Should i tell my parents i smoke?

Question

Well my parents are both from asia and i was born here in US and if any of you dont know, asian parents are very strict. I've been smoking weed for about 2 years and i'm not sure whether i should tell my parents or not. I dont think my parents know much about weed except its in the "drug" catagory and if its in the "drug" catagory it is not good. I even told my parents that i smoke ciggarettes and luckily they weren't VERY angry, just a little dissapointed and i'm pretty sure all of you know that ciggarettes are way worse then weed. What do you guys think i should do? I hate hiding that i smoke weed and going through all this stress everyday. I am an educated individual and i have researched the topic of marijuana before i tried it out. I know what it does and what it doesen't do to your body. I know how the government portrays it in bad way. I'm just asking the opinion of other parents on what i should do.

Jesus christ, have any of you even tried smoking weed before? If not i advise you to read this before you start judging me of being "stupid". http://www.drugtext.org/sub/marmyt1.html

and 2nd of all, who ever told me to stop before i "overdose" is a complete idiot. It is almost impossible to overdose on marijuana. and let me emphasize that "No one has ever died of a marijuana overdose"!!!!

And for all of you people who told me to stop, i'm sorry but i am really not going to stop. I really find it funny how many people find it terrible thing to do when there are so many things a person can be doing wrong. I Know its bad for me, of course i know its bad for my health, but for christ sakes you to realize millions of people do this and lead out normal lives. I know many of my older friends who have smoked weed since the age of 12 and have gotten great jobs and led a successfull life. Its not about doing marijuana, its about not letting it take over your life.

AND let me restate that i am not doing marijuana because i am under STress, I do it because it helps me concentrate when i do my work, it helps me appreciate music more, and many other characteristics. I can't believe there are so many of you uneducated about marijuana. I know its bad and i know many people ruin their lives because of this but that's because they are Stupid, they are dumb, they cant make the right choices. I still plan on going to college, i still plan on having a wonderful job.

5. Marijuana is much more dangerous than tobacco

Smoked marijuana contains about the same amount of carcinogens as does an equivalent amount of tobacco. It should be remembered, however, that a heavy tobacco smoker consumes much more tobacco than a heavy marijuana smoker consumes marijuana. This is because smoked tobacco, with a 90% addiction rate, is the most addictive of all drugs while marijuana is less addictive than caffeine. Two other factors are important. The first is that paraphernalia laws directed against marijuana users make it difficult to smoke safely. These laws make water pipes and bongs, which filter some of the carcinogens out of the smoke, illegal and, hence, unavailable. The second is that, if marijuana were legal, it would be more economical to have cannabis drinks like bhang (a traditional drink in the Middle East) or tea which are totally non-carcinogenic. This is in stark contrast with "smokeless" tobacco products like snuff which can cause cancer of the mouth

and for the people who keep constantly replying with "arrested for possession'! THis is exactly what i AM TRYING to prevent. That's why i am trying to tell my parents so that i can smoke at home. I know many of my other friends who's parents have accepted that they do it and let them do it in the house. Its better then doing it outside and risking getting caught.

I just want to say thank you to "cuddles49". THis is a answer i was looking for. I hate it when people judge me over the things i do. Weed does not make me a bad person. I do it, because i am responsible.

And please look at this website before making any assumptions on what "WEED" really is. Because all your really saying is what the government wants you to see it as.

http://www.drugtext.org/sub/marmyt1.html

Answer 1

If you are old enough to make the adult decision of which habits you choose to bend your mind with you are adult enough to keep it to yourself....
there are some things one really does NOT need to tell their parents... like if you masterbate they REALLY DO NOT NEED TO KNOW and smoking pot fits in that category.

unless you plan to light a fatty infrount of them there is no reason to reveal something that is sure to bother them. It would be disrespectful of them to unburden yourself in that way.

If your pot habit in under control you whould have no trouble not indulging infront of them... it really is a question of do you respect your parents or do you secretly want to hurt them...many youth have pasive agressive desires to lash out at their parents and tell them things they need not know... I told my kids that I don't need to know who they sleep with unless it is long term and they are serious. I would rather not know when they are dating a different person every week or month...but that is just me...
seriously dude...why do you "need" to tell this?....let it ride...unless you get busted for dealing or public intox? ( not likely I hope) why bother them?

Answer 2

If you tell your parents or not is besides the point ,you are abusing the hard work your parents have instilled or at least tried to,first,second you are going to reap the harvest of your ignorance in your golden years since you abuse your body in the search for the empty pleasures you now seek,i had a friend that started smoking cigarettes ,advanced to weed and overdosed on coke, smoking is like sex from a lover that shows you her tricks and have you coming back for more,and every time you hit it you cannot fill the need ,then it hits you ,it,s a bottomless pit ,you ca,nt get enough,and then you despise the very thing that keeps your sorry existence in place ,life,stop while you,re ahead and can still reason with yourself,because once you lose your mind ,it is all gone,even the simple pleasures.

Answer 3

I can't give you an answer on whether or not to tell your parents, as I do not know you or them. If your were my child, I would hope that you would tell me. Though, if honest, I would be upset. Not necessarily about trying weed, but because of using it on a regular basis. I am not trying to judge you- I finally told my parents that I smoke cigarettes (was 30, now 35). My father drives me crazy (ironic, as he smoked when I was a child), constantly nagging me. I have told him that at least I am being responsible (it is legal, I don't smoke around my children, I don't smoke in my house or car as they have allergies, didn't smoke while pregnant or breastfeeding, ...). However, if I think more about it I am not really being responsible- as it is bound to have a negative effect on my health in some way, which affects my children's lives. If my kids were to tell me they smoked weed, I would not be a hypocrite and yell at them (at least I hope not). However, I would stress two issues: like it or not, it is illegal (I don't particularly like that I can't smoke if in a restaurant or bar, but I do follow the law) and it can also affect them and others in a negative way. You mentioned that you have researched the issue- then you know the negative affects it can have. Also, while it may not kill you directly, it can influence you in ways that could (i.e.- driving). As a parent, I could not allow my child to do this at home due to the legal aspects and the possiblity of the other kids wanting to do the same. If the child was adult-aged and going to continue to use weed, I could only hope for the best. I hope you make the right decision for yourself and your family.

Answer 4

Telling your parents is a hard choice and it all depends on the type of relationship you want and feel you can really have with your parents. I grew up with very strict parents and hid a lot of stuff from them because I knew they just wouldnt understand. So it was my choice not to tell them and every now and then I wish I could have told them so I could talk about it but its the past. Just think about it and think about all the bad side effects that could happen... if they are as strick as you say and know of it as only a drug then you might want to think about whether they would want it in their house and whether they might try and get you into counseling or worse call the police (i dont know your parents so i dont know their reactions). As for you smoking weed, i am not going to judge, I personally have never done it but have had many friends do it and most of them have had no issues but I do know that one person that was close to me every time he smoke he would change and get very angry and mean... but you can have the reaction to a lot of things that are legal- so all i have to say is - as with anything becareful and use common sense- as from your research I am sure you will!

Answer 5

The "website" that you provided (twice) is a piece posted by a pro-marijuana group and written by someone who isn't qualified to make statements about any medical aspect of marijuana use.
Whether you like it or not marijuana use is currently illegal for non-medicinal purposes, and the risk you run of having criminal charges pressed against you should make you think twice about using it.
You claim to have researched the marijuana issue, and claim to be well educated, but all you offer in support of your pro-marijuana position is a webpage that is so obviously biased and devoid of any current information as to be totally useless in establishing anything. ( I don't believe that 1977 was the last time medical research on the effects of marijuana was conducted).
To give you some idea of the usefulness of the info provided by the webpage, let's look at the claim that nobody has ever died of a marijuana overdose. It would take a lot of marijuana to overdose, but how much angel dust or other drug routinely added to marijuana to boost it's effects would it take? The truth is that the coroner who reports on an overdose would report that the drug that was used to "lace" the marijuana and not the marijuana itself was there in lethal concentrations. So yes, technically the marijuana can't be blamed for the overdose, but had the person not used the marijuana they wouldn't have overdosed. To me saying no one has ever overdosed on marijuana is playing with words and distorting the truth.
Lastly, in my mind, a well educated person knows how to spell the words "category", "cigarette", "disappointed" and "doesn't" .

Answer 6

It will be very terrible if your parents learn of your drug habit when you get arrested for possession. I know you think this won't happen to you, but believe me, this can happen. If you are still a dependent minor, your parents are legally responsible for what you do. If you are over 18 but are still on their car insurance and being supported by them, they need to know because they are at risk if anything unfortunate happens while you are under the influence. I am not even addressing the issue of how stupid you are to think the weed is not affecting you adversely. Stop lying to your parents, but don't expect them to be supportive of this decision. I know you think you are so smart and you have everything under control, but when you do something that is illegal and unhealthy, your actions have the potential to affect your whole family. Your "stress" is nothing compared to the stress your parents will feel when they learn how you have been deceiving them, but like I said, it is better for them to know now than to find out when you call them from a police station.

Answer 7

Yes. Tell them. (They can probably already smell it on your clothes anyways... weed has a sweeter smell when it's burned and, just like cigarettes, will linger in your clothing.) If you don't tell them, and they stumble upon it later, they'll be even more disappointed. They'll feel they can't trust you, and that trust will be hard to earn back. Show them how stressed you are about not being honest with them. If you show some remorse/responsibility for your decisions, you'll also be showing that you're growing into an adult. And that's something you can all respect. I'm not a parent, but I've done things I'm not proud of either.

Answer 8

I have smoked pot for years and years. I graduated from college and even have my Masters. I smoked every day before going to school and I don't see what damage it did. Telling your parents, in my opinion is the best thing to do if you want to smoke it at home, and if they will let you do it in their house. Being honest is the best thing to do. They love you very much and maybe they will understand more if you sit down and talk with them about this issue. You didn't state your age, and that is important I would think on allowing you to smoke at home. With USA mind set on thinking pot is so horrible, let them live with an alcoholic for a few years and then tell me which is worse, it's sad that we allow a drug like alcohol legal and people kill people everyday while on alcohol. But I believe that pot is not a so called "Gate way drug," to further drug use. There is good and bad with everything out there. What we eat, drink and smoke. Chemicals should be USA's middle name. Chemicals are even in the water that we drink and in the air we breath. Honesty is the best policy. If they disagree with you than that is their right. But, being a Mother of a teenager myself, I have dealt with this problem and my daughter has decided not to smoke pot. And she is close to leaving home. I can't control everything that she does, that is impossible, but she has the knowledge on pot and made the decision herself not to do it.

Answer 9

I don't know... it depends on if you think your parents can handle it. It also depends on how old you are, and if you're handling yourself (and your smoking) in a responsible way. I'm Asian too, and I know my parents would NOT be able to handle it at all. Something like that would just freak the hell out of them and make them upset and stressed out, even though I would know that it's actually not an issue at all, and they don't need to worry about it. So I would think, why make everyone upset when there isn't an issue?

However, if you're young (i.e. younger than 21) and not financially stable in terms of employment, and/or unable to control your appetite for smoking, then it seems that you may have a problem, and you should seek help and definitely tell your parents.

Answer 10

Having grown up in a family of "pot-heads", my advice TOTALLY depends on your age. If you are under 18, you should talk to your parents. I'm sure they'll be very upset about the smoking, but they'll be glad that you were able to come to them to discuss the matter (this is being spoken as a mom).

If you are over 18, you are old enough to make your own decisions. If you choose to smoke pot or cigs, it's your life to do with what you want - just be careful that pot doesn't take over your life. You have to be responsible!!!

One more piece of advice, stick with the weed!! Don't do any harder drugs. I know several people that have been smoking pot on a daily basis for over 20 years and they function "normally". I also know people that have moved on to harder drugs and are totally burnt out.

Answer 11

me personally, I would not mention it not because of being afraid just because parents like thinking thier child at any age is perfect in their eyes. I am pretty sure that they would not dis own you or anything but they may me dissapointed and is it a fight worth having are you ready to deal with all the judgemants the will give you, questions like do you know what your doing to your body, what if you get caught by the police and all the other questions and comments that will come about. If I were you I would keep my mouth shut you obviously love your parents alot and it is not worth all three of you getting upset. Good Luck with what ever your decision is.