Alriight heres the deal.. I have a 2 year old daughter that seems to be going through the "terrible" stage.. She cries and whines constantly and its hard to get her to sleep.. and when she does sleep she often wakes up, thus making me have to go through the whole process again.
Her mother was killed in a car wreck a few months ago, and Im just wondering, am I doing anything wrong, or is it just the terrible stage? Also any ideas on how to calm her?
2006-09-18 12:00:51 · 14 answers · asked by Logan J 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Eventhough your daughter is young, she still misses her mommy. It is probably a mix between her age and the loss of her mother. Give her lots of love and have quality time with her after dinner. Have a special day in which you and her go out and do something together. Also, if her mother was a stay at home mom and she has now been placed with a provider, that is another change that she is coping with and special time with daddy is something she will look forward too. I wish you the best and things will get better.
2006-09-18 16:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by mcgrawm7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh...the Terrible Twos...I am living them right now lol I have a 2 year old daughter as well, and she went through the all night phase. A few things that might help are that i have a TV in her room. SHe can watch it at night as long as she stays in bed. I make her put all her toys away and close the lid on her toy box, so she cant get into it. And sometimes, when it gets relly bad, I will ask her if she wants a Poptart, her fave food. I tell her that we can only et those at breakfast, so the sooner she goes to sleep, the sooner she gets a Poptart lol. Some of my friends used the "lights out" method, but i read in a parenting magazine that the method can cause a fear of darkness in children. Luckily my daughter doesn't wake up. Once she is out, she is OUT lol...I hope this helps =)
2006-09-18 19:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by Hailey B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is most likely missing her mom, even though she doesn't have the words for what she is feeling. Just try to hold her and read to her at night. The best thing to do is to get into a routine, like about an hour before bedtime give her a bath, read a couple of stories, a healthy snack, etc. It will take a while, but eventually she will start winding down when starting these activities.
2006-09-18 19:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2to 3 is a hard age. if they can get away with it they will do. Ignor the tantrums, however hard it is, If they want to pull all the tins off the shelves in the supermarket and scream and cry, you must not make a big deal of it! As 4 loosing her mother most of us dont remember the first years of our lives yet if your a baby and all your with is your mother well the only person who forgives every sin is not god. it is your mother. ur not doing anything wrong
2006-09-18 19:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by helen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the step mother, I suppose? If you are a new addition to the family, give it some time. If you are the child's mother, then this too shall pass. Lots of patience and lots of love will help immensely. Kepp putting her back and it sounds cruel but if she stays in bed, then let her cry herself to sleep. This will teach her how to calm herself down enough to sleep. If you keep going in there, you are training the child not to sleep without you.
2006-09-18 21:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by MJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the child sleep on you, with you. close skin contact is going to settle her down. Do not over-stimulate her when it is bedtime. Begin being quiet and slow before bedtime, for 15 or more minutes, so she can wind down...darken the room, have things turned off or real quiet.
If she hates her crib, allow her to sleep on the couch or your bed. If she does not settle, hold your hand softly on he body. Some children like touch and relax. Remain close until she falls asleep. If she is hyper at nap time, just rock her to sleep, hold her, rock her and simply talk or read to her.
2006-09-18 19:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by schnikey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably a little of both. If she isn't seeing a counselor yet make an appointment with one. I know it seems like she's a little young, but she may benefit. They can work with all ages and even if your daughter can't really talk yet the counselor can help you both deal with this. Good Luck.
2006-09-18 19:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by JL's Mom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she probably misses her mom but doesnt know how to voice her feeling due to her age continue with gentle care, establish routines she can count on give her a picture of her mommy and dont be afraid to talk to her about her mom just because she is 2 doesnt mean she has no feelings towards the void she must be feeling. good luck
2006-09-18 19:05:23 · answer #8 · answered by cameron b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the terrible twos!!!- just give her a cuddle- this stage doesn't last forever- try giving her a bath before bedtime with lavendar bubble bath get into a good routine you can keep to- good luck!!
2006-09-18 19:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call supernanny(jk). ur kids are at a stage where they get mad and cranky a lot. make her have a nap time so that she gets less cranky. if she gets mad for no reasons leave her in a room to cry and yell by herself to calm herself down. that is so she knows not to cry to get attention. if it gets really bad see a professional.
2006-09-18 19:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by fukuoka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋