The last guy i was dating broke up with me three times in a week and he gave me these pathetic excuses each time yet when he came back to me i said yes every time. The first two times he dumped me was because his best friend didn't like the idea that he was with another girl especially a girl like me. The last time he told me that it wasn't fair to me that he couldn't show me the same feelings i was showing him and all this other crap. I really care for him and wanna be with him but he doesn't want to be with me. I'm confused. Is he playing with my head? And am i stupid for wanting to be with him still after he hurt me and willing to keep taking him back?
2006-09-18 09:48:05 · 24 answers · asked by Gothic_Maiden 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now he's wanting to be friends....should i??? I'm confused right now and its really hard.
2006-09-21 13:52:08 · update #1
This fool dumped you cause he is just that, a "FOOL". Stop taking him back babe, he is probably laughing behind your back with his friends TALKING CRAP ABOUT YOU. Show him you are nobody's fool and let him go, you can do much better.
2006-09-18 09:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow that sounds exactly like my situation. I'm really crushed by the whole thing actually. He disappears for weeks at a time and then he comes back to me as if everything is fine and I just don't get it. I say we dump the head cases and go on our merry way and find someone who treats us right. But maybe our men will change I hear from a lot of women that happens and then they end up getting married and having long happy lives together.
Good luck:)
2006-09-18 09:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your situation it is sucky to be in your position but honey if he doesn't see how much you can love him and how great you are then let him go coz he is not worth the pain that he is causing you.
You will find someone that appreciates you for the way you are and for the way you feel towards them.
Before you do anything you should have a serious talk with him and find out the REAL reason why and then justify your decision from there.
Good luck sweetie :)
2006-09-18 09:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by Pudge_Monsta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes honey, sorry, but you're stupid - there is a fine line between being nice and being dumped on - don't be a doormat to a guy who has told you that he cannot show you the same feelings - at least he sounds like he was communicating with you, which is more than most guys do. hold your head up high and walk away.
2006-09-18 09:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by livetall1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to walk away from this one! If his best friend is involved - you will never win. I don't know if he is playing with your head. You have to answer that one. Is he coming back just for sex and leaves again? Then yes - he's playing.
Dump him! Find someone who is honest. May take some time, but it's worth it!
Good Luck!
2006-09-18 09:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No your're not stupid just starved for love and attention. But please respect yourself and know you deserve better than this jerk. There is someone out there for you who will take you just as you are and you won't have a chance to meet him if you're involved with this guy. Give yourself sometime to find out what you want in a man and reevaluate the signals you give out. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-09-18 09:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by moniiluv17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to look for someone else. The world is full of other, better people for you! You will close this door, and another door will open up to a wonderful, new world for you. A new guy will enter and make you so much happier! Work on yourself, now, until that door opens up for you. It will happen if you least expect it and if you aren't looking for it. Just work on you...The right guy for you is working on himself right now, waiting for the doors to open so you can meet each other!!!!!!
2006-09-18 09:52:22 · answer #7 · answered by Kitty L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
guys can be jerks... i think he might be playing with your head but that doesnt mean you cant play with his.. dont get me wrong im not saying that you should, i know that you still want to be with him even though he hurt you... no i dont think your stupid... i hope that my advice helped some maybe but ive never had a bf so i wouldnt really know... sorry.. 8(
2006-09-18 09:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by Allie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you are stupid . He doesn't want you so leave it at that. wanting to be someone who does care about you is stupid. there is no future in it but you being hurt all the time. find someone who feels the same about you.
2006-09-18 09:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's playing with your head.
I'm sorry to say.
You're not stupid for wanting him back...just maybe a little naive. No offence meant.
2006-09-18 09:51:25 · answer #10 · answered by Samantha Arsenic 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋