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Okay so I go to a scool where there are 5 boys some that are gay and some that are just mean or un-attractive. I recently had a crush on a boy who was 10 years older then me I use to fantasize working together etc.. When reality hit and said that he was too old, I had this wired feeling after I decided just to be single. Well I then started thinking as a joke that I was lesbian. But then it started bugging me, because when I look at men I can't fantasize anymore. I have these moment where I can then I just don't. I have never dated a guy in my life besides when I was like 11 yrs old which today I am 16. So anyway can someone please help me! Am I a lesbian.

2006-09-18 13:37:49 · 18 answers · asked by Becca C 1 in Health Mental Health

18 answers

do you like woman?

yes- your a lesbi


no- your not

2006-09-18 13:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by polygirrrl 3 · 1 0

It's normal to be unsure of your sexuality at some point in your life. You are at an age where you are figuring out who you really are, and the feelings you have are very common. If you are attracted to a girl, it doesnt make you a lesbian, and neither does not being attracted to men. It just means that you are unsure and your mind is exploring all possibilties. Try not to categorize yourself, you dont have to have a label of lesbian, or bisexual, gay, or straight. Be true to who you are, and when the person who makes you tingle inside shows up, whether its a girl or a guy, it doesnt matter. You are who you are and you can love who you love. Dont put yourself in a box.

2006-09-18 13:44:44 · answer #2 · answered by Fade__Out 4 · 1 0

just because you are not fanasizing about a male doesnt mean you are a lesbian. Your body is going thru changes and sometimes it just needs to take a break . Now if you are fantasizing about women then that might be a different story. But does not make you a bad person either way. Good luck figuring out life i takes a long time to figure out and sometimes you never do. Take care and god bless

2006-09-18 13:41:53 · answer #3 · answered by justamlracle 1 · 0 0

Just because you had a bad experience with one boy does not mean that you are some kind of a perveret try another one you will find reality with the right one much better than fantasy now if you fantasize about women and girls then you probably need psychotherapy because you may be one try another boy get a HEALTHY relationship going before you ruin your life o.k. gorbalizer

2006-09-18 13:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by gorbalizer 5 · 0 0

Only you can know. Do not worry about labels. Do not let people make you into what they want you to be. Do not worry about "normal". BE YOURSELF.

You tell a story of a girl who hasn't had the opportunity to explore her sexuality. You are young and have time to find love and fulfillment. Do not worry: time still is on your side, and you can face the world with more maturity. When the time is right, if you are honest with yourself, you will answer your own question.

2006-09-18 13:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by novangelis 7 · 0 0

You sound perfectly normal. Don't let those thoughts invade you. Don't become obsessed with that silly notion. You are going through the same things that all young ladies your age experience. Don't worry! And, yes, you WILL find someone when the time is right. You have a whole life ahead of you... and that's an awfully long time!

2006-09-18 13:44:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I think you are confused. You need to be sexuall with a woman and a man, at different times. If you like both you are bi, or you can determine your oreintation with which sex you prefer in the bed, and mentally. But your still only 16, you are at a confused age, give it a bit.

2006-09-18 13:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by §†reet R¥dA 6 · 0 0

i am a lesbian ok, lesbians dont have crushes on boys.
do u want to have sex with men or women? do u fantasize about men or women?
if u wanna shag men u are straight
if u wanna shag men and women u are bi
if u only wanna shag women u are les

2006-09-18 13:45:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Have you fantasized about women? If not, then there is pretty much no chance. Don't worry about it. It's not an urgent problem.

2006-09-18 13:40:54 · answer #9 · answered by alibababbb 2 · 1 0

i dont think you are a lesbian... maybe just a little bit confused...anyway, you hated this man..a nd so what? you're boy fantasy decided to take a rest..you dint mention if you liked any girl ryt? i think you just became tasteless of men because of what they did to you...pondscums! .besids you're young enough to explore...

2006-09-18 13:43:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

becca in a way i say you are not but in a way most lebians start off jokin about becomin orbeing lesibians and really who cares what your sexuality is as long as you are happy GOOD LUCK

2006-09-21 13:26:16 · answer #11 · answered by jadyn 2 · 0 0

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