Lost Loves?

Question

HELP! I am in love with a man that I dated at least 10 years ago. I broke off the relationship but I can't get him out of my head. I was so mean when we broke up because I didn't have agood job and he already had a career. I felt like dirt and felt dumb. Now I have a good job but I also have 2 kids and live 200 miles away. Should I write to him and tell him how sorry I am. I occasionally would see him at family functions but not recently. He is a friend of the family. I really want to apologize to him but I'm not sure what to do. HELP!!!!!M&M

Answer 1

Are you married? If you are, the answer is no. Don't contact him. It means trouble.

If you are single, then yes, sure, send him a letter. Apologize, say you were ten years younger and you're sorry for the way you behaved, etc, and just see where it goes from there.

Answer 2

if i were you, i would do anything ...ANYTHING to get him back...to be in love with someone for 10 years is not a joke...if you are still thinking about him, it's a sign...but not the kind you ll probably think...we all know that if you love somebody, it doesn't mean that heaven is saying that you will be with that person no matter what..but i believe that it is a sign that you should try your best to get him back...again, if i were you, i would not do it the way you want to do it...he can feel rejection towards you now that you want him so bad..and i 'd feel extremely embarrassed...and scared that he would reject me...the thing is i think that the best approach would be to try to play it NATURAL..which means try to find ways to see him more often (and try to make it not too obvious)...you will have a chance to talk to him...find out where he is heading now...what he is feeling...if the connection is still there, he will eventually want to be with you...i would also try to remind him about little things he used to like about you (make it look unintentional...)...i m just sure that if he still have at least some feelings for you, he will never want to lose you again...and you guys will get back together...good luck i hope you are both happy in the end no matter what the outcome is !!!! all the best

Answer 3

I am in the same position (very very similarly) and i would Love to share what I chose to do with you but I don't want to do it publicly. On my profile here there should be a link to my 360 page if you drop me a note in the messages about it I would love to talk about it.

The only thing that I will say here is the worst thing that you can hear is a no but with that no it could be only because he is involved seriously with someone. THAT IS THE WORST THING THAT COULD BE SAID anything else you can deal with INCLUDING a no because of time or whatever everyone else said here. But that kind of a no doesn't mean no never. It is just a no for now and if you take time (if what you had was that special) you may be able to rekindle something. Sometimes someone is so special or so impressionable in your life that not having them in your life at all is harder than if they were just around in any fashion.

I say go for it... And like I said if you need to talk about (cuz I need to talk about mine too) you know how you can reach me.

GOOD LUCK!!!

Kiss

Answer 4

If you've seen him before at family gatherings, chances are you'll see him again at the next one, or the one after that. Take the opportunity to strike up a conversation at that time. I think the personal contact would not be quite appropriate, especially if either of you is married.

And go easy on yourself. You were a different person ten years ago and that person screwed up. It happens.

Answer 5

IF neither of you is presently married, go for it (otherwise no, no, no). He's probably not holding a grudge about something that happened "at least 10 years ago," and if he is, then he's not the one you want anyway. What have you got to lose?

Good luck!

Answer 6

Maybe u could talk to him but it wont help thats much cuz he going to think is that you want him back cuz u know what u lost and maybe he can take u back or maybe he already has someone find out and then tell him how u feel and mabye it can work out try it and find out what happens ok good luck

Answer 7

Think of how this looks to a man.

When they are younger and hotter, women do alot of "breaking up" with guys, thinking they are going to get something better.

When they are older, carrying a spare tire and a kid or two in tow... and no longer hot...., they suddenly want to pick up the phone and say "Ok Poindexter, im ready now for you".

From a guys perspective, youve been run over like a speedbump by other men and now you want stability with him.

He gets sloppy thirds, you get security.

Answer 8

I used to be in your situation. But one thing that I have learned is that if it is meant to be it will happen. If you are meant to be with him again your paths will cross once again. If you just want to say your sorry then by all means write him but if you want to get in touch because you want him back then I would suggest that you find out what is going on in his life first. He could be married with kids of his own.

Answer 9

Yes,contact him,you will always wonder if you don't...Life is so filled with what ifs...Please do yourself a favor,and go for it....
Also,I can feel,you still have deep feelings for him,at least this would resolve things for you,my friend,and the worst that can happen,if you discover,things aren't the way you would have liked them to be...Then at least you will be able to move on,with a clear mind...Good luck my friend...

Answer 10

If it is going to haunt you, and stop you from moving forward, then by all means you should try to contact him. We often let time go by and never say the things that we know we should have said. Good luck to you!