I was a little worried the gf might be losing interest (dating for @ 4-5 mos), but she has been working like a mad woman lately (2 jobs, probably 60+ hrs/wk, which concerns me a little, too) She is very proud of being very independent so I keep telling myself to just relax and let her come to me. We hit it off great, seriously unbelievably, but neither of us have much exp in the dating dept, and I know the romance has to start to simmer a little at some point. Does this sound reasonable? Any advice on trying to get her back into it or is it something I am f ing up? We had a talk the other night and she really revealed some stuff. If I plainly ask if her feelings have changed, that pretty much seals the deal regardless, doesn't it?
2006-09-18 12:47:28 · 12 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Great advice so far. Thanks and keep it coming PLEASE. I was more into this girl after 3 mos than I ve ever been with anyone else and I never even considered it as a possibility. Now I can't stop thinking about her.
2006-09-18 12:58:31 · update #1
Don't worry be happy.
2006-09-18 12:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by joe v 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey - chill! You have a good feeling for this girl and that can't be bad right?? But you are not sure of where she's `at' - she might still be sorting herself out on that one; if the signals are not clear. So, I would step back a little and see if she reaches to you....it's a hard one to cope with BUT if you try rushing this, it just might backfire. Meanwhile, keep up the little romantic things - and keep the communication lines open. Just don't push too hard is all; and time will show which way it's going to go - if you're content to wait a bit....good luck Mr. In Love!
2006-09-18 12:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by Bluebells21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might, but it she has two jobs then give her a lil bit of space. Just make sure to enjoy the time that u guys do spend together. Gotta make some sacrifices, if it persists then sit down and have a good long talk, and get everything off of ur chest. Good luck.
2006-09-18 12:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by a7xrios 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You have an over achiever on your hands.
2. Old habits die hard.
3. If you can't adapt to her lifestyle, or she can't meet you halfway, then move on.
4. A man or woman that loves their profession over their family is a cheat. Cheating family, or loved one out of meaningful time together.
5. The over achiever may need counselling, or a less time consuming position. Talk it over politely. Tell her you miss her, and your needs in the relationship. Then take it from there.
Good luck and warm regards.
2006-09-18 12:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by mitch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok whoa! This sounds exactly like what happened to me last year. We had this great talk and hit it off well. But then right away she was busy and always doing stuff by herself. And sometimes she would reveal stuff to me, but then get all closed off again. Personally that relationship ended badly for me, but that doesn't mean it has to for you!
Give her time and space like she wants but set a limit to it. Say, "Hey I'm glad you can open up to me like this and I'll give you all the time and space you need. But I'm in this relationship too, and I can't be the only one working at it"
Good luck!
2006-09-18 12:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by quickblur 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like shes just really busy. so hold back on the serious talk until she has time for it or else she might feel pressured and smothered by you. instead let her know you understand shes busy and find a way to sweep her off her feet instead. try something like a evening pic nic on top of a building or something lol. ladies love the romantic stuff. then she will see that you care about her feelings by romancing her instead of smothering her
2006-09-18 12:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she just doesn't know how to express her feelings. why don't you plan a romantic night for her. Here is something that every man should do... Buy a bottle of wine, make dinner, and enjoy a night with her by candlelight. If she don't come around after that then she probably just wants a friendship
2006-09-18 12:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by angie_adie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Your special lady needs a break. Take her to a resort in your town or the next town over for the weekend and treat her real nice. PAMPER HER!
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2016-10-01 03:10:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-18 12:51:39 · answer #10 · answered by Pey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋