We have been together almost two years we have a son and he is reluctant to move on to the next step. I do have a ring, and he has asked me to move in with him but he provides no action to these words. He is with his brother alot and i am friends with his brothers wife. So I think that is legit. I still have a hard time trusting him. what should I do.
2006-09-18 14:09:10 · 14 answers · asked by sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he's not doing business with you your TLC is probably at a low ebb.........
2006-09-18 14:11:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why you dont trust him its because you are not married. This made you insecure. It is how he acts towards you and your son. Maybe until now he still enjoys being with his friends and still cant commit fully. Talk to him and ask him directly what are his plans in your relationship. If he still cant give his commitment then its time for you to think of other options. Dont let your son be a bastard because your partner still enjoys his being a bachelor. Make him make an honest woman of you. But think again, marriage is binding so you must be very careful in your decision that you really want this guy to be your husband. Weigh the pros and cons before plunging into a relationship that will be very hard to get out in case it does not work out.
2006-09-18 21:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by japsie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Signs of a Cheating Husband
1) He carries condoms, and you are on the pill.
2) He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.
3) You find a long blonde hair on the seat of his car.
4) You find unexplained scratches or bruises on his neck or back.
5) He suddenly wants to try new love techniques.
6) He works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.
7) He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress's home.
8) His clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume.
9) You see lipstick on your husband's shirt.
Signs of a Cheating Spouse
1) He/She shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.
2) Spouse's co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.
3) He/She has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance.
4) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer when you are asleep.
5) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.
6) You find items of intimate apparel that you did not give your spouse.
7) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy"
8) You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice.
9) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home.
10) He/She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.
11) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.
12) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.
13) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.
2006-09-18 21:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by Hannah B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust him 100% don't move to the next step.
What you should do is get some couples counseling to help get both of you ready.
Marriage is a big step and it should be forever....do what you can do now to build a strong foundation.
2006-09-18 21:12:47 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him and look him straight in the "eye". Trust your interpretation of his answer. Unless he is a great liar, the truth will be written all over his face.
Don't give him a prelude or warning by saying... There is a very important question that I want to ask.
JUST ASK
2006-09-18 21:18:29 · answer #5 · answered by Serendipity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me, if you dont trust him, either make that different, or dump him. the worst possible thing in a relationship is when the girl has a bad feeling. something bad is usually always happening when you girls do. ignore him kinda for a couple days or so and wait for his call or for him to show up. the best way to tell is if he seems interested in you still. basically if he calls you, tells you he loves you, etc.
2006-09-18 21:13:24 · answer #6 · answered by psymon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he's reluctant doesn't mean he's cheating,although I do sympathize with you. If he's not acting any differently toward you I'd say everything is fine. See if you can get a sitter, ask him if you can go with him (watch for his reaction) I hope everything works out for you guys.
2006-09-18 21:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by searaydreams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time you are out eating dinner, ask him, "Can you pass me the salt?" Then if he says, "No I am not cheating on you", then you know there is a problem. Good Luck!
2006-09-18 21:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you shouldn't be so concerned about it, you need to win him every night, maybe show him some more attention, but don't accuse him. If he is cheating, I don't really see it in your story. Maybe he is just not ready to be married. good luck
2006-09-18 21:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may become distant and just in the mood for intimacy like he use to.
2006-09-18 21:12:49 · answer #10 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u feel his having long convorsation on phones, specially with women. if he dont make love to u much as before, and if he refuses to go out wid u.
2006-09-18 21:11:09 · answer #11 · answered by shamz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋