Don't know what to do i can't make her love him. PLease don't be rude.
2006-09-18 13:12:10 · 9 answers · asked by Julie H 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She just needs time to get used to him. Do stop her from hitting. Grab her hand and sternly tell her "No hitting, that is not nice". Do that every time. Do things together, like trips to the park, family oriented places. Spend some alone time with her too. She might be jealous because he is taking some of your attention.
2006-09-18 13:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How long have you been with your boyfriend. I don't know you or your boyfriend or your daughter so don't take anything the wrong way I'm just trying to give you possible reasons.
1) She feels like he is taking you away from her
2) She is just being a rambuncsious 2 year old
3) Maybe(again I dont know him) he isn't treating her nicely when/if they are alone
She most likely needs some time to adjust to her new surroundings. Maybe you should try having him give her things that she likes. Not to the point that she gets used to it and always expects it. Maybe he should bring her a cookie or a stuffed animal or something like that every once in a while. I know she is only two but maybe try to explain to her that you will always love her no matter who or what comes in or out of your lives. Explain it to her in a way a two year old would understand. I'm sure things will improve over time. Good luck!
2006-09-18 20:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by K<3C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you as you are entitled to a happy life. I don't know how long you have had this boyfriend of yours but maybe she just needs sometime to get to know him and get use to having him around. She is acting out but why I wonder if for what ever reason she does not like him. If he has been in the picture for a long time then she should know him quiet well by now. Your daughter has to come first and I am sure you know this. my only advice is to look at it more close and see what I have said either way to be true or not. Good luck.
2006-09-18 20:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just cause you love him doesn't mean she will or needs to for that matter. You can not make a 2 yr old like an adult - they use emotions on instinct. And that is an age where seperation anxiety and other issue come up that are developmental.
I would not make my child spend time with him, I would keep my relationship with him away from her. You don't need a boyfriend as much as she needs you to herself right now. That isn't meant to be rude, it is just a fact of human nature.
2006-09-18 21:49:18 · answer #4 · answered by funschooling m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't "make" her love him. She could be acting out because she was used to having you all to herself. Older brothers and sisters tend to change behaviour when a younger sibling is first introduced. All you can do is let her warm up to him. Tell her no to hitting. And let her see how he can be a fun person to have in her life. I don't know how long this relationship is or how serious it is either, but I would be very choosy on who I introduce to a young child. You don't want them forming a bond and then having to tear it apart. I'm not trying to be rude, just thinking of the child.
2006-09-18 20:17:21 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Julie. I know other people have given you good advice, but I just want to encourage you to help yourself during this time. Make sure you are keeping a close eye on how you are doing. Your life is hard and there is so much to deal with. Having a little child is tough. So get all the help you can. Make sure you have a good plan in mind for your life. Treat yourself just as carefully as you treat your daughter.
2006-09-18 20:22:08 · answer #6 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many possibilities are present. Is he clean shaven or have facial hair. Often times facial hair causes a response. Is he abrupt in her presence, quick to move, sudden loud noises, does he yell at anyone around her. If he holds her is he large enough to accidentally put to much weight , perhaps a large arm across her legs or chest is uncomfortable. Often times children just sense things that are not easily seen by those of us who have grown accustumed to our rose colored glasses so to speak and dont sense a problem as quickly. Does he get the same responses from other childre of like age, does he like children or is he putting on just to have you? Many possibilities, I hope I`ve provoked afew thoughts, to help you get atleast to the right place to get your question answered. I`m a father of 6 3 boys 3 girls
2006-09-18 20:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry if I offend you, but if your daughter is only 2 and you're already a single mom, maybe you should stay away from men for a while. I only say this because I saw in your other question that you are trying to get pregnant.
2006-09-18 20:15:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
your daughter just needs to get used to guy. on another note: if you aren't going to be with this guy for long or you don't think it will end up to be a long-term relationship than i would suggest leaving your daughter with relatives when you are with this guy. by the time she gets used to one, then you will have to start over. only introduce her to guys that you are serious about
2006-09-18 20:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by buttons 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋