problem! i dont think i am able to live anymore!?

Question

i am a chubby girl. at school people are always tripping me and calling me fat. i have no friends. at the dance a girl threw coke all over my dress i spent years saving for it with my bank account. i a an orphan and i dont know what to do. the one thing i am good at is singing but kids just are so cruel. i a cant go on any longer. my one friend has ditched me and left me alone. help!

Answer 1

Being fat or not having friends is not your real problem.Your real problem is that you dont know what you want to do with life.
Life is not just about having great friends or being popular.

Decide what you want to achieve in life ('achieve' not just 'do')

Once you have your goals set you would be a much stronger person. I am telling you this from my personal experience . I was exactly like you fat and unpopular. I was about 14 when a personal tragedy forced me to have this kind of talk with myself .It was very hard but believe me it can be done.

Just sit down and decide upon one thing that you want to be good at. Think of it this way ...15-20 years from now when you go to your school reunion, what would make you feel the most comfortable and in control. There's only one answer SUCCESS. now all you have to do is to decide about what kind of success. Do you want to be a singer,doctor, a millionaire businesswoman.

And about being fat. Being fat is not like belonging to a particular race or religion. It's just a state of your body . YOU CAN change it. Stop calling yourself a chubby girl.

Answer 2

I'm not exactly on the thin side either but I don't have thoughts like that. People are ALWAYS going to be biotchy. Do you go to church? If you do sing in the choir and put your pretty voice to good use! If not, you should think about going, it's a great way to meat people who won't care what you look like (at least if they are telling the truth when they say they love the Lord). And as for the dress, were you crazy? I would never ever save money for a DRESS. But that's me, I wouldn't have been at the dance in the first place. In the friends department I' kinda have the same prob. I have friends but because my dad was military they live in different states and so when he retired and we settled down, i couldn't make any more. But people at my school always tell me how nice I am. As for the teasing, just think of something so nice that it doesn't matter, I know it might be hard, but try. And for the person who teases you, just feel sorry for them, i mean, really, have they got nothing better than to make other ppl feel bad? There lives must really suck to try to infringe on yours. That friend who ditched you is so not a friend if she ditched you. THink of some bad qualites about him/her, think that you ditched them instead. Are you in high school? If you are or even if you're in middle school dont worry, it does not last forever, in a few years those biotchy ppl could end up kissing your feet, so to speak. But its not the end, If you ever need some1 to talk to click on my profile. You are able to live! The world needs everyone who is in it, including you!

Answer 3

As an adult myself, I can tell you that adults can be cruel as well. But you should know that these people who make fun of you for whatever reason is because they are insecure too. Meaning they have problems too and they just like to cover up their problem by being jerks and teasing others.
My mom used to tell me "Whatever doesn't kill you, will only make you stronger!" This means you should be using their teasing as your fuel to make yourself better. Since you're good at singing, go see your music teacher about maybe singing in a school show or play. See if your music teacher will be your friend or coach and help you be a great singer. And then everytime someone teases you or trips you (or anything cruel) and you feel down, sad or angry, use that sad feeling or anger and put it in your voice. Turn that bad feeling into something you really love... singing.
As for your weight, a lot of kids have "baby fat" that last well into teenage years so eventually, you'll get thinner naturally. If you see yourself as having a "weight problem", then talk to an adult to help you loose weight by eating healthy and exercising and being more active. The most important thing to remember is: You must want to change yourself before anyone can help you change you. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

I think that you can live. The thing that matters is what you are doing with your life, not theirs. If a girl spills a coke on your dress that either means that you are not nice to her or it means that she is a mean girl. Telling by your story it seems that it is her problem, not yours. To have a dance at school means that you have to at least be in 6th or 7th grade, so you wont have to live with it long. When I was in early junior high I hated it, but now I am in 8th and I have the best friends ever! If you are in high school you wont have much more of it. So go out into the world and make a professional image of yourself. Remember never leave your house without a smile!

Answer 5

Try not to let what other people say about you get to you. I know that seems hard to do, but it will help with your sad feelings. No matter how bad it seems things will always get better. If singing is what makes you happy then do it, who cares what anyone else says. When I was in high school I had bad acne and I felt like it would never go away; but now i am 20 and have nice skin. Patience is a virtue. Your time of happiness will come, don't give up.

Answer 6

First off all those other people are morons. School is a place where people get together and try to say they are better than everyone else. They only do that because they don't have good enough morals. Use your singing talent. You can go a long ways with that. Pray to God and go to Him and ask for help. Read the Bible and keep going to God and learn that what others do doesn't matter, because they will meet God later and have to deal with Him. So don't get all down, just remember there is hope and all those other people are idiots for what they do.

Answer 7

Go and talk to a counselor ASAP, sweetheart. Kids your age can be very cruel, I remember only too well, and you need some help dealing with their meanness. Suicide is truly a PERMANENT solution to a TEMPORARY problem. Keep up your singing; many famous singers are not skinny and need a bit of weight to help support their voice , for example Mariah Carey and JLO. Neither is thin, nor are Renee Zellwinger, Oprah, Camryn Manheim and others. In time you may well be able to lose the extra weight; but cruel, shallow people usually stay cruel and shallow. Twenty years later they only get more sour, believe me. Please find someone to talk to SOON my dear. I wish you all the very best.

Answer 8

I know how you feel, I used to be fat and ugly to until I was about 15-16. People used to always prank my house and leave mean messages on my answering machine. I used to come home crying every day, and I didnt think that I could take it anymore. My mom got me a depression doctor, and I went to her for about 2 years 1 time a week, and she helped me through it. I lost 20 pound by walking every day(a few times), and eating healthy. I bought some new make-up, and walked in at the beginning of the year, like a whole new woman! I had friends for quite a long time. I became a cheerleader, and was one of the most popular girls in school, dating all the hott guys, and everyone wanted to be me! But then people just starting ditching me again and being mean. So my last resort was to get homeschooled. Now I do all my work off the internet, and all my "friends" wondered where I went. Now they all miss me and try to call me, and I just say sorry. You had you chance to be my friends and you ruined it!!! Now Im not saying to drop out of school, and not talk to your friends, but try what I did first, and Im sure that will work. Just act like you rule everything, and arent scared of anyone! If it doesnt work. Just find friends that arent going to be mean to you like that, even if they arent the popular ones, because let me tell you what. As much as you want to be popular, once you are, your not going to want to be anymore, because they actually get looked down upon, because most of them are mean, and only talk to people in their "clique". You want to be someone whos independent, and likes everyone!!! I hope this helps, and sorry for writing so much...!!!!!!!!! Good Luck Girlie!!!!
P.S- if you need a friend to talk to you can e-mail me at [e-mail], my name is Tayler!

Answer 9

Life can be very cruel for girls and boys that don't fit in a certain mold. As you said in your note, you are good at singing and you should explore outlets and opportunities for that. Your time at school is short and I do believe that the challenges life has thrown at you will make you a stronger person if you allow them to. Believe me, I know what it is like to be teased by other kids because I didn't fit into that perfect mold either - quite frankly - no one does. The consequences of ending your life are permanent, while your chances of proving the other kids wrong- exploring your talents in spite of the obstacles can take you to places you might have never imagined. You are the kind of girl that people root, cheer and clap for (because at one time or another - we have all been there).. the kind that movies are made of.. I wish you all the very best life has to offer!

Answer 10

Im sorry that kids are so cruel. I had Tourettes growing up so i was always the butt of people's jokes. its very hard but just keep being a wonderful person and people will like you. Try making new friends and invite some other girls over that your not used to hanging around. there are others that are just as miserable as you and dont have anyone to talk to either. make sure others pay for there actions by telling a teacher or principle so there parents know what they are doing and they get punished. dont ever let them get away with treating you so poorly. keeping your mouth shut wont make them like you anymore. it will just make them continue there horrible behavior. i hope things get better for you.