I don't even remeber what its like being single again. Im trying to figure out how im going to pick my feet up and do everything all over again. I feel like ****. Im about to brake it off with my boyfriend becuase were fighting so much about everything and mostly our daughter that he wants to take her but im not willing to let her go at all. There just so much drama there. So what do you do when your in this spot?
2006-09-18 12:00:02 · 15 answers · asked by Kristy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My daughter is a year old. my b/f want to take her to go see her aunt but i wont allow it b/c her aunt does drugs. am much as im asking what its like being single, i know i will never be single having my daughter was next to my side. guy or men come and go your kids don't. she mean everything and will always be my 1st thing to always take great care of.
2006-09-18 12:16:15 · update #1
I have no kids but I recently ended a 9 yr realtionship and the old saying when time heals wounds its true it does so hang in there and know life will get better
2006-09-18 12:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Get a good lawyer. You will need one regarding your child. You may both have to consider placing her in a loving environment, because of the arguing.
2. Join life and bite the bullet. Things happen and you just have to handle them as an adult.
3. I think you need a third, objective party to decide and help you both how to behave in a beneficial way for your child. It is no longer about you and him — it's all about your child.
4. No one is 100% right, so compromises will have to be made. No arguing in front of the child. This can be very traumatizing.
5. If neither you nor he can control yourselves, then maybe you both need to put your child in a loving home where she has a chance for a happy home environment.
6. Your and his selfish control problem of ownership needs to be recognized. Neither one of you thought about the consequences of a pregnancy out of wedlock, and he, nor you, have done anything about marriage.
7. Raising a child may be out of your league right now. You need to learn to take care of yourself as a single person, and not be needy. Self-sufficiency will make you a stronger person.
8. Always think of the child's welfare first and foremost! You both are playing with her future well-being. Be responsible.
Good luck and warm regards.
2006-09-18 19:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by mitch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
4 years! try 12 years. At first you are a little numb with the whole breaking up thing. You get so used to that someone being around then POOF! But you have to remember what you did to catch that one in the first place. (try not to catch another one just like the first OK?) There are a lot of good people out there, just look around. And don't sell yourself short!
2006-09-18 19:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by matthew p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your not married and you are the birth mother and unless he can prove your unfit then go get lawyer and seperate from him and file for childsupport orders and begin again if this is what you want the most but let him be a father if hes a good one . it takes two to raise a child . if you want to stop this argueing and drifting apart and salvage this relationship seek counseling and both of you must want to fix this before this will work . ask yourself do i love him if answer is no then maybe it always was no and you must get out . but if its yes then find out if he feels same if he dose then its worth the try to fix this . when he realizes he may lose you then he might feel different about this situation . good luck
2006-09-18 19:12:14 · answer #4 · answered by sigmond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is strange. Single guys are so different even 5 yrs ago. I am having ahard time because evry guy who asks me out just wants to do it or get me drunk. I have not dated anyone in 4 years because i am so old fashioned and a good girl and all these guys are trying to rush things. very overwhelming for me. I just decided to go back to school and focus on that.
The whole sex in the city style of dating is not for me and not fulfilling.
2006-09-18 19:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by pyt_tlc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have never been single, I have always had a bf. I have been with mine for 5 years.. but if i was single.. I would get together a group of friends (girls).. go to a bar and have a girls night out.. single guys approach a group of girls having a good time..
2006-09-18 19:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child should be your first concern, to heck with what you feel your daughter should come first in your life. I think it really sucks that you are concerned about what its like to be single when you have a child and are not married.
What a role model either of you is to this child. What about the child's need for an intact family, security, and overall well being?
2006-09-18 19:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you should let him take your daughter at least for a weekend or something. unless u have a really good reason not to let him take her. i understand it is prolly really hard to let him take her, but she is going to grow up and make her own decisions. you'll have to let go eventually... why not for at least a day? he does have a right to see her too! at least let him take her for the day and bring her home at a certain time if you can't stand it for the night. it will give you a chance to go out there and meet someone new. and you'll be able to move on a little better!
2006-09-18 19:10:14 · answer #8 · answered by playful_kitty_003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship for 15 years and being single again is fabulous........so much less stress than being in a bad relationship. Go out, have fun.
2006-09-18 19:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank lord I didn't have kids when I got divorced... It was hard, no question about it; but things get better. Take care of yourself, have friends and family help you. There's light at the end of the tunnel, hang in there, things do get better.
2006-09-18 19:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋