I am not really a snob, but my interests don't seem to ever align w/ people my age. (I'm 22). I am interested in art, opera, philosophy, museums things like that. I can't stand bars or beer or sports or loud gatherings of people, it's just not me. So it's kind of tough to meet people.
Boys/Men ever since high school have only ever complimented me on being smart, or called me to ask for help w/ homework. I used to practice gymnastics so obviously I am in very good shape & very petite.
And one guy I liked, I asked him to go to the opera w/ me, and he never called again. Am I going to have to start dating men in their 40s or 50s?? lol.
Also might I add I've had no dates, kisses, or anything yet. I admit I am not really interested a lot of the guys my age but why don't they ever pursue me ?
2006-09-18 13:25:15 · 26 answers · asked by emma d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
btw i dress very well! i love fashion & always wear heels, skirts, etc.
2006-09-18 13:28:42 · update #1
i don't dance or "club" btw, and i prefer richard wagner over paris hilton...
2006-09-18 13:30:11 · update #2
nah, doesnt sound snobbish... just seems you looking in the wrong places and findin the wrong kind of guys
2006-09-18 13:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by K Z 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Man I feel for you I am almost exactly the same except I am a guy! Admittedly I'm not into opera etc... the problem here is not with you but with modern society!!!
Guys are scum and all they want is sex most of them anyway!!! I really don't have any idea what you could do to help you but trust me don't bother with all that party going crap, you sound like a real intellectual with REAL interests!! You shouldn't have to date older men, if you like those things then other people will too... i suppose my no 1 tip would be, yes im serious put an advert in the personals column of your newspaper!!! :D
good luck!!!
2006-09-18 13:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by Impavidus 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because guys your age are not into the stuff you are interested in. You are not ready to find that special person yet. Don't worry, you are a jewel in the ruff, just live your life and one day you will find what you have been looking for. Heck, you may even meet a guy at the museum or opera. Just don't close yourself off to advances, keep your options open and smile. This opens up invitations to others.
2006-09-18 13:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by Cammi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Although I am in my 40"s If I would of met you in I guess you would say another time or life? I would of loved to go see an Opera,and I do like museums,and art! So if you look at it the way I would you are no snob loser,or anything bad,sounds like if you were in a fix you would be the first one to get out,and the ones that did not know the things that you may would be stuck in a hole.So be proud of yourself! soon that match for you will appear.
David
2006-09-18 13:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by Iceman 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that sometimes guys (and girls too) can be scared off....actually intimidated...when people seem to be smarter, or more refined then someone else. This can actually be slightly depressing to someone, because the thought is that you would thrive in your life to become sophisticated, and smart. So, in my experiences, the problem sometimes is on the other end of the fence.
The important thing is that you meet someone with similar interests. i know that at times, it seems like you never will, but there are people out there who like the same stuff you do...its just a matter of when you find them. I know that its going to sound cliche...but, most of the time, you find love when you arent looking....but keep your hopes up, and your aspirations high. Just remember, you should always shoot for the moon...even in you miss, you will land among the stars.
2006-09-18 13:33:02 · answer #5 · answered by frankgrimes.rm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't be desperate at 22 there is still plenty of time to find your soul mate. believe me when i say men in there 40s and 50s are just as shallow as guys your own age.
the right guy is there somewhere for you. try going to the opera or museum by yourself and see who you meet there.
you are more likely to find someone interested in the same things as you at places you have an interest.
Oh and no you're not a snob, and i would go to the opera with you
2006-09-18 13:32:44 · answer #6 · answered by Scott G 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of meeting people is just being where the people you like are going to hang out. For instance, you seem to be a relatively introverted person. So you're definitely going to want to put yourself in situations where you'll be around smart introverted people - bookstores, galleries, etc.
Beyond that, it's just being open to meeting and talking to new people. It's true that some guys are just not going to be interested in the things you are. But there are also plenty who will be, and as long as you're sending out the "I'm interested" vibe and putting yourself in places to meet the right kinds of people, it will happen. It may take time, but there are plenty of guys who can appreciate someone smart and interesting.
2006-09-18 13:32:56 · answer #7 · answered by whrimfunis 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to my world girl, I'm 20 and I'm totally into animals. Also I'm into defending the types of people that can't do it themselves. Mostly however, I'm happier outside in the nice warm weather or inside talking to people online. I must agree though, social gatherings make me nervous and I'd much rather be at home cuddling my dog and reading a good book.
I've only had a few boyfriends, one or two, but don't worry about it! We're both quite young, be worried about getting a good college degree and finding the right job, when the right guy comes along that shares both your interests -and- what type of person you are then you know you've found the right guy.
2006-09-18 13:29:28 · answer #8 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
its not that you are a snob, its that you have class and culture, most guys your age are too imature to be into the things you are into, the only class that they have is that they might have a vague idea or notion that there is a museum in town somewhere and as far as art goes they can describe the label off the st pauly girl beer bottle or they admire the colors of their favorite football teams cheerleaders outfits, thats about it for class and art.
you can't really find a guy that is young and yet refined enough to have an apreciacion for such things, your choices are obvious, find an older guy (it can't really be that bad, you may like it) or don't date any guys till your age group actually matures enough to have an apreciation for such things
2006-09-18 13:34:12 · answer #9 · answered by zether 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just show a little interest like eye contact with alluring eyes and then quickly look away with a little sensuous smirk. It sounds like you are a well-rounded girl (body+brains=nice). Just try to be a little bit more flirtatious (play us guys a little bit), and I guarantee you us guys will be pursue you like a cheetah. I would anyway...I love petite girls.
Note: If problems persist, I hope you live in the KC area so we can talk (I'm 23). :)
2006-09-18 13:34:33 · answer #10 · answered by str8trisor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're just different than most people your age. You may have to compromise a little bit with the sports and bar thing if I was to be your boyfriend!! Keep looking, maybe one day you'll find someone just like yourself
2006-09-18 13:28:47 · answer #11 · answered by Stephen R 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋