My fiancee has been at navy boot camp for a week. I have questions about mail.?

Question

What am I allowed to send him? How often can he write me? When are they allowed to write? If he has been gone a week, when should I expect a letter?

Answer 1

afterboot camp. he wont feel like writing for a few weeks. he probably wont have anytime to hisself for a few weeks. you can write to me tho ;-)

Answer 2

I'm not real sure about Navy, but Marine Corps, they can write whenever they have free time. Each night, you sailor should have sometime to get his stuff together, fix uniform, write letters, polish boots..etc. Your sailor really won't need anything other than letters and pictures. There is no room for anything else.They aren't allowed junk food and so forth. Just write letters and send some pictures(make sure they are the kind you won't mind if shared). It may take a few weeks to get letters, it runs a little slower than normal. Hopefully you get more than 2 letters, they have enough time to write. I wrote a letter a day, to friends and family. If you want to send something but don't know if you can ask your sailor, he should know what he can and can't have. As for any kind of communication, don't expect calls. They don't get to use phones.

Answer 3

You can send him letters and photos, no naked ones though. Well, you can send him naked ones it's just that, they could get taken away or stolen and then someone else will have a nudie pic of you, and who wants that kind of violation of privacy. You can write him as often as you like, and I highly reccomend writing often. I wrote my husband up to 5x a day, literally, sometimes. He felt loved the most. When he was out in the field and only got mail 2x the whole 2 weeks he was gone, he got 39 of my letters at once! Oh yes, he was quite busy on his "fee" time, if he had any. He didn't get to read some until he was half way through with officer candidate school and even then I wrote him a cr@p load. About expecting letters. I didn't get my first letter from my husband until 2 1/2 weeks into basic. I had gotten a total of 8 letters from him during his 9 weeks in BCT. They're busy 18 hours a day, the rest their sleeping. When they write it's because they were alloted like 30 minutes to write a letter. Don't get upset, just keep writing to him, keep them positive as much as possible. He's dealing with enough sh!t, and he'll love you and admire you for not being any reason for him to be upset. trust me. My hubby went straight to OCS then OBC and we spent the first year of our marriage apart. It's tough but you'll get through it. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 4

Unless BCT has changed over the past 4 yrs, the only thing you can send are letters/cards. Honestly, that is the BEST thing. Oh, and photos...but make sure they are not of a pornographic nature....!
He can write as often as his personal time is allowed. They are to be given a certain amount of personal time each night....it will vary from day to day due to Training. As for when you will get a letter, that all depends on the Postal Service! Hopefully you have received a call by now. If not, contact his family and see if they have heard anything from him.

Answer 5

To be safe, until you do hear from him, send just cards and letters. I'm not sure how it is now, but they let us write just about anytime we had some extra time to do so. Now, keep in mind that extra time is also used for smoking, shining boots, and anything else you haven't gotten done earlier. You should get a letter soon if he has time. If you don't hear from him, don't panic, just keep writing to him. He will write when he has time. Usually in the 5th week they are allowed to make a phone call, so he may call you then, if they still do that. My boot camp experience was in 1982 so things have probably changed since then.

Answer 6

He can write you every day if he wants. You should expect a letter from him in either his 1st or 2nd week if not it's his fault not the navies. I would send only the letter itself until he asks for something himself although he can get just about anything he needs there. If you haven't heard anything by the third week I would really cuss him out when he calls which he'll be able to do on sundays. If you haven't heard from him by the 3rd week send a letter to the commanding officer of his boot camp and he will send a memo and maybe a gentle nudge for him to get writing.

Answer 7

I was in boot camp at NTS Orlando back in 1990. I don't know if things have changed, but we were given stationary at the beginning of our second week of basic. Trust me, he has been so inundated with information and things to do in the first week, don't be surprised if in his first letter he complains of only sleeping a total of a few hours during the first week. In his letter he should let you know what you can send him. Pictures and love notes are a great thing to send, and I know that hasn't changed. When you think of him during the day, grab a post-it and jot down a few words to him, then send those post-its in your letters. He is going to need all of your support, and he is going to need to know that you are still there for him. I was married when I first went into the service. It is going to be very difficult for him and for you. The Navy is probably the most difficult branch of the service on relationships and families. My wife used to send me cookies for everyone, that was the stipulation, if someone sent you food they had to send enough for everybody. He can write to you when he has time, there is no set day or anything that they give to write to family. He will be very busy, so don't expect a letter every few days or even every week. Write him as often as you can though. Remember, just because he may not write to you does not mean anything, I think I wrote a total of three to five letters to my wife. It was such a change in schedule for me that I spent most of my spare time catching up on sleep. God bless you and your fiancee and good luck.

GO NAVY!!!!!!!!!!
USS Harry S Truman

Answer 8

I'm not sure how Navy bootcamp works, since my hubby went to USMC boot, but I think they're all in all about the same when it comes to writing and calling. When my hubby was gone, he wrote me one or two letters... and that was near the end of his 13 weeks. He called once, the week before he came home and it was only for about 2 minutes. My friend's husband got to call her a little more, but still, it's sparse. Send him a lot of letters, try to make him feel like he's still a part of your life even though he's gone. Send pictures, but nothing graphic. I hope you do get more mail than what I got, but if not... don't fret. Join some Yahoo groups for military spouses, they're the best. Good luck!!!

Answer 9

He will write you in a week or so with all of his information he will also be sending his parents/or you a packet of info about what is going on and how to contact if family emergency. He will be able to write whenever there is free time which is typically on Sun morning. You can send care packages but they are inspected before he can use whatever you send him so nothing with drug paraphernalia or sexual pics or all that stuff. Send all the support you can he will need it! Good Luck if you need anything or any other questions answered IM me.

Answer 10

Well, I have been in now for 17 years but I did recently finnish a recruiting tour. It will be awhile before you get one back, the culture shock itself will hamper him writing anything. You however should write him every day!!!! Trust me contact from loved ones is crucial. As far as what to send, start with cards and letters, ask him what he can recieve, if he is allowed by his RDC's to get cookies and such be sure to send enough for 80 people to share, they will make him share. other than that its good, just remember dont send anything you wouldn't want others to see. Pics....etc... And remember if you dont hear from him in awhile it doesn't mean he has forgotten you.

Answer 11

from my understanding u are only allowed to send him letters. He will be able to send u letters every sunday, because they have liberty on sundays form 7am-1pm. Since he has been gone a week give him about 2 to 3 weeks for him to send you a letter. The first 48hrs he gets there will be pretty hectic and he won't have time to write, also it takes about a week for them to send mail out. My boyfriend left Aug.17 and i didn't get a letter until Sept.5. The letter was dated Aug 31st but i got it on the 5th. Good luck to ya.