Too not see a guy?I am 18 years old only ever had one bf that i really loved this year he was my first everything and well he got me pregnant and left me twice i lost the baby at 5 months i called to tell him since are contact was non existant. I tried being friends because we are going to the same college but a few weeks ago his gf told me to leave him alone he apologized and then said he never wanted to see me again. I met this new guy who really liked me was sweet and gentle but i am just not attracted to him like i was my ex. bf i still love my ex.bf. I think this new guy and i could be friends but i know he wants to date me. Is is rong to tell him its my moms fault i cant date him?
2006-09-18 13:52:44 · 21 answers · asked by Elanor p 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
my mom really does not like thae fact that he is 21 but never said i could never see him again so i feel like i am lying. Is there a way to tell him the truth or should i give him a chance to date me?
2006-09-18 13:55:31 · update #1
I really do not want to hurt this guy
2006-09-18 13:58:12 · update #2
my mom has no idea i was ever pregnant
2006-09-18 14:00:51 · update #3
You should just tell him the truth and not make things up. Otherwise you'll never address the issue that you cant seem to get over this first guy who screwed you over. And thats not healthy.
You need to cut the first guy out of your life completely. He's trouble for you. Anyone who makes a baby and skips out is not worth your trouble. Iam sorry for you loss on both parts, its hard losing a child, and harder losing the man you imagined your life and child with. But sorry doesnt make it better. Its time to move the hell on.
It doesnt mean you have to date this new guy, but it does mean that you need to move on, separate yourself from him completely. You're worth more than that.
2006-09-18 13:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's wrong to use your mom for an excuse. If you're 14, it's understandable, but at 18---your supposed to be an adult, and adults don't say things like " my mom told me not to". Catch what I mean? You should be mature enough to level with him. Maybe he'll respect you for doing so and just remain friends. good luck, oh, and by the way, don't bother with your ex either, sounds like you were just a stepping stone, or drop in the bucket to him. So don't de-value or disrespect yourself by chasing someone like that. Have some dignity!!
2006-09-18 21:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to tell anyone you were pregnant, especially guys that you date. It's no ones business but yours. Yes it is wrong to tell someone you can't date them because of your mom. You have to be honest with this guy. He deserves honesty.
I would tell him this: You really like him. He's a sweet guy, and maybe in the future you guys could hook up, but you broke up with someone not long ago and you're just not ready to date (or get serious with anyone). I've found that men accept this reason really well, because it's not a blow to THEIR ego. YOU"RE just not ready. But when you are, you'll look them up. They walk away feeling pretty good about it. And that is the case with you.
But it sounds like your ex is no longer interested in you, and maybe never was. You have to move on. If you're not interested in any other guy because in your heart you're still attached to your ex.........get over him. I think he was VERY clear about his feelings. And besides, you don't want to hook up with a guy that once told you that he never wanted to see you again. You want a guy that thinks the sun rises and sets around you. Don't burn your bridges with this one you're seeing now. Maybe you're attracted to bad boys. Sounds like you've hooked a nice one! Think about it.
2006-09-18 21:20:15 · answer #3 · answered by daisymae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been through a lot and had a bad breakup with your last boyfriend. Just tell this guy that you are not ready for a relationship right now. It should be understandable why you would not want to date anyone right now. Don't use your mom as a excuse unless she really does not want you to date him.
2006-09-18 20:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by miss_missajane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's wrong to use your mom as a crutch. You need to get over the old bf he isn't going to be your friend, he used you and got scared when you got pregnant. get on with your life. A true boyfriend will stand beside you through thick and thin will take the appropriate precautions in sex until you are both ready emotionally and financially to have children.
2006-09-18 21:35:39 · answer #5 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just tell him the truth. Moving on is something that you'll eventually have to deal with it, and if your not ready then tell him you just want to be friends. If you get into a relationship with him, then you might compare him to your ex. He deserves to have a chance, not just because you feel you should just do it. If you two are friends maybe sometime your friendship can evolve to something more.
2006-09-18 20:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by LaAlicia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes its wrong. Go on the date, but be horrible. Maybe he won't want a second date. By the way, breathe every once in a while, or start using punctuation. Man that drives me crazy.
2006-09-18 21:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by P Hos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is wrong to use your mom in this. you should give the guy a chance because it seems like he's the one that wouldn't leave u hanging when u get pregnant. and how could your mom not know that u were 5 months pregnant? wow...email me if you have any other questions. my email should be on my profile.
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2006-09-18 21:58:33 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Pyar Ki Pari♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant too and lost it at age 17. Your mom will not like any man you date now.....unless you get on the pill. Been there. Now I'm 40 and happy married
2006-09-18 20:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
than you should not
and certainly not by using your mom
you need to grow up or work at getting over him concerning your X he
as for this new guy
tell him that you are not ready for relationship at the moment
but don't ever use your mom or anyone else for that matter when it is concerning breaking up with someone
2006-09-18 21:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋