2006-09-18 11:34:52 · 33 answers · asked by j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
my husband is at work the house is clean and supper is already ready
2006-09-18 11:38:44 · update #1
I feel that if you have made it this far together whatever you're doing is working so keep it up.
2006-09-18 11:36:02 · answer #1 · answered by Amy >'.'< 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Always be his advocate, at least in public. If you have to disagree with him, do so in privacy. When you are out of sorts with him, do small niceties for him anyway. It really changes your attitude, changes his too.
If he is messier than you, live with it. If it is really important to you, clean it yourself. If any two people live together, one is inevitably messier than the other. Find a compromise amount of clutter that you both can maintain and be comfortable with.
If each of you give 75% and each take what you perceive to be 50%, you will be fine. Find something that both of you think is hilarious, and do it when things get tense.
Be his best friend. Accept him for the whole package of what he is, faults and all. Learn your faults and accept that they are yours. Work to improve them, as he will also, but do not expect perfection. Work on a strategy to complement each other, where one is weak in an area, the other develop strength, and vice versa. Learn to chose your words carefully if you have an issue with something.
My husband has a chronically cluttered desk. It really bothers me. I will say, you know that clutter really jangles my nerves, and looking at it makes me anxious and kinda cranky. Can we have a date of about an hour later to pick it up together? We might just feel like doing *something* else together afterward. It took me several years to develop that approach, by trial and error, and guess what, it works, and it works every time (he usually does it himself). So much better than the tension of an argument or nagging.
Print off in a nice font what is on this website. Frame it and put it somewhere nearby. http://hobbes.ncsa.uiuc.edu/desiderata.html
Congratulations on your recent nuptials. Best wishes.
2006-09-18 11:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by finaldx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! The only advice I will try to give you is BE HAPPY! Because this is a new beginning for you and the most enjoyable moment in your life. Always cherish this moment forever as long as you live. I wish you much the best throughout the rest of your life and happiness.
2006-09-18 11:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!! And please, no matter what, place this information at the top of your "things to remember list".... My advice is:
No matter what, never never assume to know what your husband is going to say, or what he is thinking. Ive been married 11 years and have been to hell and back 5 or 6.........Thousand times.... We married after only knowing each other for 4 weeeks.... Weve been through drug abuse, lying, secrets, pretty much everything you can imagine...with the exception of infidelity... And I have come to the conclusion that a lot of our fights are due to improper assumptions on both of our parts... Hope it helps.....
2006-09-18 11:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by The Curious One 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First get off the computer. Then go enjoy some you time. Then revel in the fact your ~~~~~HUBBY~~~~~~ is home. Snuggle up after dinner, and be greatful that you've found each other.
2006-09-18 12:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by Skanky McSkankypants 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, stay off Answers! What a waste of time for a "new bride"!!!
2006-09-19 01:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first congratulations!!! Marriage takes work...there will be times you will be thinking what have i done...but its through the hard times that makes your love even stronger. just put god first and never put each other down are the others family and make decisions together.marriage isnt always sugar and spice and eerything nice..but its what you both make of it...good luck
2006-09-18 11:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by sparkling_blueeyed_tinkerbell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing really changes unless u havent lived 2gether b4 hand -may the honeymoon never end congratulations!!just remember hes only a man...lol compromise and more compromise ...
2006-09-18 11:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by sarah71397 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off the computer and go get busy with your husband.
2006-09-18 11:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats! just keep comunication open even when fighting.thats about all i can say im going through divorce so the rest of my advice could get u in trouble lol
2006-09-18 11:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by eddie w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pull your hat down low, keep your head in the well and don't think about nothing but the ride !
2006-09-18 11:37:12 · answer #11 · answered by noname 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋