First of all I am 21 (just to give some background) My boyfriend and I have been doing things lately and have both gotten REALLY curious. I have thought about asking him if I can see it and do a h*nd j*b because I am way curious but....a) I am a little afraid to see it b) I am afraid of what will happen when it shoots and c) I have never seen one before d) I don't even know if I will enjoy watching it. I would like to know from other girls who have already been there done that to see if I am wrong in worrying.
2006-09-18 09:53:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anna J2 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You could wait until you get married, or you could rent a movie. Either way, you'll enjoy it if you care about the person because they will really enjoy it and you will get advice along the way.
2006-09-18 09:57:47 · answer #1 · answered by roppster 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry. It cannot hurt you. To see it shoot is nothing much to it. It might not even shoot, it might just dribble out. It doesn't shoot out with enough force to hurt you, just sort of like squirting ketchup if you squeeze the bottle real hard. It can't and wont poison you. It gets a little sticky on the hand if it dries, but comes off easily with water. You may or may not enjoy it. Some find it interesting, some find it arousing, some find it tasty and some just don't care to see it at all. But then, the reason for doing this is to find these things out, isn't it? Have fun, take care and have him tell you how to do it if you're not sure how. There are sensitive spots to watch out for (mainly the head). He's done it for years I guarantee it, so letting you do it would be pleasant if you can get the grip just right. Don't be afraid to ask him, he knows you don't have one of your own to practice on, and its kinda fun for him knowing that you don't know how, because that means you're not a slut. Most men really love inexperienced girls because it gives you an image of purity.
2006-09-18 17:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a) A penis is nothing scary... Hubby says it looks a bit like an overdone hot dog. Things could end up a bit messy... if the hj is done right.
b) The only thing that "shoots" is nothing to fear. It won't hurt you and, trust me, no matter what faces/noises he might make, it doesn't hurt him. Don't let his reactions to the hj scare you... unless he tells you to stop, keep going!
c) There's always a first time for everything.
d) It can be very enjoyable for both parties... trust me! I wouldn't worry about anything. Just talk about it ahead of time (if you uncomfortable talking about it, perhaps you shouldn't be exploring it)... ask him how he likes to be held, how roughly or gently you should handle him. Take cues from him... take direction from him... trust me, he's probably taken care of himself before and knows what he likes.
Also, remember... if this is the first time anyone besides him has handled it, he might be so excited that he ejaculates early. Don't worry about that, it doesn't mean you did anything wrong.
2006-09-18 17:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by gonefornow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you didn't start your sex life at 13 like some of the white trash here, who open their legs on a stranger's wink. Don't listen to that scum!
Sex is nothing without real love. Once you find it you can experiment the way you want. I don't think you will enjoy this particular experience, but give it a try. He will.
Of course it's better to get serious and married before you have sex, not just sleep around and change partners like a hooker.
Good luck with your boyfriend!
2006-09-18 18:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by bunt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, let me be the wet blanket. One thing leads to another. If you are 21 and have no more experience than that, then you've waited for reason. Continue waiting until you know the time is right or you may go further than intended. When the time is right, just relax and have fun.
2006-09-18 17:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am glad you waited so long because sex isn't what it's hyped up to be but once you start if you do enjoy it it becomes addictive for some people but if you feel your not ready don't do it you are precious and so is your love make sure that's what you want before you let go of it you only get once you can't be a virgin twice when the time is right you'll have no worries or doubts
2006-09-18 17:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by icandi22 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you don't know whether you even want see, touch or look at it you aren't ready. But it is not like its going to jump out and bite you. Its a natural part of life. I think that you have a good boyfriend, cause most boyfriends would stick around if you are affraid of sex.
2006-09-18 19:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! 21? It's kinda sad that I have commend you on waiting, I think everyone should wait until they are extremley serious about someone, Then we wouldn't have young unwed mothers walking around. I don't even know what to say. Only you will know if your really ready.
Good Luck
2006-09-18 17:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by jakesmom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
21? Where have you been, in a convent?? Go ahead and play with that sucker, it's not gonna bite ya!! Worst it can do is get you wet and sticky. I say give him a thrill, and whip that thing out and suck it like a popsicle!! He can tell you when he's about to get off if you don't want it in your mouth, just move off of it, keep stroking with your hands and watch it spurt!! Have fun
2006-09-18 17:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
um your not supposed to think about stuff like this. If the time comes it will happen, and you should not worrie about how or when or what. Just relax. He will take care of everything
2006-09-18 17:01:30 · answer #10 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋