how soon is too soon?

Question

i have been with my Husband for 5 yrs and Married since May of this yr.how soon is too soon to start our family. we are both ready but we dont want to start it too soon and regret not living the rest of our lives. i am 24 and he is 26.

i wanted to let you all know i am currently off birthcontrol and we are planning on having kids in the near future i am not teh type of person who will regret having kids that wasnt why i asked this i was asking to find out when is a good time to have kids.. we have lived together for 4 and a half years i am still in school and graduate in 3 yrs.

Answer 1

If you both feel it's a good time and you are ready then I'd say go for it! If you're still not sure then wait another year. You're both young so you have plenty of time :-)

Answer 2

I could say there is never a good time to have kids or it is always a good time to have kids- either is true. I have 3 beautiful girls and would not change a thing about them. However, no matter what point they came, the timing for each came with it's challenges. I have always wanted children. My husband and I decided to wait until we had a house to start a family. This turned into a hardship, as I found out I had several fertility problems (not sure when they started). We tried for 6 years before taking our first daughter in through foster care at 2 1/2, then adopting a year later. The timing at this point was later than I had wanted to have my first child and I had just gone back to school to work on my Master's degree. My second daughter was conceived after 8 years (from initially starting to try to have children), 2 surgeries, and numerous treatments later. I was thrilled, but wasn't sure what to do about work. Wanted to stay home, but could not afford to do so at the time (student loans to pay!). My 3rd daughter was a suprise, a year later. Again, I was thrilled, but it meant buying a new house. I also decided to stay home and babysit, as most of my income working would go to daycare. So money has been very tight. Point being, the timing is never perfect, but if you really want kids you will be fine. good luck!

Answer 3

Well you may take some time to be together as a married couple for a year or so, but don't wait too long. Pretty soon, you won't see the point of the extras. And if you get pregnant by chance, then I'd say it is time. You may set a date to stop the birth control and let the rest take care of itself.

Answer 4

If you all are happy and stable, emphasis on both of these words!!!- by all means go for it. Just be ready, though because kids change EVERYTHING.
I love my kids, but basically your lives will be technically be over (late nights out, traveling without whining, etc etc) for the next 18-24 years. However, the aforemaentioned are not important to me, so everything has been great and I don't regret it. Good luck! :)

Answer 5

If you guys both feel you are ready then you should go for it. Don't wait until you think you are financially ready cuz that will never happen. I think it also depends on if you guys lived together before marriage. If you just moved in together when you got married then i would say wait at least a year and enjoy the time to yourselves and use to that situation before you add a child to the mix.

Answer 6

most people waste their time waiting for things in life and by the time they actually start to take actions upon what they want it is too late......

what are you waiting for?..the PERFECT situation to have a child..sorry honey there is none..there will never be a perfect time to have a child because **** happens..and just when you think you are in the right place at the right time *BAM* something else happens which can cause you to push your plans back and then you will keep pushing and pushing your plans back until one day you finally look up and realize that life has passed you by and you still have not accomplished what you want.....

you say you dont want to have kids too soon and regret not living the rest of your lives....i dont mean to be rude but "do you think you are getting any younger?" having children is not a death sentence to the "end of your life" its the beginning of another chapter ..children bring joy and fulfillment in your life ...not a death sentence.but to each his own......different strokes for different folks...

Answer 7

My husband and I were about 5 months pregnant when we got married. We had started TTC about 8 months before. You will find people who say that they waited years before starting their families and that worked for them.

This is not a question to ask the masses. This is a discussion that you need to sit down and have with your husband. You are the ones who know the plans you have for your lives. You are the ones who know your thoughts, feelings, hopes and dreams. You need to make what decisions will be best for you!

Good luck!

Answer 8

You've got time. Wait at least another 2 years of steady marriage before starting a family. Be sure you have no debt, a home, a big savings account, and he has a good paying steady and secure job with great health insurance for you and the baby to come.

Answer 9

my husband and i have been married 5 yrs in oct and we had our 1st about 7 mos after we were married. We now have 3 kids together. We also started out with one from a previous relationship.

Answer 10

that just depends on your plans. I am 23 and my hubby 24 and we have two girls 4 and 5 and a boy on the way. 20 weeks. But we are glad to get kids done now, because when we are old we want to plan on retiring in the Bahamas and stuff in about 25 years. it is just you r opinion.