Guys if there was a girl that you had been interested in for like forever...Well you and her never talked but finally you had the chance to and you took that chance.....Well things started working out great....She was everything you had looked for in a women and she just amazed you..You like thought about her constantly and fell inlove with her over and over everytime ya'll were together...Well her mom loved you also..BUT you to had never decussed ages.. You were 25 and she was only 17...Just turned 17...Would you throw all love and feelings away for that...Just a simple age..Yes you know its wrong..But she loves you...you love her...her mom doesnt mind...What would you do is my main question....
2006-09-18 12:54:30 · 22 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My friend keeps asking me what I would do if I was in her place...And im like Im not sure..Im not that young..So I was just wondering
2006-09-18 12:59:54 · update #1
Nope, I'm not going to jail for a piece of azz.
2006-09-18 12:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The age difference is not a problem except for the physical part of the relationship that could be put on hold for now. I would be concerned however because it is hard for someone that is only 17 to really know what they want. They are still very young and have a lot of life to experience before they really know what they want. That being said, if you really love each other then you need to give it a chance and see what happens, just be careful.
2006-09-18 13:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from a similar experience (for the record I was 21 and she was 17 but we were both at the same school, so in my defense I thought she was 18), it's tough to throw it away but it actually is the better decision. She will not be the same person at 21 that she is now at 17, especially if she goes off to college. Probably the best decision could be to put things off and give her time to grow and revisit it in a few years when she's more mature and in a more stable place. 29 and 21 is easier to overcome than 25 and 17, but it's still a challenge.
2006-09-18 13:00:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for me there would be alot of things i would look at. Like what is that girls future going to be with college and her goals. Age is nothing but a number but you have to realize that age gap is big. I wouldnt want to waste my time if the girl would be moving away for school because long distance at that age is too hard. Also is that girl mature enough to handle that and how do know that this guy is the one for you? What if in another month or year you meet someone else who is just as good. It def. would be hard to keep your relationship together
2006-09-18 13:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by chuckleburry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very simple answer here . if its love then time and restrant wont matter and in one year it will be totally leagal . it is ok with moms supervision to have on going love affair but mom needs to be sure that her daughter isnt just smitten because of physical feelings . love is much more than sex and getting along its commitmant and changeing dirty diapers and going threw terrible times of hardship holding hands and being thare when your loved one dies easeing the passage and everything in this wotld just dosent matter but going forward and takeing each day together and never letting anything come between them .it is just fine to love and feel love but a wise young lady would give a small point of time to be totally sure this is what her heart wants for a lifetime . this is simple and small price to pay if this love is pure and real .
2006-09-18 13:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by sigmond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.....thats a toughie but a good question....here's what I would do:
First of all, in my opinion, a 17 year old really hasn't "lived" yet....they don't exactly know what they want out of life or in a guy yet! (They think they do but chances are they're dead wrong!) They don't know THEMSELVES!!!
Since that is so important to me, for a girl to know who she is, I would rather wait until she is old enough to make a truly rational decision, rather than jump in headfirst and break her heart down the road. If the guy really loves you, hopefully he is smart enough and loves you enough to know that you still need time to develop as a person.
Chances are, if you are truly meant to be together, you WILL be! You just need time!
So yeah, that's what I would do...go on with my life but with a watchful eye on the girl of my dreams!
2006-09-18 13:05:02 · answer #6 · answered by Rivrav 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that I am 26, if i were in that situation,
I would wait a year. She would be "legal", and
it would have given a good amount of space to really know if it was right for both to continue the relationship. If the love is that strong, a year is nothing.
2006-09-18 13:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by Dave R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to go b/c love conquers all, but love won't keep you from catching a charge, punishable by at least 5 maybe 10 or 20 years.
2006-09-18 12:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by lowcountry smooth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way. first off, theres no way i'd have been interested in the girl "like forever" if she was only 17. was this guy after her when she was 16?15?14? thats just getting creepy. Second, regardless of my feelings, i wouldnt act on it. its a felony. period. no way i'd go there. and whats up with the mother? the whole things sounds too jerry springer for me.
2006-09-18 13:01:42 · answer #9 · answered by richard457 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing that i can surely tell u is that it is ok to have a diffeerence in age
My dads best friend has a wife that is 10 years older than he is
Love is not about how much older you are
For love it does not matter
2006-09-18 12:58:40 · answer #10 · answered by Patrick Teh III 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id just wait untill shes of legal age 18 or 21 depends where u are then get married.
goodluck
2006-09-18 12:57:59 · answer #11 · answered by aaronwinner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋