My sister and my 2 year niece are visiting me, came from distant city, but her daughter all along hits my also 2 year boy, we are very tired of this situation, I love to much my niece, but I defend my son, and he does not defend too much, but we do not know that to do, somebody knows?
2006-09-18 13:51:14 · 12 answers · asked by Drew 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you love your niece, you need to show her that her behavior is unacceptable. First talk to your sister. Give her the chance to deal with the situation but give her clear details on what your expectations are:
She has to sit her daughter down and say NO MORE HITTING. No long explanations, just NO MORE HITTING.
then if your niece hits your son, your sister is to discipline her immediately. None of that "if you do that one more time" stuff... they will always test the boundaries.
If your sister refuses to work with you on this, it's your house. You wouldn't let a stranger hit your son and get away with it, so let her know that you won't tolerate it from ANYONE, and if she won't deal with it, then you will.
The Discipline track:
1st offense: Time out (2 yrs old = 2 minutes)
2nd offense: Take away a favored toy for the rest of the day (do NOT relent on this. If you do, she wins)
3rd offense: Hit her back (I can hear all the squawking already but I'm not saying beat the child... this is just catching her attention to let her know that YOU are in charge, not her and you mean business)
4th offense: She's sent to bed.
Each time discipline is applied, you HAVE to let her know that she is a good girl who is doing bad things, and that you love her but you do not like naughty behavior.
Don't forget to praise for good behavior.
Good luck!
2006-09-18 14:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by princessmeltdown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i had the same problem with my daughter and niece they were also two when they started doing it my daughter is two months younger but was the instigator at this age i still feel the don't really understand why they cant act this way but anyway time out is good but it didn't really help i think my girl thought she was competition for my attention so the more i tryed to stop her the more she picked on her which intern she got me to react to her. So maybe you should try stopping her instead of her mum by like removing her from the room and saying to her what she is doing is not nice and enforcing her to say sorry this is what my sister in-law and i tryed it seemed to work alot better how they are 2 1/2 and play great together they have their moments but way less. You could try walking some where with them instead of having them in the same room or space this way been out and about they aren't in trying to play with the same thing and fighting they can learn to be round each with out havin to entertain each other i hope this helps
2006-09-19 05:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by 3kids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is also going through the hitting phase, i beleive he's old enough for the naughty corner so maybe while your family are down this time, introduce it and see what happens. Dont get angry at the little girl, theyre all way too young to understand the full extent of there actions. It's hard to watch though but they will eventually learn how to stand up for themselves. Just give them time.
2006-09-18 20:54:36 · answer #3 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sister needs to stop her daughter from hitting. Maybe if you tell your niece very nicely to stop hitting. Tell that it is not nice to do that. and I woud do it in front of your sister. And if that doesn't work just tell your sis nicely to have her stop hitting.
It is tough because you don't want to hurt anyone.
2006-09-18 20:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by pa_susie99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use the word NO and seperate them briefly. It usually worked with my kids. Also the two year olds might just need naps and more rest at night. It can make a tremendous difference. They overtire easily and get cranky.
2006-09-18 20:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your niece off to a corner and put some fear into her. Do this when her mother isn't looking. Don't hurt her, but make her understand...DO NOT HIT (insert your son's name here.)
Good luck
2006-09-18 20:54:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Let them slug it out. At that age, they can't really hurt each other. As long as they're not getting overly agressive, just let them play "near" each other, don't try to make them share or play the same thing. :D Good luck.
2006-09-18 20:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by Manda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 words for you. time out. thats for your niece of course. she does the crime she does the time
2006-09-18 20:54:40 · answer #8 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drug the girl and give your son candy...jk, i have 5 sisters so i would usually just let them duke it out. but...thats not the best thing. just keep an eye on them and if she gets mean just tell her thats not nice (since shes 2) and tell her youll give her something (candy) if shes nice.
that should work
2006-09-18 20:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by the_masked_avenger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Supervise the visits and correct them when they do something wrong.
2006-09-18 20:53:48 · answer #10 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋