Sometimes I feel some people look at me strange?

Question

Sometimes when I talk to girls I feel like there analyzing me. Like they'll look at my hair or at my lips if I have lipstick on. But then they won't say I look nice. Sometimes I feel as if they have a laughing look on their face. Do they think I'm ugly. And in their mind there making fun of me? Girls do you this when you think someone's hair looks funny or there unattractive? I mean I try to dress nice and not heavy maybe could just lose 10 pounds. I'm always well groomed. I just feel like there's something wrong with me when they look at me like this.

Answer 1

it's a psychological thing. ur probably insecure about yourself, so when someone looks at u, u think their looking for a flaw. In reality, there's nothing wrong with u. think highly of ur self!

Answer 2

People are always looking for chinks in the armor. Simply politics. As a rule those kind of people don't matter. And your chances of seeing any of those folks after high school is pretty small.

It's all BS.

Answer 3

Sweetie most people are too involved in their own lives to completely obsess about someone else.If you dress nice, don't smell funny, and speak like a normal person ( and you sound like you do, missed spellings and all ) you are just fine.

Answer 4

you know, i've really stopped caring. Going out of my way to care about others is a thing of the past. You don't live again. Forget what people think and do as you wish. Why is it so hard for everyone to do that?

Answer 5

Have you ever thought that these girls are thinking, "I wish I could do that with my hair!" "I really like that color lipstick. I wonder where she got it?" Someone else just said this: Everyone looks at others all the time. All-encompassing answer, I know. This person, however...may have been wrong in saying "everyone."

If you really want to be looked at...and have others give you "weird" expressions...travel around with me for one day and boy, will you see some staring. Sometimes in disgrace, many times with prejudice, many times with indignance, and sometimes with pity...I really don't like pity.

I have legal blindness. I wear coke-bottle glasses and still use my hands to 'see' with quite a bit. My vision is 20/25 in one eye, and the other is slowly shrinking up into my head and is completely covered with huge cataracts. Some days the staring really bothers me; most days I do not notice it (what did you really expect from a person who has blindness). I am older now, but I had 11 eye surgeries in five years...during high school. Those years for me were horrible. Other students very openly making fun of me and me crying my way home every single day. I became alone in the world because my so-called friends did not want someone, "Hanging on their arm all the time." I had to training in Braille, cane usage or using bus routes.

But I also found many many good people. I strongly remember a male student at University giving up his shuttle seat so Mom and I could sit down while going to the eye doc. My family and I traveled by van to California and toured Disneyland. By that time I did have some white cane training and Dad said I was like Moses parting the Red Sea. Even though the park was very busy that day...never waited for more than five minutes for ANY ride or show in the park. The ride workers would come and get any family and myself and to the front of the line we'd go. That part was great.

I am considered legally blind today because my "good" eye has less than 20 degrees peripheral vision. The acuteness is very good...peripherally it really is gone. The eye doc found it necessary to scrape away all of my peripheral vision in order to hold on to the central. Most important...central vision. Docs were able to keep the fovea intact which is essential for daytime imaging or 'sight', distance vision, reading vision and lots of other 'stuff'.

How do I deal with other people? Some days I ask them If their Mom ever taught them it was not polite to stare...other days I ask if the person has any questions they'd like to ask...some days I'll ask if my hair turned out funny or unexpectedly turned green on me... depends on my mood, really. If you feel up to it...bring it up yourself..."Is my hair funny?" "Did my lipstick go weird while we were talking?" You will typically end up with what they were thinking about or seeing..."Oh no. It's just that the guy behind you is soooo cute."


Maybe they really are not looking at you. Maybe they are looking THROUGH you...possibly?

Although I lost my sight, I still graduated high school with honors, traveled to Birmingham, England to attend a semester of college (THAT was a really strange experience. Learned A LOT!). Earned FOUR Master's Degrees in Special Education and psychology and am running my own practice from a dr.'s office room that I rent one day a week. Periphera vision will never return and I am okay with that even though other people are uncomfortable with it. It is I who have to put them at ease, crack a funny...whatever it may take. I read about six books a month...Get books on tape through Library for the Blind. The question for me becomes: Are you ready to deal with me? I actually pity you sighted people only because there is a huge lack of understanding and sighted people tend to be too embarrassed to ask questions. Yet I go on. To find out more with what my vision is similar, just tear a toilet paper roll into three equal parts and hold one part up to your eye and cover completely the other eye.

I hope my story can shed some light on your question and assist you in some way.

Answer 6

You have to stop paying attention to them & feel good about yourself!! Everyone always look at others! You can't control what they feel or think!

If they don't know you then that is thier loss!!

Chin up!!

Answer 7

I think we all feel like that sometimes.

As you grow older, you'll find it gets easier to ignore it.

Answer 8

Lori, how the hell could anyone know what these girls are thinking? Come on now....

Answer 9

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Answer 10

do the same thing to them
HA itll show them