I seem to have had a string of bad luck with men- they seem great at first, then they lack on follow thru and end up being winers and i end up trying to help them out of their own bullshit. then i have to say see ya.
2006-09-18 11:45:26 · 12 answers · asked by dpegra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't. They, along with the good ones will be attracted to you. The trick is to sort 'em out. Develop standards and insist on them, require that they respect and honor you and your needs and desires, go slowly to develop relationships, and search for deal breakers very carefully. You'll do well.
2006-09-18 11:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, you aren't "attracting" losers. There are just a lot of them out there. It's unbelievable that so many people have great things going for them, but they are incapable of keeping all those promises they make and wind up all mouth and no backbone.
I have always believed in "Show, don't tell." Anyone can run their mouth and brag and TELL you all about themselves--I say show it, sweetheart, or go find someone bored enough to listen to your line.
You have to realize, some very intelligent men have no concept of what matters most to women, in every age group. And 98% of them are positive that if they throw nonstop sex at you, that's all you want. Sure, in your teens, 20s and 30s, you want attention. You want to be adored, to be special, and the nitty gritty wild monkey sex.
But in their 40s and 50s, women have discovered it's very easy to get laid. Invites come from all directions, and worst yet, we're supposed to be flattered by an invitation to a motel or an apartment while the wife's out of town. Oh wow, I am swooning with desire, you moron.
Instead, this age group wants to be appreciated. If you cook dinner for him and buy new sheets, you would be eternally grateful if the idiot volunteered to fix that broken lock or spark plug or whatever. Instead, they still seem to think that all women want is that power pack in their jeans, and that it's really something special and original. Yeah, right.
If the smart ones would think of a more novel approach to holding our attention--- like re-hanging that door or taking the dog to the park or buying dinner and bringing it to your house! (Whoa, now there's an original ploy!!!), we would have a great deal more respect for him as a man, and a person. Therefore we would want to share some intimate time with him and rock his socks off and everyone would be happy.
It also sounds like you are a fixer, a mama type. Most women do have that nurturing instinct, and there are plenty of guys who will take advantage of it. Be nice to yourself and get a dog for a friend and some lady toys for your entertainment, until the right guy comes along who will really appreciate all that effort you put into a relationship.
You can't find the right guy if you're wasting time with the losers. IF the right guy sees you with a loser, he'll keep going. Stop looking so hard for SOMEone and wait for THE one.
Good luck.
2006-09-18 19:18:48 · answer #2 · answered by Charlotte M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard women ask the same thing and when I looked at their life it was a mess.
I think it is more likely that you need to find your own place in life first.
Quit looking outside yourself and take some time all by yourself just to get to know yourself.
Find a way to truly know yourself, what drives you, what motivates you. What is it you are really looking for.
I have learned that unless you complete your own personal circle you will be doomed to find someone else just as incomplete as yourself.
It is only when you complete your own personal circle will you attract someone that is themself complete.
Then and only then will you find a good relationship with both people complete in themselves.
2006-09-18 18:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you and me both the next time the guy starts to whine do not help him out tell him until he can grow up and solve his own problems u are not going to be his mother you did not birth him and he needs to grow up and be a MAN not a Baby so get rid of him before he starts to lean on you to solve his problems and next time a guy starts to get all weepy tell him its been real but u are no longer in the baby sitting business !!
2006-09-18 18:49:23 · answer #4 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask more questions up front and take your time in getting into a relationship.
2006-09-18 18:48:19 · answer #5 · answered by VeeateU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh...i will be reading the answers....I have the same **** happen...a lot. and you know what I think...there are no men left who aren't that way...so everyone you meet will be like that. Women these days are way more independent than men are.
2006-09-18 18:48:47 · answer #6 · answered by You're giving it all away! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you find out what are you doing wrong?
Is it the way you dress?
Or is it the places you go?
You have to make modifications to something.
2006-09-18 18:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by Carlos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get to know them before you date them . dont rush into anything just be friends for a while until you see if he is a good guy or not.
2006-09-18 18:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shave your head, You wont attract anybody then
2006-09-18 18:48:10 · answer #9 · answered by rockymountainboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See ya!
2006-09-18 18:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋