Getting bit at daycare?

Question

My son is 13 months old and just moved to the walker room. In the past week he has been bitten 3 times by the same child and the daycare directors don't seem to think that there is any reason to be concerned. I've put my sons name on the waiting list at 3 other daycares with stricter rules on biting but what can I do until he can go to another facility?

It's great that some of you don't have to use daycare but unfortunately I have to. I spend a lot of quality time with my son and he is very close to me and he is very intelligent.

First off, thanks for all of the answers so far.
Second, I've called the state and unfortunately Arkansas doesn't have any specific rules on biting it is up to the facility on how they handle the situation.
Third, I don't feel comfortable with the babysitter idea since there is a local woman on trail right for shaking a baby in her care to death. And after looking into abuse statistics it is more likely my son will get seriously injured at a private home.

Answer 1

I have had that problem with my daughter getting bitten by other kids, I went to the director, and if that didnt work, went to the owner, then you can turn them into the state if they fail to make it safe for your children to be there.

Answer 2

If you remember the dates, make a note of them. If there are any further occurances note them also. Write a letter to the school (owner and director) saying this is what is happening, here are the dates, and here's the kids name. In the letter tell them what you expect to be done. Example: Move your son to a different room or move the other kid. Also inform them that if they do not take action you will call the health department And CPS and report them for neglect. You must send the letter by certified mail so that you have proof that they recieved the letter and when. Some state require that if one particluar child bites other children (does not have to be the same one) more than 3 times, they must be removed from the daycare. I had the same problem and had to go this route.

Answer 3

Well, unfortunately those are things that will happen in that sortof setting. Some kids go through a biting stage & others will get hurt. I mean if he's in a room with children around his age, what do you suppose the providors should do? They aren't allowed to hit the child or bite back like some people think is ok, so what else are they supposed to do? What good is talking to the mother gona do? I'm sure she's doing all she can to stop him & he's probably doing it at home. There ARE ways of disciplining a child for biting but not all daycares are allowed by law to do those things. If you feel the need to change his care providor, then do so BUT be prepared for it to happen again. You can't run from normal childhood behavior. Kids WILL get hurt, that's life.

Answer 4

I understand that you do need childcare for your son, BUT if this daycare is not doing anything, you shouldn't leave your child there to continue being abused. If I were you, I would find a babysitter rather than a daycare. I have found babysitters can typically give more one-on-one interaction and with less kids around, there is less biting, hitting, etc.

Answer 5

I know you are concerned for your son, but the truth is this can happen any time kids around that age get together. Biting and hitting is going to happen, so please be prepared for that to happen.

I do agree the provider should take a more active role in supervising the "biter" and watching for signs and distract before he bites, so the behavior can be changed.

this is a NORMAL stage most kids go thru and ends as their speech develops and they learn to communicate their emotions

Answer 6

Take him out of the daycare. If the people at his daycare ask why, just tell them they don't seem to give a care about what's going on. Find a few babysitters to watch him until he can get into another daycare. That's what I would do..

Answer 7

you need to tell the people at the day care and let them know you think it is not acceptable. Tell them that it makes you mad that you can not leave your kid in an environment like that and you expect changes. This is your child, stick up for him. If you don't he might learn to bit also. Then you will have a whole new problem on your hand. you need to almost be mean about this.

here is something I gooogled up:

http://www.medhelp.org/forums/ChildBehavior/messages/31860.html

Answer 8

Who's biting him? One kids? Sevearl kids? The day care teacher? Is your child biting anybody or provoking it? What does he do before he gets bit? Whatt does he do after he gets bit?

We'd need answers to all these questions before we can really help you. If it's just one kid biting him then have a heart-to-heart with that parent about how your child should respond to such attacks. If it's sesveral kids then talk to day care staff abbout what your child's response to be.

I've had 2 related personal experiecnes. First, my younger sister used to bite me all the time when we were fighting. I took it in stride. One day she got cuaght becasue she'd actaully drawn a noticeable quantity of blood from my arm. Dad gave me a mandate to bite her back, just as hard as she bit me, the next time she did so. She bit me once more, but I can't remember her ever biting me again. Second, I worked a summer camp for troubled kids. One week one of them was more than the usual handful. He'd caome to assembly, but made a game of sneaking away. One day I snuck behind him as we was trying to sneak behind everyone else. He ran into me and panicked. He clamped his 10 year-old jaw down on my right forearm and was not about to let go. I simply pressed my bleeding arm farther up into his mouth until he was suspended off the ground by the clamp he was trying to maintain against my arm with his molars. He let go becasue no he was sore. He still had disicipline problems, but we ended the wek as friends.

In other words, the fact that others are biting your kid is really not the most improtant issue. The 2 most important issues are, "How will you deal with this?" because he will learn from you; secondly, how will you teach him to handle these situtations? Nastifiness is prat of the wrold we leave in. How do we accept it, protect outrselves and try to work for positive chagne?

For mroe tips on what to do see http://www.kidshealth.org/PageManager.jsp?dn=familydoctor&lic=44&article_set=21590

Answer 9

injuries do ensue, toddlers get bit at daycare(this can truly no longer be the most suitable time it takes position). even with the indisputable fact that, you should seek for suggestion from with the instructor or director. maximum states have guidelines that do not enable toddlers with little ones interior an analogous room. there is not any desire to freak out or commence reporting the daycare, etc. merely seek for suggestion from with the director, enable her keep in mind that that's unacceptable for you toddler to be bitten by making use of a 2 year previous. Ask what the little ones were doing with the toddlers, etc. Voice your concerns, and in case your expectation with regards to care are not any further met than swap new child care companies.

Answer 10

Call the mother. write a letter to the state, that is an unslafe enviroment for son