Anyone know how to teach a 3 year old to stop wining?

Question

My 3 year old daughter wines all the time about nothing. She has an older sister that doesn't live with us, so she is basically an only child. Can anyone give me some pointers?

Answer 1

I usually hate it when someone tells me to read a book about these things...but there really is one that would truly help you out. It's called 1-2-3 Magic. It worked wonders for my son. Whining, spitting, biting....on and on...this book really helped me out.

It focuses on things that you want your child to start doing (like cleaning her room...eating her food) and things that you want her to stop doing (like whining....talking back...etc).

It's so simple...when I 1st read the book, I thought there was NO way it would work on my hard headed son....but within a few days I saw a huge difference.

The basic idea, is to stop talking to your child as if she's an adult...and treat discipline as simple as possible. Designate a time out chair, step...or whatever works for her. When she does something you don't want her to do---you say "One". If she keeps whining...then you day "Two"....if it still continues, "That's Three--time out". (I used to set a kitchen timer so my son knew when his time out was over)

Time out may seem a little harsh for whining...but it works! Saying "One, Two, That's three-time out"...with nothing in between (no..."I'm warning you....or Two--Two & 1/2"). Keeping it simple works wonders...really.

Right now, with my 4 year old, I rarely get past "Two" before he stops his whining or nasty behavior.

Here's a quick link about the book...and prices.
http://www.amazon.com/1-2-3-Magic-Effective-Discipline-Children/dp/0963386190

Good luck!!!

Answer 2

It's called Duct Tape. No just kidding. It sounds like your 3 year old is wearing the pants in the family. You must gain control by ignoring her demands when she is whining. It is always hard the first time but if you stick to your guns she will eventually get the right idea. Also, when she does something good or right, make sure you make a big deal about it and praise her or reward her with a treat. At 3 years old children can understand most every thing you say. Don't be afraid to explain why she gets or doesn't get things. Be sure to get eye level when you are talking to her. Try watching an episode of Nanny 911 on TV. I learned alot from watching the Nanny shows. Good luck.

Answer 3

When my children start whinning, I have an answer for them. "I'm sorry, I can't hear what you are saying, when you use that tone of voice. You need to talk to me like a big girl/boy so I can hear you." For the older children it gets altered to "I'm sorry, I'm an old lady and I've lost hearing in that frequency. You need to use a normal voice so I can hear what you want to tell me." Put the look on your face like you just really can't quite hear them, say excuse me- I still need you to speak a little lower and use a different voice. I want to understand what you are saying.
When my teenager whines, I usually whine my answer back while making a funny face. That is their clue that I'd appreciate them changing their tune. Since I've done this all their lives, they catch on pretty quickly now. I have 6 kids, from age 23 to age 6, and this was the best way I found to curb the whining. I tried ignoring it, if I could- but let's face it- sometimes it just doesn't work and it gets on your nerves. Since what they wanted was my attention, this way they could get it, but not exactly in the way they expected. By the time they get their voice normal, they have usually calmed down and you can at least talk or deal with the problem at hand. The funny part of it was that my eldest daughter- the 23 year old, told me that she was almost 10 before she realized I actually could hear her whining!

Answer 4

Hunny when you find a answer for this question, Please let me Know, I have the same, My 3year year old son, I think is the whinest kids out there, And Unlike other answers to this question, I do not give in to my children, when it is NO, it is NO!! I have 3 kids , all living at home, I have learned how to use my IGNORE BUTTON, I did learn that when my son is in one of his little moods, that the ignoring him, works some what well...If he see's that I am ignoring his whinning, he usally will go whine to his brother or his Dad ...LOL....... I wish you luck

Answer 5

Kids usually wine when they are frustrated, or can't explain how they feel about a certian thing.

Trust me, I did it A LOT when i was younger (and sometimes even now, lol). Also, my 9 year old cousin (she'll be 10 in october) does it A LOT too.


p.s. I'm 13 years old, so whatever.

Answer 6

I went thru the same thing with my daughter when she was 3 now shes 7 yrs old and I fount a step program that works really well you can find it online its called the 1-2-3 step its a really great program and best of luck with your daughter .

Answer 7

i will understand the place you're coming from. My son is 15 m/o and is going interior the path of the comparable issues. toddlers study lots greater with the aid of compliment. compliment compliment compliment him each time he's doing something good. make a super deal out of it "oh what a stable boy, one among those sensible boy! Mummy likes it once you are trying this" etc. youngsters love the attention and in user-friendly terms want to delight you. while he does something you dont want him to do, say in a distinctive tone (no longer loud yet low) "No" and then tell him why "that hurts mummy". If he does it back, do away with him variety in spite of that's and distract him "come seem on the birds- they are so quite". attempt to forget approximately approximately his behaviour (if its no longer risky of path). If he does something repeatativley (my son pulls on the blinds) then a faucet on the hand is warranted earlier being bumped off. in case you consistently compliment him for all the stable issues he does then he will want to maintain doing them. once you're ignoring him, he will ask your self why all this stable interest stopped and revert to doing something tried and examined that he's familiar with gets a great reaction. Get his dad greater in contact. lead them to have a on a daily basis recurring, like tub time, the place dad does the washing and dressing so which you would be able to get a ruin. it is going to offer them on my own time and help with the bonding. As for the discipline themes, you're additionally your son's parent and you have as lots say in the variety you discipline your newborn because of the fact the daddy does. If not greater, because of the fact you are the single that spends maximum of a few time with him. Its all stable and properly for the daddy to assert the thank you to discipline him yet he's not there coping with the outcomes the two. Take a stand, earlier its recover from your head. stable luck, hang in there.

Answer 8

tell her that if she wines she's not getting anything, and if she does it- ignore her and don't give in. by the time she stops- if it's reasonable- give her what she wanted and tell her- you could've had it earlier if you had stopped wining; and if not- explain to her y she don't get it (there's no money right now....) make her understand that she has to act right. if she wines way too much; u should think of a small punishment.

Answer 9

Oh, good luck -- when you figure that one out, you will be rich!!

Toddlers and whining go together. Just hold your ground and don't give in to her demands (if that is what she is doing). If she is whining about absolutely nothing - have her spend time in her room alone, she will learn very quickly that it is NOT fun and stop the whining.

Answer 10

I would ignore it. Tell her you cant understand it when she whines. If she keeps doing it she just is looking for attention, dont give in or dont get mad this will make her continue to do it.
Tell her I cant understand you when you talk like this when you are ready to talk like a big girl I will listen. She will get the hint after awhile.
Good luck!