He is alway helping his female friends with their cars.
I don't feel special cause he is helping me. I don't feel like he is taking care of me, I am simply falling into this category of a helpless female that he is used to fulfilling. I don't want to be in a category, I want to be in my own category and i want him to take care of me cause I'm special, not because, that's just what he does.
Does this make ANY sense to you other mature single parents out there that are used to being independent?
2006-09-18 11:31:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be yourself
2006-09-18 18:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do men always want to fix things??? They never really want to listen and sympathize they just want to find the answer to your problem. Your independence is precious -- do not give it up and trust your own instincts. Do your own research about getting a new car and make your own decision. If you had a particular question you think he might have the answer to, ask him. Otherwise, he shouldn't be part of the decision-making unless he is also part of the payment-making!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-18 18:36:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I applaud your desire to remain independent. It is to be admired. I suggest you let him assist you in finding a car you eventually purchase but do not let him put any money toward it. You are not a hapless female looking for handouts and you want to drive that point home. Make sure the car you get is one YOU can afford.
Not necessarily in this situation, but your new beau is displaying a common tactic of getting his significant other to begin to depend on him, thereby making them feel obligated.
None of that for you!
If he truly cares...let him find ways to show you with merit, honor and character.
2006-09-18 18:45:30 · answer #3 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is special to you then let him give you his opinion and if you like it use it. If not don't. It's going to be your car. I went with my ex-wife and helped her choose a car. She totaled her other one too. If this is about the car no problem, if it's about your independence you have to deal with that. Is he making the decision for you? I don't think so. Use him for what he's good for.
2006-09-18 18:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by Dorkboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're being a little silly.
Being mature means you can graciously accept help from someone and be thankful. It has nothing to do with being "helpless" it's about being smart.
Now make up your mind- are you independent or do you "want him to take care of me"
2006-09-18 18:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him help because if you go out and get a lemon that would suck unless your gona buy a new one off the lot male input, and presences really makes a difference. Just buy a car that is alright but not something he would buy just to show you have your own opinion.
2006-09-18 18:34:44 · answer #6 · answered by Sandra 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would let him help u if he wants. find other things to make ur relationship special and u dont have to feel less independant to let someone help out!
2006-09-18 18:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by eddie w 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well how long have you known him for? may be he needs to get to know you better, if it warrks out for both of you hopefully he will get to know you better and treat you differently give it some time, talk & get to know each other better.
2006-09-18 18:38:23 · answer #8 · answered by gris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres independence and being an as*, he might have knowledge about cars or terms.... calm down
2006-09-18 18:36:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋