I had this boyfriend for 2 years, and there were times I couldn't help it but think of my ex. After I broke up with him, I dated my ex again for a couple of months, but it obviously didn't work. Now I have a new boyfriend, he is an angel with me, but I've been missing my "2 year ex bf" lately... I should be happy and enjoy the new relationship,but instead I get confused and think of someone else, not all the time, but pretty often. I know is not normal.... what should I do?
2006-09-18 13:17:10 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love the one you're with.
2006-09-18 13:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are missing what the relationship could have been. You have thought about it so much you have made it a fairytale...a dreamers tail.....as you are a dreamer. You have tried twice..do you really want to go back there and live with all the pain you felt before?Try giving the new relationship a chance and try to put the thoughts of the ex away in a treasure chest if you will and only go back to look at the treasure when you really feel you have to or you won't be able to move forward.
You could make a list of pros and cons of both men and both relationships and see for your self if you have made the right choice.
I will tell you, you are not the only who does this .....and that is why I am answering your question ...its time to let go now ...I am in a new and wonderful relationship now too and I'm keeping it here and not "there" we just had our 6 month anniversary yesterday. How long have you and the new guy been together? Keep track and keep the good times rolling and you will have those memories to hang on to.
~Good luck~
2006-09-19 12:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell me,are you the kind of person that likes being hurt,upset,in bad relationships?It's OK to think about your ex,miss some of things the two of you use to do,places you used to go,but why live a life always looking behind you?And now you say you have someone that treats you like an angel but that's not good enough?Now your going to risk losing someone that good to you for the past.Even tho it's over with your ex,sounds like you can't \ won't accept the fact that it's over.Ever wonder why guys always ask the question in here that no matter what they do to try to please their mates they always dump them for a ex-lover?If you want the answer just look at your own relationship,that's why.Leave the past in the past,accept \come to terms with the fact that it's over,done and look forward.
2006-09-18 13:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell ur new boyfriend that sometime u still think of ur ex but u really like him but u don't know what's wrong if he's understandind he will understand but if he's not than he would probably break up with u. Maybe ur just with him for rebound reasons and ur still not over ur ex boyfriend but take it one day at a time(Not trying to be harsh).
2006-09-18 13:21:36 · answer #4 · answered by momo13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ive always worried something like that would happen but i havnt had a new boyfriend since my last serious relationship. all i can say is give it time. if you are not ready for a new relationship becasue you are not over your ex then maybe u shouold get yourslef together before u put anotehr heart in jeopardy. just be sure to understand what u want.. allow yourself to see what you need and like.
2006-09-18 13:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a case of we always want what we can't have. Just try not to think about the ex and you will get through it.
2006-09-18 13:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal because you were together for so long. Guess you re mourning the loss. Take it one day at a time and move on.Try to enjoy your new relationship.
2006-09-18 13:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by blueyes2001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think u take human and humane as a material. Don't do like this, enjoy the present relationship forget the past, be clear about urself n ur destiny.
2006-09-18 13:22:25 · answer #8 · answered by Biss 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell ur current bf about it and then both of u will come up with a plan together to help u stop thinking about your ex!
2006-09-18 13:19:42 · answer #9 · answered by Ariel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey your normal but give the new relationshio a chance and forget the old boyfriend if he cared he would be there for you.
2006-09-18 13:19:15 · answer #10 · answered by fayem7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't do this but my suggestion is for you to stop getting boyfriends for awhile....at least 6 months of being single.
You need a break to decide what you want & who you want.
This sounds like a soap opera.
2006-09-18 13:19:36 · answer #11 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋