all smooth sailing.
From there you tell her your story about having her in class, wanting to ask her out, never really getting the chance; and ask the girl out.
Till next time,
Raven
2006-09-18 14:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get the friend involved. If this girl is as shy as you are portraying,having the friend speak with her isn't a good move. Maybe you should start by writing her a letter and leave it in the office for her (ya know, so the have to call her down to get it,put it in an envelop and just say,I am supposed to give this to Whateverher name is and just tell the office you don't ever see her and thought they may have a better chance at getting it to her. If you have to lie and tell them its from another teacher or from something that they will be sure she gets it) Just tell her in the letter that you would really like to get to know her and give her all your contact info and then if she is intrested she will get a hold of you. If you write her a letter keep these things in mind-sound smart ,honest and genuinly intrested in getting to know more about her. Goodluck!
2006-09-18 14:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by moontreefairy76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you could have fun with this. If you want to, and she is quiet and interesting... you should set up some sort of treasure hunt. Sort of like the movie Amelie.
You should leave clues for her... little notes with her name on them... and then keep sending her to new destinations around school... the final one being your phone number and stuff.
This may seem a bit much at first... but I always wished someone would do that for me :)
2006-09-18 14:28:01 · answer #5 · answered by Use my Yahoo! Avatar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation, i called up her friend that i was friends with and we went bowling w/ some other people, we talked and began to date. Man up and talk to her. If she says no big deal you never see her
2006-09-18 14:27:49 · answer #6 · answered by tstine90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like NIKE says"just do it"..walk up to her and say "hello" and go from there. Good Luck
2006-09-18 14:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋