We have been planning on getting our own house, but now he just wants us to stay with his parents. He thinks we will be able to save money that way. We are both in are mid- twenty's and are planning on getting married next year. Is this a good idea or not??? I need help.
2006-09-18 14:10:49 · 14 answers · asked by collegebusygirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey, Ia ma 27 year old guy, I don't have a girlfriend fiance or anything but I don't think what your boyfriend wants to do is really THAT BAD.
If he says that he wants the both of you to live with his parents to save money, that is a legitamate reason to live with your parents, After all he's probably thinking into the future for the twon of you and feels that with more money like in a year and a half from now you guys' will be able to get your own place, one you can own , not rent,
It might give his parents an opportunity to get to know there future daughter in law as best as they can,
The only problem i see with this is if you guys; will clash and not get along with his parents, But you guys' will be able to save a lot, I still live with my parents,
2006-09-18 14:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by the d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a good idea. If you're not in a position to be living on your own then getting married is something you should really put a lot of thought into as well. But whatever you decide about that, DO NOT move into his parents house. It's the kiss of death....
2006-09-18 21:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by sickandtiredinpa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my instant thought on this is it HIS idea or theirs.....................
It could work in theory BUT very clear set rules must be laid down prior to this happening, but if you are in doubt right now then I would say not to do it.................personally if I had spent any amount of time with my MIL prior to getting married I would probably have been getting married from behind bars.
You probably could save money but then again you are not going to be living there for free are you???? I personally do not think that the giving up of my freedom to live under some elses roof would be worth ANY amount of money that I / we could save
2006-09-18 21:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by candy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, believe me. You will regret it. And if u guys argue, then the whole family will know everything, and probably take his side. Just tell him he can save his part of the $$$, and u will do the same. Save as much as u can. DONT MOVE IN WITH ANY FAMILY MEMBERS. Yours Or His. Good luck!!!
2006-09-18 21:16:35 · answer #4 · answered by Bandice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea. Not if you still want to be on good terms with the future in-laws by the time you get married.
2006-09-18 21:13:31 · answer #5 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't go there...trust me you really don't want to go there at all. In-laws are nice people to visit but not to live with. Live together if you really want to save money. Eat peanut butter and jelly sandwiches instead of buying lunch every day. ANYTHING but moving in with his parents!!!!
2006-09-18 21:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think this is a good idea. You are the girl friend and he is the son. It only causes problems. I know since I tried it.
2006-09-18 21:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by missu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds REAL BAD! Stay away till your married. That will certainly put a great strain on everything. I can't even begin to tell you!
2006-09-18 21:14:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
EH... i'd avoid it if at all possible... it could hurt your relationship only because you will need to be 'on' most of the time - effort wise. you two won't be in your own space and that can make things more stressful...and you don't need that!
2006-09-18 21:34:00 · answer #9 · answered by oscarboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you really want to live in a space with his parents?
Yikes!
I wouldn't recommend it,unless you are close to his family.
Do you want to save money this way?
No waaaaaaaaaay!
2006-09-18 21:14:15 · answer #10 · answered by starrdevine 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋