we love each other but he say i cant decide about marriage, i dont like to force him, but either i dont like to waste my time, what should i do? what should i tell to him?
2006-09-18 08:44:23 · 7 answers · asked by parisa m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we know each other very well, he dont care any thing maybe he is in depression but i know he love me
2006-09-18 08:56:06 · update #1
Hi there! If you look at the explanatory lines you have written with your question, you yourself have given the answer. See, when you love someone honestly and sincere, espeicially in a relationship like yours, you try to make him/her yours and for that its ultimately a decision to get married to him/her but as you said he is unable to decide about marraige that means he even can't decide that he really loves you or not.
And then you said that you don't like to waste your time, so that means if he is available fine, if not, then its better to have someone else instead of wasting time.
What I feel is, it might be an infactuation or whatever but it can't be love between him and you. Remember its not the time you spend in the relationships but, its the feelings that makes them strong enough to survive in the challenging times and that is where love comes.
I hope you'll try and understand what I wanted to say and do consider the whole situation through this and many other perspectives and it'll help you in taking the right decision for your future.
Good Luck!
God Bless ^__^
2006-09-18 09:16:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you living together?
Is it important to you to be married - or would you be happy just living with him?
Maybe there is a reason he doesn't want to get married - been in a long relationship/ marriage where he has been hurt.
You say you have been friends for 5 years, so you must know him well. But how long have you been going out? It is normal for people to go out together for years before they get married.
If you feel you are wasting your time you probably shouldn't be with him.
Ask him why he doesn't want to get married. Tell him you want to know if he sees himself growing old with you and starting a family with you. If he doesn't then he is not the right person for you.
Depression is a very serious illness. If you think he is depressed is it important for him to see a doctor.
Also if he is doing his masters, that may be the only thing that is really important to him right now (I did mine a year ago and it took up all my time). Why don't you wait till he has finished his masters and then talk about marriage again.
2006-09-18 15:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by southernrightwhale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
propose to him. Not in an overly romantic setting, in a good conversation with each other. Then you can make him understand how important marriage is to you.
2006-09-18 15:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by pietaune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really did love you why would he not sacrifice for you. sometimes when your away you really see the full picture and sometimes the man you think you would want to marry is nothing like the person you will marry.
2006-09-18 15:47:59 · answer #4 · answered by kimber g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you gain qualifications when you can't even communicate clearly? Are you from the USA?
2006-09-18 15:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry, this might sound stupid, but what is " bsc " ????
2006-09-18 15:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by baby_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your master? WTF?
2006-09-18 15:51:49 · answer #7 · answered by Tonya L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋