My son is only 9 years old and every school year he seems to get into trouble. Not by hitting or being mean but by not listening and always talking in class. He also does not pay attention. How do I help him so he will not get into trouble at school. My husband and I have talked with him so many times and told him that school is his education for life. What do I do?
2006-09-18 09:20:06 · 21 answers · asked by lady_bug418 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
My son did the same thing last year. His teacher put him on Behavior Contract. Every day he would bring me home a paper that showed if he was on task and using appropriate behaviour, and it was broken down into four periods a day so the he could keep track of his progress also. If he had a bad report, the teacher would write a note on the sheet to tell me what happened and how it was dealt with, and then I would give consequences at home as I saw fit. This year just started, but I'm anxious to see how his new teacher deals with it! So far, no notes home yet! Good luck. Another quick thought... are you able to volunteer in his class a couple times a week? That might help you gain some insight, and might help him feel a little more secure.
2006-09-19 07:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by sokkermum 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First talk to your son's teacher and ask for suggestions or what she thinks the problem may be. He is not the first child that the teacher has had this problem with and can probably give some good pointers IF you go in as a concerned parent wanting help and not a parent on the defense. The teacher might also suggest the add or adhd thing and if that is the case be open with the suggestion and call your son's pediatrician and ask for a screening. This is what happened with my son and the pediatrician was great she sent out a list of all sorts of questions to me and the teachers to fill out and send in before the appointment and then compared what we saw to what the teacher saw. Without his meds he is just like what you are describing your son as being like, with them he is a happy, energetic boy but one that can also focus and participate in class. Also start the rule at home that no one speaks if someone else is talking instead they wait their turn, if he interrupts you or your father at home calmly tell him I am speaking now please wait your turn. Last try a reward system something simple like each day no trouble a stamp at home and 5 stamps = a special desert or video game rental.
2006-09-18 11:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by Martha S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know you probably don't want to hear this but most likely it is you and your husband that needs to change a bit. You son emulates what he sees or is deemed acceptable at home.
Do you guys talk over each other when having conversations? Is your house a "loud" house? How has your son learned to communicate by watching you guys?
Not trying to be mean here, its just pure logic. I know parents get all defensive when you bring their skills into question but the thing is, these problems will drag on and only get worse until the parents realize that they them selves are a part of the problem as well to some degree.
Honestly think about this and you get past the "how dare you tell me that....." and to the "Hmmm, maybe he has a point" part things will start becoming obvious on what needs to change in the home and you will all be the happier.
Best of luck to you! =)
2006-09-18 09:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by joe b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like my son without his adhd meds. if you cant afford a doc, you could look up adhd on the net and find symptoms and natural remedies that might help. flax seed or oil is supposed to help. my son has to take concerta every day and when he doesnt he always brings home notes from school, and he will constantly pick on his younger brother and sister. the doctor should give you a couple of forms for you and his teacher to fill out and then he will decide if adhd is a possibility. also behavioral therapy helps. good luck!
2006-09-18 09:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by melinda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a tale! 2 themes about spanking him: at 14 he's probable pubescent and ought to develop some themes with authorities about abuse; and that i'm no longer confident who reward the most from spanking - you or him. yet another ingredient, exposing his bare bottom in the front of his pals is risky, even once you're the daddy. WADR, i'd advise that the three of you (mom, dad, son) pass to a strong counselor to get your relationships straightened out, and to seek some efficient skills to get alongside that doesn't contain embarassing him, or hitting him. What are you going to do, case in aspect, even as he's eighteen? what is going to you do if he continues to be out for some days? what is going to you do if he comes domicile less than the impact of alcohol or intense? what is going to you do if he impregnates a mushy lady? There are some behaviors--probable in his factors of interest--for which a spanking received't paintings. I favor you the most proper.
2016-10-16 01:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real good kid, so his difficulty may be his attention span. Have you had him evaluated for Attention Deficit Disorder? MANY children have it and it is NOT their fault, but it definitely interferes with their progress in school. Perhaps a visit to a child psychologist or psychiatrist would provide the answer you are looking for.
2006-09-18 10:55:14 · answer #6 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he smart maybe he is bored? If so the teachers may not be stimulating him enough.
Maybe he does have an attention deficit disorder. How is he at home? Does he concentrate on his homework or is his mind everywhere else? If he does his homework with no problem I wouldn't worry about ADD just yet.
2006-09-18 15:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by Marge Simpson 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he keeps it up go with him to school one day that will embarrass him so much he wont wanna act up any more or you could just take away the things he loves the most like a toy or video game etc... best of luck to you
2006-09-19 05:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by kim_banning84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having the same prob with my 6 year old. It sucks because you think that the way they act is just them being kids...I'm not sticking up for him, we too have talked til we're blue in the face! We have restricted him from EVERYTHING for the evening he gets in trouble. NOTHING seems to work. I'll be watching your question.
Thanks
2006-09-18 09:41:01 · answer #9 · answered by hotrod luvin princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him all the consequences of not paying attention at school: like being behind the rest of the kids, failing and repeating his grade, get no money in his future, live on the streets, no job, no house, and being uneducated for life.
2006-09-18 11:02:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋