my best friend whom i am like practically in luv w/ asked me out but i only come to find out that he was playin w/ me , he was hopin i said no coz his cousin like is in luv w/ me i bareley know him and he wants me to go out / him so im like no way ...!!!! i got real confused the night my best friend asked me out i think he is a jerk and i say i forgive him but the more i even think about him i get even more pissed off !!! why cant i forgive him ???? well he knows i like him and i know he likes me .... but i ask my-self why would a so called best friend do sme thing like this he pisses me off to no end and i think i might be over reacting !!!! am i or am i not ?
should i forgive him or not ? should i be mad ? plz tell me ...........
thanks !!!!!!!!
2006-09-18 10:58:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah thats a messed up thing to do especially if he knew u liked him. u cant forgive him because ur feelings are nothing to play around with and thats what he did. i guess u can forgive him but let him know that things like that should not be messed around with because what he is doing is not caring about ur feelings which doesnt make him a good friends neways.
2006-09-18 11:02:52 · answer #1 · answered by Jaime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he had no right to ask you out if he had no intention of actually following through. If this guy is really your best friend you should aways be able to forgive them, even if they did cross a major line. Forget about his cousin, if you have no feelings then thats not your fault. Right now you need to concentrate on mending your friendship with your best friend, and once you've done that you need to discuss this issue and figure out where each of you stands on the matter or dating one another.
2006-09-18 11:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always leave room for forgiveness!
Jesus forgave those who put him on the cross. Why can't we simpletons forgive little infractions?
Right now, your situation seems very serious, but a lot of it falls on how young you are right now. Give guys time to grow up. You just have to give guys a little time to mature, then communication will be clearer and the romance will be better matches.
Just stay friends with all for now and move on to focus on more important matters (like your future - education, work and such).
Good luck to you!
=)
2006-09-18 11:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to forgive and release the anger towards him and set down and take a time out and pray about this and the Lord will show you the right decision but first you will have to forgive with your heart.
2006-09-18 11:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should forgive him and try asking him out if you're really serious about being in LOVE with him. Then when you 2 are married u can look back and laugh at it. Like, "REMEMBER THE TIME U ASKED ME OUT AND I THOUGHT U WERE SERIOUS? I WAS SO PISSED OF AT U!" LMAO.
2006-09-18 11:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by Baby G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to be mad when you have someone to mess with your emotions. Just explain to him how you feel and how he hurt you, It is best to let it go and forgive him. I know it is easier said than done, but the more you hold it in the more it will eat away at you.
2006-09-18 11:02:55 · answer #6 · answered by Josh S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your feelings are from being set up and then dumped it's hard to forgive turn about is fair play they say ask the cousin out and forget this guy . once hurt shame on him twice hurt shame on me. sounds like he dosen't want you and he dosen't want any one else to go with you . he has you hanging on a string .just in case he might need a girl friend
2006-09-18 11:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by dalecollins64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should forgive him. But the fact that he played you pissed you off. Tell him how you feel about what he did to you. He needs to grow up obviously.
2006-09-18 11:02:01 · answer #8 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many things in life can upset us.
You just need to reason which ones you choose to let yourself get upset over.
He did not tick you off.
You allowed yourself the emotion.
Therefore, you let him run your life.
Stop it!!
I am sure you are worth more than your selling yourself at in the current scheme of things.
2006-09-18 11:02:50 · answer #9 · answered by leftturnclyde152521 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jus a lil, when you see yo frind jus say hi and by dont conversate wit him so he will know no to play wit you like that no more..then after,youshould forgive him ,when he ask you why you aint talking to you tell him and he wont do that anymore
2006-09-18 11:02:26 · answer #10 · answered by Just Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋