Do mothers who think their style of being "mommy" is law and gospel annoy and irritate you?

Question

They irritate the living daylights out of me. I just came in from talking to a neighbor I try to avoid because her hooligan 3 year old son has the tendency to break into my house and take things. Anyway, despite her childs behavior, she found it necessary to give me a lecture about how my 6 year old son should not be allowed on the trampoline because they are dangerous for kids under 8, and how she'd never allow her kids to have a trampoline...and blah blah blah....yes sir, yes sir, 3 bags full.

It makes me think about the cyber personalities I encounter here who beleive all of us who have ever used formula for our babies should be crucified and stoned, along with the more traditional methods of parenting that are always taking a sucker punch up here (ie: spankings, firm talks, loss of priveledges, manual labor, increased chores).

She also beleives I am abusing my son by making him pull weeds for an hour after homework for not cleaning his room and smart mouthing me. Whatever.

Yeah, she knows the squirt comes into my home uninvited. Usually through an open window, unlocked screen door, or even the garage. It's pretty scary because he uses chairs to reach in the cabinets and my husband has heavy narcotic pain medicine for his back in there, and if that pipsqueak got into it and I was out in the yard, it would be my fault, and I'd be in trouble even though he's in the wrong.

Answer 1

sounds like that lady ain't had no bringin' up. she could take a lesson from you. keep the kid working . that is good for him. he will appreciate it when he is older. good luck

Answer 2

Start by locking your doors. Then tell that boys mother that the next time he comes in uninvited you'll call the police to report a B&E. He needs a good scare (not that the cops will do much of that anymore - but just them showing up might get him to p*ss his pants!).
I'm lucky. I don't have too many people who tell me how I should raise my son IRL - I only get it here. But I do have to ask you - don't you do the same thing? When asked how you would react when you saw a child having a public tantrum you said:

"A.

I cannot stand people's bad assed kids in public. Good God, leave their delinquent asses at home with a babysitter if they cannot maintain minimal decorum in a public setting. I can understand a bit of skipping or singing some loud silly songs or playing a game, but blatent disrespect to a parent or obnoxious misbehavior? That is such a sign that the parents have given the kids NO home training whatsoever, and the kids are like untrained dogs in public. Apt to run wild and not listen to anything or anybody.

If this is cute to some people, they just have issues."

Choice A being: stare and make comments - it this the same thing that you are complaining about? Don't dish it out if you can't eat it yourself.

I have recently become very sensitive to the word should or shouldn't - whether it comes out of my mouth or into my ears. When people tell me I should do something I ask them to prove it to me - even my husband.

Answer 3

This made my hair stand on end. Who the hell does she think she is, telling you ANYTHING--ANY_THING!!!!!!-- when her kid(s) are out of freaking control???
Personally, if you have your son pulling weeds, that's great, I think. It gives him some structure, and, you know what? He's your kid and he's IN HIS OWN YARD!!!!!! (send him over sometime, I have some weeds out by the boat that need pulling....;) ) but seriously, if that was ME in that situation, I would tell her in a polite way (since you live so close and people can be vendictive!) "Your son has been coming INTO my house not supervised by you. I do not like this, please keep him on your property." OH!!!! Get this ON TAPE that way you'll have undeniable evidence this is happening. I don't know where you live but in some places this would probably be considered child neglect. I know you just want this to stop, but there is something very very wrong with this picture, that this woman could have the nerve to say anything to you about your kids when she literally lets them come into your home AND TAKE THINGS????? UGH!!! Sorry... I sound pretty heated but people like this really tee me off! good luck.

Answer 4

Yes! They are very annoying. There is no right or wrong way to parent your child. Just do what you feel is best for you and your children as long as you are not harming yourself, the kids or other people.
Boy, if she thinks you are abusive, she would probably think I am a monster, lol. At this moment, my 8 year old daughter is in her room for the rest of the night, no TV and cleaning it top to bottom for lying. If she doesn't get it clean, she will be grounded tomorrow night and miss her Girl Scout meeting.
In spite of this punishment, she still knows I love her and want what is best for her. How does she know? I tell her and show her everyday. I think that is the key to raising decent kids. Ooops, I am getting preachy and annoying myself, LOL. Sorry! Best of luck with your neighbor, and just know you are doing what is right for your family, not for her.

Answer 5

I totally agree, she probably thinks her kids are angels. I was at the park last week and a woman approached me about my 3 year old daughter having earrings in her ear. "Don't you think that's a bit much for a child" she said. They are small stud earrings, very simple. I told her this and walked away. Some people just love to meddle in other peoples business, never taking care of there own.

Answer 6

i like my MIL yet she drives me loopy additionally. She is rather in contact with each and every thing in our lives and likewise calls my husband a minimum of 2x an afternoon. If he would not answer, she calls again and again back. No kidding. She replaced into undesirable attempting to take over my wedding ceremony plans and he or she has executed stuff that she could desire to in no way have stated and executed. I won't even get into those information, smoke will start up popping out of my ears. besides, even inspite of the incontrovertible fact that she drives you loopy you are able to not punish her by no longer calling her. She desires to keep in touch on your childs existence. although, without bringing the toddler into the placement communicate on your husband approximately this and you the two take a seat along with her and check along with her and regulation down the regulations. you do no longer prefer scuffling with to happen around your toddler, s/he would not prefer that drama. sturdy success desire I helped.

Answer 7

Wow! Does she know he broke in??? If I were her I would be embarrassed to say anything about your kids after that!! Anyway it sounds like you are doing great- the things you said all seem fine to me... in ten years your kid will be heading off to college while hers will be in juvie. No sweat just smile and nod... then remind her how you need your [insert item stolen by her child] back!

Answer 8

yeah they annoy the hell out of me and i am not even a parent. i think teaching kids right from wrong is the whole point of parenting. if necessary then physical reminders are necessary. no i dont mean abuse but extra chores are ok.

Answer 9

next time she opens her fat mouth, tell her is she is really concerned she will call CPS.

as for that 3 year old breaking into the home.....call the police department. let them handle it.

Answer 10

my, you certainly have a lot of issues! I would say that if you couldn't handle a three-year old stealing on your own you might need some counseling. Where is all that anger coming from?