rather than the people who actually care? i have this problem but i dont know why
2006-09-18 12:23:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
It is possible that all you have ever been around is people who treat you badly, and you don't know anything different, so in a way you may be comfortable around them, not really realizing it.
You must believe that you are a worthy enough person to have better people in your life than the ones who are making it miserable for you.
God chose to put you here for a reason. And, I know it was not to be mistreated by your loved ones and friends.
Find that strength inside that tells you that you are a good person, worthy of being loved by another, and knowing that when you are being treated in a bad way, this person is showing you absolutely no respect. When you let people trample on you, you are also not being respectful to yourself. It is like seeing your sister getting hit by her boyfriend and you standing there doing nothing. This may be how you treat yourself, because you don't know any differently.
Sometimes, we just need time to be by ourselves, and figure out who we are and where we want to go from here. Would a little distance from these people be a good idea? Think about it, cuz in the end, they are not the ones getting hurt, you are hon...
When I was younger, my boyfriend had a dog who died. She was a pekingese. I had a best friend, and she had a best friend besides me. We three hung out together. But, this friend was so mean to me. She told me when Brandi died that she was an ugly dog anyway and I could get another one. She had no sense of compassion, and I did nothing. Tragically, she died when she was 31 years old. I miss her, yes, but I wish I could have stood up to her and told her that her behavior was very uncalled for and extremely disrespectful. Not having said anything to her before she died has altered the friendship I have today with my best friend.
If you feel the need to speak up, do it now. And walk away from the people who keep hurting you.
2006-09-18 14:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by rach_cast 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people think that they deserve to be treated badly. They don't think they are good enough, or that they deserve to be treated well. This can be from childhood issues of being bullied, name called, abused or neglected by parents or other caregivers, past relationships where the partner treated the person badly and managed to make the person think this is what they deserve. You should consider getting some counselling, and try to spend some time with someone who cares about you and makes you feel good about yourself. Or do some volunteer work, or join a group, do things that will make you proud and realise that you are a good person and you deserve to be treated with love and respect. Don't let anybody push you down.
2006-09-18 12:37:08 · answer #2 · answered by Fade__Out 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know i have this same problem, ive been in a married relationship for twelve years now and every year past the first one has been a living hell, i do not love him, he is verbally abusive,does not pay me any attention, does not care about anything that i like or that i may be interested in such as colors of things my favorite foods, i mean just anything, and i am sticking around like i really have a good man, when in reality i really just hate him,he has made me hate him by the things that he says to me, im gonna read what other people write to you so maybe i can get some answers too...
2006-09-18 12:31:01 · answer #3 · answered by uimblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you been in absuvive relationships are grown up in an abusive home? alot of times if that is the way you have been treated all your life thats what you have been used to. unfortunatly this is not healthy and i suspect you have a low self esteem/and are very untrusting of the other type of people the good ones the caring ones. the psychological term is co=dependency. you need to go and talk with a counselor and talk out these issues it is not an easy process but its the start of a much happier life for you!!!
2006-09-18 12:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are craving an unhealthy level of "excitement" (nice people seem too "boring" to you).
This usually results from some emotional trauma or violated boudaries while you were growing up.
If your can't kick the problem on your own (which is why you call it a "problem," right?), then you need to find a counsellor who can explore this with you and get you on the road to healthier relationships.
2006-09-18 12:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by Eric 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because this bad person convinces the good person no one else will ever love them,they cant find anyone else, they are ruined for life no one will have them the list goes on and on its like being in an abusive relationship the good person is convinced the bad person will change when they say im sorry it wont happen again but it always happens and the only way it will stop is when the good person gets fed up and the straw is broken and they leave the bad person for good then they see what they missed out on staying in this crazy relationship
2006-09-18 12:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by oceanlady580 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The challenge. Been there and wasted 3 years of living - and I've realized that it was all in the game. In the end - you'll end up kicking yourself in the butt - meanwhile there's probably someone who would love to love you. And you might love too.
2006-09-18 12:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by f1utterbyz75 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You probably do it to notice heaven by being in the presence of hell, so to speak. Actually... that can just be living well, in hell.
2006-09-18 14:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by unseen_force_22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are more afraid of the unknown then the garbage they know.
2006-09-18 12:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they feel that they dont deserve better, or like the punishment. I think you should leave him.
2006-09-18 12:25:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋