She has been with her boyfriend for two years now but recently she has reason to not trust him so she is also seeing this other guy at work just for sex(i guess it's a revenge). She has also been seeing another man for five months now,he is in love with her but she doesnt love him and is just using him for his money. I'm worried all this is gonna turn out messy for her,what advice should i give her?
2006-09-18 09:31:41 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She probably won't listen to any advice. All you can do is be there to pick up the pieces when it all goes wrong and believe me it will.
2006-09-18 09:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by helenapuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventually it's gonna be messy. She's obviously doesn't know what love is, and not into commitment. She's a player - using a guy, for instance. She's also using sex as pleasure ... thus, there's no love in her.
Your advice? Just be truthfully and honest how you feel about her - even if it cause your friendship. Obviously not committed in a long term relationship perhaps? Stop seeing the guys ... stay single, be happy, and start knowing what life is about. Wait until that perfect someone sweeps her feet away.
I saw 3 girls at the same time - I haven't dated since - that was like... 7 years ago. It got pretty messy that I absolutely regretted till this day.
2006-09-19 12:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by appletech089 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a friend you should tell her what you just told us here. Tell her that the consequences can be bad with what she's doing. May be try and find out why she is doing the things she is doing too. She might just be confused and is acting based on emotions without thinking things through.
You can tell her what you think but if she doesn't want to take your advice don't be upset. Let her make her own decision (even if its a mistake). Hopefully she will learn from it and you can be there when she falls and get caught up in the mess.
Thats a true friend.
2006-09-18 09:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by Pudge_Monsta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you need to give her any advice at all. If it was a guy friend sleeping with 3 women no-one would care. She has to live her life the way she feels is best for her. She may not be living a life you aprove of but you can only really give her help or advice if she asks for it. It may all end in tears but she will not appreciate it if you try and step in and prevent those tears. Just help her when she needs it and asks for it.
2006-09-18 09:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by nicksname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Park,
It sounds as though you are immersed in a classic dilemma. You worry for your friend and want what's best for her. Unfortunately, she may not have asked you for your help. If she has asked, then feel free to wade in and give her your best advice. If she has not asked for your advice, you are going to have to do what will be very hard for you... don't say anything.
If you are as close as I think, you should be asking her what "Not Me" suggested, is she using protection, and remind her how important it is.
If it comes up in conversation, you might also ask her if it bothers her to be using another human being for his money and not considering his feelings. This is about as heartless as one person could be to another, but she might not have looked at it in just that way.
You are a good friend to be concerned, but you can only do so much since it is her life and her choices, not yours. Hugs, Hon.... keep being a friend.
2006-09-18 09:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by Peanut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you give her any advice? She won't listen to you. She's going to end up feeling like she's been fucked by an express train, emotionally as well as every other way. If you feel like being there to help her pick up the pieces then good for you - big gold star in your exercise book BUT - you cannot stop it happening. Nobody can.
2006-09-18 09:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by ANGUS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop it all now.
She's completely using all three guys, and should break it off with all of them, too. She's being cruel and manipulative, and she's just in the relationships for money and sex. She needs some time to think, and if she doesn't end it, she'll end up in loads of trouble.
2006-09-18 09:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by kachelsachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, this is NOT going to end well. First of all, if she doesn't trust her boyfriend, than she needs to get rid of him, rather than dating not one but TWO other guys. This isn't fair to any of them, and it's not fair to her. Ick! I can't even imagine...However, your friend sounds EXTREMELY immature and unfortunately, it might just take a couple of bad experiences to help her grow up a little.
2006-09-18 09:37:26 · answer #8 · answered by yumyum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may desire to be purely an excuse. lots of folk have messy rooms. He in all probability has one too. i'm guessing considering that they had intercourse it is all he needed. And OCD is Obsessive - compulsive ailment Obsessive-compulsive ailment (OCD) is a probably disabling rigidity ailment. someone who has OCD has intrusive and undesirable techniques and many times performs initiatives to eliminate the techniques. to illustrate, in case you have OCD, you would be able to worry that each and every thing you touch is contaminated with germs, and with the intention to ease that worry, you many times wash your palms.
2016-10-17 05:33:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend sounds skanky!
It's funny you say she has reason not to trust the 2 year boyfriend, when she is datine THREE guys.....that's just nasty.
Wash your hands of her......you will get the bad reputation next.
2006-09-18 09:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋