My son just turned three and is it bad for him to not be potty trained yet?

Question

My son goes when i ask him if he needs to go potty but he was scared of the toilet for awhile until recently

Here in Texas you have to be 4 or 5 to start school

Answer 1

If he was afraid of the potty until recently, it is not a surprise that he is not yet trained. If he will go now when asked I would use this opportunity to jump right in. Use pull ups ONLY for naps and bedtimes! Big boy underwear will teach him much faster than the glorified diapers that pull ups are. Ask him every hour or so to try and go potty. Kids usually do not like to be wet and after a few accidents he will remember this and start to go potty on his own. It may take a little bit, but if you are consistent you will be very happy with the outcome. I wish you lots of luck...and don't worry until he is ready for school and not trained....

Answer 2

It's not bad. My daughter didn't train until she was nearly 4 (I had an awful time with her) and my son trained at 3 1/2. I think some kids just take longer. I think there are more untrained 3 year olds out there than we know, but the parents don't want to talk about it for fear of being judged. The only obstacle is preschool but if I were you I'd call around...some preschools will help you potty train. I sent my oldest to preschool in a Pull-Up and by the end of the first year she had only rare accidents and was in underwear. Good luck.

Answer 3

NO NO NO NO NO, it isn't bad. He will be fine, and three is VERY normal for boys to potty train. If there has been any other changes in his life (a move, a new sibling, new friends, almost any change to his routine) it may delay his readiness.

I have three boys. With the first one, we tried to have him train on our schedule. Didn't work. He trained shortly after we moved (and gave him a brother). The other two, we waited until they were ready, and it was so easy--one day. Done. They were right at three years old.

He's a little boy, but mostly, he's a guy. This isn't a huge priority for him. If you make it seem like a big deal, then it will become something he can use to get a reaction out of you with.

So, ignore anyone who tells you he absolutly should be trained by now--he's fine. He's just on his own schedule!!

Answer 4

My son will be 3 in a couple of months and i do not plan to potty train him until he shows me that he is ready. He is my 3rd child. My daughters were ready at different times, too, but they tend to be more mature than boys in that area. Do not let society dictate what is"good" or "bad". it is only what is right for your individual child. I know alot of preschools demand potty training b-4 accepting the child, but there are some that do not (if that is a pressure you are feeling). So, no it is not bad to wait if the child is not showing signs of being ready, or any interest (like my son). Get some potty books at the library and read them with him. it is never too early to start talking about this big step. I hope that helps.

Answer 5

First of all...don't worry it will happen when he is ready...boys are harder to train..yes it would definatly be good, less money on diapers...my son was just about 4 before he was funny potty trained..and my daughter was 2 1/2 and fully potty trained...i have an 18 month old who is afraid of the potty, so she will probably take longer...my son went into preschool in diapers, and i was surprised the amount of kids the same way...so be patient.

Answer 6

I truely think that just depends on the child,especially if premature,my oldest daughter was almost 2 months premie,she was completely DAYtime potty trained at around 13 months,but NOT nighttime potty trained till almost 4,her dr said that was due to being a premie!during the day she had people to ask/remind her go potty,at night it was sleep...and no one telling her!plus he said premies sometimes have smaller systems and cant hold it as long....
Ive also HEARD that boys are harder to potty train,my brother was almost 4 when he was!!
my son is only 7 months so..we aren't there yet.
my middle girl is almost 19 months and has NO desire to sit on the pot! LOL
kids have to be potty trained to go to School and to most preschools...
as far as bad...I just dont think that there is a bad when it comes to potty training/bottles/pacis. I feel(my own personal opinion)that to force a child into something to early can just harm them! life gets harder as they get older,why should their parents add to it! No I dont agree with a 5 year old suckin a paci IN PUBLIC but at home with just their family,why not?its a security thing! kids need to feel safe,unjudged and secure!ultimately its up to the kid! now if the child goes mostly on the potty then yea they need an extra nudge to go all the time!sometimes its just wanting attention or "being funny" to not go! good luck

Answer 7

my son was three when he was potty trained too. He was scared of it as well. We bought him a toilet seat. Superheros at that. We told him that he was being a superhero for using the potty. It seemed to work. He is so confident now, that he doesn't need the seat anymore. I don't think it's a bad thing, when he is ready you'll know. Just be consisent and praise him when he does go.

Answer 8

there is no age limit to potty training, they'll learn when they're ready. you can't force him to tell you when he has to go. My son turned 3 in March and he's finally potty trained ( although he won't #2 in the potty) every child is different. It takes time ( we've been trying since he was 2) Try to be patient, you'll be amazed but when he's ready he'll start letting you know.

Answer 9

My son's pediatrician said most kids these days aren't potty trained until about 3 years old.
I think you need to stop buying diapers and bite the bullet. It should only take a few days for you now that he is so old.

Answer 10

no it's not bad. First, boys take longer than girls. Second, if you push it your child will resist.

My son is almost 3 and I haven't started yet either. He's just starting to show signs he's getting ready.

If you have a preschool like I have, they'll work with you kids on potty training when they're ready.