I have recently moved away from my partner to study and we are only seeing each other once every few weeks. I have found that I am now self-concious in front of him when I never used to be, despite the fact that I have lost weight and am feeling better about my appearance in general.
Any ideas as to why this might be? Its doing my head in.
2006-09-18 09:15:35 · 11 answers · asked by Kate1984 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dear Self Conscience,
I can completely identify with what you are going thru. I too had the same thing happen to me. Rest easy , it is very normal and even though you are missing one another and you fantasize about being closer, when it actually happens the intention is there , but the comfort zone is a little less than the familiarity factor. This is when your heart takes over. You have to make choice to just work though it together and get used to the separation, or actually let it become an issue that could have a negative impact on your relationship. Don't dwell on it, just realize the need for your mind to re-adjust and everything will be OK if you want it to be. Be thankful that you are only feeling this way and that your relationship is not in jeopardy with jealousy or insecurity.
A~
2006-09-18 09:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by Angelisa Smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is normal to be self conscience but you should'nt worry about it, it's a difficult thing when you only get to see them, it's just a new feeling since you've changed yourself for the better.
It could be just some anxiety about whether or not he likes the new you. which he prob'ly does, I know I would if I knew she was doing good things for herself, and try to encourage her.
If he doesn't seem to notice it, don't try to put it out there that you're changing things up a bit, just let him find it out for himself.
good luck and stick with it, and you'll be fine
2006-09-18 09:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by quiksilver8676 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably your partner is getting less care from you and you are now more practical than before. I think keep your self on being self-consious!! Good for health-both mental and physical.
2006-09-18 09:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by Babu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use this time to your advantage. Treat it like you are at the start of the relationship just courting. That will def keeps sparks going.
2006-09-18 09:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by helenapuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have lost weight and you're sense of body image will need time to adjust also the loss of frequent intimacy due to separation is another factor you will need time to adapt to. don't worry it will all be ok. you know what it is really but perhaps you need some reassurance from him that he finds you attractive..so ask him
2006-09-18 09:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds like general insecurity ... while you feel better about yourself, you aren't sure if he does or is noticing the improvement... it also sounds like you aren't maintaining communication while apart, daily letter/email writing is a good cure for that. stay on top of your communication exchange or the relationship will wane
2006-09-18 09:23:52 · answer #6 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why it is but try and enjoy it that sort of experience is something you do not get during long term relationships usually
2006-09-18 09:19:41 · answer #7 · answered by philipscottbrooks 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. Everybody goes through it when they are apart from each other for long periods of time.
2006-09-18 09:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by Bizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps u think he might not like the new u show him what u are made of
2006-09-18 09:45:45 · answer #9 · answered by woger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its cause you dont see him as much....its like starting all over again when you do see him....
2006-09-18 11:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by natalie.waterson@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋