(sorry for all spelling mistakes my keybored sometimes dose not type surtain leters)
ok im 13 years old and, most of you know that around this age girls and guys want to go out with each other, now i know some of you older people and parents belive that kids my age should not be going out and i under stand that, but , some parents (like most of my friend's parents) let there kids go out with others and dont mind them haveing a relationship, ...just to let you all know, i am not the "hoe" type of girl i dont like doing nasty stuff, thats weird....but my qustion is.... do you think i should ask my mom if she cares if i have a boy friend, or should i wait intill she brings it up (she has brought is up before but it was when i wasent interrested in guys) so what should i do, i dont want to go behind my parents back and have a boyfriend..... so should i ask her???? (or should i ask my dad??...whitch usally i dont like to talk about that stuff with my dad)
2006-09-18 12:57:37 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I will have to say how refreshing it is to have a thirteen year old girl on here respond the way you are, Good Girl!
Wait until you have the right opportunity to spend some time with your Mom and then bring up the conversation again.
Explain to her that you are considering having a boyfriend, and ask her for her opinion.
Give your own suggestions too, maybe she will let you go on a Chaperoned date, and then maybe she will allow you to meet the boy at a public place, such as the movies, or the mall, or skating rink, etc...
I commend you for not wanting to go behind your parents back, you sound like a very nice girl, and a great daughter.
Take Care, be good, and stay sweet.
2006-09-18 13:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her, because that should strengthen your relationship with her at the least. Relationships remain good when the communication and trust are healthy, and sour when one person feels deceived, and trust me she will find out parents always do. Would you feel deceived if a close friend of yours got a boyfriend for a month and didn't tell you? As a tip, be careful and give yourself time to grow because me at 25, maybe 1 out of 50 people I have met had a profound, meaningful, romantic relationship that started before the age of 16. The odds are best to wait and grow, but your mom is a great person to talk to about all of this as she probably knows you best.
2006-09-18 13:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't hurt anything to bring it up again and let her know how you feel. I think at 13 you are not old enough to have a boyfriend. You may not be the hoe type but I would hate for you to get into a situation you can not get out of. Parents make rules for your own good even though you can not see it right now.
2006-09-18 13:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by blueyes2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is also 13 and he has a girlfriend. But they are not at anytime alone. They are either here when im home or they at her moms house when shes home. I think you need to sit down and talk to your mom about what you are feeling. See what she has to say. She might make you wait until you are a little older.But dont get mad,,shes just looking out for her little girl. You are still very young. The best thing to do is bring it up to her first. Being able to talk to your mom about these things is good for you. Means you are close with her and can talk to her about anything.
2006-09-18 13:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i have a daughter, I'd be happy if she'll come to me and ask me if it is okay for her to have a boyfriend. Since she did ask you before when you weren't interested yet, I am sure she's open to talk about the subject. Moms have wisdom because they have been through this road. Go ask your Mom. I'm pretty sure she has some insights and good advice for you. It is nice to develop an open communication with your Mom especially if it's about matters of the heart.
2006-09-18 13:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by Milie88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well speaking from a mom's perspective... and I have a 13 year old daughter.... really depends on what type of relationship you have with your mom. I know my daughter would be talking openly about liking a boy prior to them becoming an 'item' How close are you to your mom? If you ask her and she says NO will you go ahead and see this boy anyways? Bring it up over dinner one night...mention that there's a boy that you really like etc.... take it from there..good luck...
2006-09-18 13:02:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you can have a bf - but no intercourse for at least three more years - actually five more would be better. The fact that you are only 13 and saying your not a "hoe" is enough reason for you to have a boy "friend" - the main word here is friend - and nothing more - you aren't ready emotionally for anything more.
2006-09-18 13:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you talked to your mom about this type of stuff. And if she brought it up when you weren't interested in guys. She was trying to teach you before your it actually happens. I have a daughter that is 9. I tell her about sex. I tell her about how guys will try to say things like they love her, just to get in there pants. But if they really love you they will respect you and wait. I know thats hard to believe in the time that we live in. But there is someone out there for you. And as far as your father. He can teach you ALL the tricks that guys have to get in your pants. But they have to have that trust in you because the coached you. So all in all. I would not keep in secrets from my parents. If you come to them for advice they should give it to you. They are parents and want the best for you and they also knew that this day would come. So be patient and understanding with your father. It might be hard for him at first tell me how it worked out.
2006-09-18 13:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk w/your mom. She loves you like no one else in the world!! Besides, you'll be in the dating scene for many, many years, you should always be able to talk with her. Mom's seem old and out of it but not a lot has changed between men and women over the years!
2006-09-18 13:06:31 · answer #9 · answered by seaelen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most parents KNOW that when teens are around poeple the teen chooses, alot of teens pick up bad habits.I think you should ask your mom but listen VERY carefully about her concerns because her concerns are very real, not overreactions.
2006-09-18 13:07:49 · answer #10 · answered by TYRONE S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋