This is my third chance I've given my husband to make things right in our marriage and he has promised me that he will not lie to me and hide things from me any longer. I've found out that he keeps doing them and wont keep promises to me. He wont take his depression medication because he thinks that he is fine and that it's everyone else that needs the help. He blames me for everything...disables our vehicle so I can't leave the house...will not give me any money unless HE thinks it's a good enough reason.... will not let me talk on the phone to any of my friends or family without him sitting next to me.....accuses me of cheating on him.....wont let me be online if he is home and only for a short amount of time while he's gone (he calls to see if I am online from work - dial-up).....and tells me I do nothing for him and nothing all day long except sit in an air conditioned house watching TV. He has also been telling me that I am just like my mom(needs help!!) and just like his ex-wife.
2006-09-18 09:56:32 · 15 answers · asked by sad_wife_mom 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
Your husband is showing classic abuser behaviors, isolating you, taking your car limiting your contact to the outside world.
If you want out, go to a women's shelter where your entire family can stay in a safe place, and where he cannot find you. The staff there is trained to help you find services and help you get on your feet away from this abusive and controlling man.
He will have to pay child support and that will help you financially.
Good luck.
2006-09-18 13:38:24 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 05:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by janski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband seems to be very immature and insecure. These types of men are often controlling and possesive. I'm not one to advise divorce, but unless he is willing to get some help and work on changing (you might consider marriage counseling) you may not have any other option. Do you have family that could help? If not, you should probably start checking into government programs for assistance. Most states have some type of program that will help with transportation and childcare.
2006-09-18 10:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by tnmtngirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need legal help. Your husband would be required to pay child support. You should look in your area for a hotline for battered women. He may not be physically abusive but it sounds as if he's emotionally abusive. At any rate, the counselors at the women's shelter should be able to point you in the right direction. You could also try your church or if you don't go to church try any church that is close by. The disabling of your vehicle is a very bad sign. You need help ASAP. Good luck.
2006-09-18 10:08:10 · answer #4 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have 7 kids that need day care? I would talk to a lawyer, what you would receive in Child support would hold you over a while. I would also look into doing a job that you can do at home. You need to get moving on your independence. Your husband sees you as a anchor around his neck and he is not happy about it.
2006-09-18 10:00:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why on earth would you have 7 kids with someone like that. You should have gotten you tubes tide after the third one. But you need to leave before things get violent. Ask a friend or family member for help.
2006-09-18 10:14:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I agree with what Spike said, talk to a women's shelter. The emotional abuse that you are going through is not tolerable. You aren't his slave, you are his wife. Get out of the relationship, while you have the guts to leave.
2006-09-18 10:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by withallthesethings 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You throw the guy out and don't let him back in. He's abusing you and will not stop until he is stopped. Here's a number to call for help: 1800-787-3224
2006-09-18 10:09:30 · answer #8 · answered by DelK 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your family/close friends and let them know whats going on and ask them if you can move in with them until you can figure things out. If you can't talk to them on the phone then mail a letter telling them your situation. You need to get away from him and fast!
2006-09-18 09:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
His actions legally qualify as "emotional abuse." As such, you can qualify for aid from any abused women shelters. The most important thing is that you get away from him. He is not going to change, and he is only going to make you feel worse about yourself. If you have 7 kids, you need to do it for them as much as for you. Ask yourself: do THEY deserve the kind of life he is putting them through?
2006-09-18 10:02:30 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Pink 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋