Although I am close with my fiances immediate family, as he is to mine, our families are complete oposites. My family is "snooty" whereas his family is "redneck". Most have never met each other accept for our parents. We dont want one side of the reception to be his family and the other mine, however, we are uncertain as how to blend them and prevent stares and rude comments.
Please help!
2006-09-18 08:34:13 · 11 answers · asked by NYGIRL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just don't worry about this unnecessarily! You will be amazed what kinds of people get along with one another - after all, the two of you have gotten together, and presumably you talk and like each other! Just let things fall into place normally - don't do any special planning. Think positively! Don't create trouble which is imaginary!
2006-09-18 10:10:45 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation, my fiance and I are having a wedding coming up and our families are from different countries and have different cultures. You just have to remember that it is YOUR wedding and all of the guests are there for you. Maybe to prevent uncomfortability, keep the schedule going... have something going on at all times so that all eyes are on you, put on some nice music during dinner, music always sets the atmosphere. Also, you and your fiance should sit down and write out all of the guests, then do the seating arrangements according to personalities. Put people who have alike personalities at the same table, that way everyone will get along... Remember it's YOUR day!
2006-09-18 15:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by DanielleJane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband's family is also very different from mine. Trust me, there is nothing you can do to get the two sides to blend. If you force it, you will create conflict. If you leave it up to them, it won't happen. We had an engagement party, and that helped a little. There were a couple people from each side with the ability to interact with both groups, and that helped. Just love each family for who they are, and be glad they're supporting you. Not all in-laws become very close. Best of luck.
2006-09-18 16:18:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really wanted everyone at my wedding to mingle...I didn't want to end up with groups of folks stuck in different corners of the room.
So, I planned that there would not be enough seats for everyone, during the "mingling" time. Obviously, when it was time to eat, everyone needed a seat, but meanwhile, they were "forced" to get up and meet someone new (they didn't really need it, thank goodness!).
You could also arrange the seating so that each table has some of each family...That way, they'll have a great opportunity to get to know each other.
2006-09-19 15:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family and my fiance's family are the same way. Mine know how to serve and host a 7-course dinner party, and his family knows how to...drink beer? They all are nice, of course.
Unless all of your family is far away, I suggest holding a picnic. It gets everyone out and in the open. We held a picnic after a wedding, and it was great. We all merged. My mom LOVES his grandma, even though she's a complete hick.
2006-09-18 15:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have an open bar! I am assuming they will mingle...no matter what type of people they are. They will all be family and want to meet eachother and I bet they will even get along.
Good luck! Don't stress too much. There isn't a whole lot you can do about this...=0)
2006-09-18 15:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have them sit at their own tables, but mix them up around the room.
My cousin had my family, we are a little crazy, and a lot of the uncles are farmers, and then his wife had more successful people, and we had our side, and they had theirs. Honestly I really didn't see a problem with it, I don't think that you are going to get as many stares as you think, everyone will just be happy to be there for your wedding and they should just be looking at the happy couple. Its your day, just be happy you get to be with your man forever, don't worry about the small things like that, it really doesn't matter
Congrats!
2006-09-18 15:38:42 · answer #7 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar issue. I come from a conservative christian family and my husband's friends and family are a little rough around the edges. I had a pep talk with my family and just let them know that his family and friends aren't like us. They understood and just tried to be friendly and ignored any odd behavior.
2006-09-18 15:42:25 · answer #8 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for me, it's a part of having a family. Just don't mind them. It will harm your relationship. They are too old to know what's right with wrong. Isn't it? If his family and your family can't mixed up, or won't respect each other, otherwise respect their son and it goes to your family too, they must respect you.
Besides your the one whose getting married with him not your family. Or even you and your fiance are the one whose getting marry, not his family and your family. Don't let anyone harm your relationship, even his family or yours.
2006-09-18 15:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by Eiris19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple : Arrange for everybody to meet at the conception !
2006-09-18 16:17:08 · answer #10 · answered by Swamp T 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋