This girl and me were really close, we would stay up till 12 in the mornin talkin sometime, now that mite not be alot, but it is for her, she is homeschooled, I go to public school. Well I asked her to the movies, and she said Idk maybe , and REALLy backed off, she seemed nervous around me, I thought she just didnt wanna hurt my feelings, but she told her friends, she just wants to see if I can stick with her. Well we got further and further apart, until I couldnt stand it anymore and I emailed her, spilled my guts, and asked her to be brutally honest on how she fealt about me, heres what she said
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
Now, When I read that two things come to mind. One, that she is just trying to be nice. But on the other hand, she is just scared, because she has never had a bf b4, and weve been friends since age 7.
But now she seems more comfortable around me, like now she talks more, and seems more comfortable, but then she'll seem like she wants me, I can tell by the way she looks, and the way she acts, she just seems really sad, and down,
Oh yeah, and she told her mom , that she is just really really scared, and that she does like me, but she told her friends she just dont want to hurt my feelings, now her and her mom are really close, but so are her and her friends, Do you think she likes me, or is just letting me down easy?
And I am respecting her wishes, I emailed her and told her that I respect her decision, and we havent talked about it since.
But I really really do care for her, I wake up and she's the first thing I think about, I go to sleep and Fall asleep thinking about her. I mean I know I'm only 15, but I really do love her, and would do anything in this world to be with her. I've tried moving on, I've been trying to do that, but I just can't. Even though I am am guy, yes I have cried numerous time for her, and about her. I mean, I'm not ugly, I'm fit, and I'm not a big geek or anything, so what gives? I really do love her, what should I do?
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And, yes, her mom likes me, she told me that she is encouraging her daughter to date me, she also said that it was really hard for her daughter to sent that email, but in the mean time, she is really flirty with this other guy.
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But it's weird, like sometimes she'll seem sad, cuz she wants to be with me, then shell go and be REALLy happy and flirty with this other guy, then shell come up and talk to me, like she misses me, and then shell go flirt with him, I'm just SO CONFUSED, please help.
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but i mean, the way she is around him, is the way she used to be around me, and its weird, cuz we dont talk nearly nearly as much as we used to, and its almost like shes sad, or missin that or sumthin, but then all over this other guy
2006-09-18 08:20:31 · 15 answers · asked by how many 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She really does like you as a friend as is trying to salvage your friendship. I would leave it alone.
2006-09-18 08:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by Laurel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from a girl who knows. If she knows she has you (which you have been honest about) she will test the waters. Have you heard the saying "play hard to get"? It doesn't have to be a game, but youy just need to back off and let her realize that she likes you for more than a friend. She is most likely flirting with a guy who doesn't pay much attention to her - it sounds like you are a nice person. Give her some time and back off. Don't be rude, just go on with your day to day life and look around at another girl (even though you may not really be interested) it will keep your mind occupied and she'll come around. My mother always said to look again at the boys who were in love with me and not at the ones that I was crazy running after, there is something to be said about that and she will figure it out. She has to impress her friends, and if she is homeschooled it must be like getting out of jail when she is around others her own age right now. Don't over analyze every word she says.
2006-09-18 08:27:27 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsy1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww... ok keep in mind that you are 15 and life goes on. I fell "in love" at 15 and wasted 2 1/2 years of my life because i was too attached. Be free! lol Talk to this girl about what you've been hearing and remind her how much you care for her. If she still says the same thing then maybe she is just a flirty girl and you should try to move on. do you pray? If you do that kind of thing I highly suggest it. It's helped me numerous times when i thought I loved someone and they didn't love me back. I hope that helps.
2006-09-18 08:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by Future Mrs. Beuerlein 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 -- You're not in love. You're understandably infatuated, but its not love. Love is not an emotion, it is not how you feel. Love is reciprocated actions intended to benefit the other person, often at with a sacrifice.
#2 -- It sounds like (and I don't mean this disrespectfully) she isn't yet mature enough for a romantic relationship. Pushing her now could cause her a lot of harm.
#3 -- Respecting her wishes means self control. It means getting your mind off of her. Infatuation is extremely powerful, but under the conditions you've described, pursuing this infatuation could hurt her emotionally. I'd suggest avoiding her completely for a while, since much of infatuation is chemical. You've got to go through "detox" for a while.
Good luck.
2006-09-18 09:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by Privratnik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...the girl really may care for you but she may be scared and just don't want to tell you. i would just hey look i have heard these things and i'm wondering if these things are true and she says the same thing then let her go becaue you seem to be a sweet guy that deserves to be with someone that has the same feelings for you. i have been in numberous of relationships like this and i have always done what i said for you to do. i mean, if she really cares for you she won't want to lose you as a friend so just talk to her and see what happens and if it don't work out then it wasn't meant to be in the first place.
2006-09-18 08:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lok she is playing with your emotions here and that is not fair to you. I know how it feels trust me but you need to move on you bguys are freinds and she barlkey makes time for you now imagnine when you guys are going out , trust me the best thing is to get over her even though your heart tells you diffrent, at the end you will get hurt and it is not wrth it stop crying over her you desirve better she is only using you she has you like back up when no guy likes her she comes crawling back to you, I don't know her but you have to get over her and just be friends and thats all cuz she is playoing with your heart and that is not cool. tell her you want to be friends nothing elses another girl will come, when youmleast expect it she will be there, you still have your whole life ahead of you even though it does not seem that way . you will get over her like i had to get over someone. yeah it is hard but you can do it. oo another thing don't llok for another girl be patiene cuz the least thing a girl wants to be is a rebound! good luck
2006-09-20 04:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by hey!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, she's immature. Why do you have to panic? You're still young. You have a long way to go. Come on! If you feel you're a man, act manly!
Don't waste your time. Meet her and talk eye-to-eye. Give her the last chance. Otherwise make up your mind. Be a man if you think you are. Dump the girl and look for another serious lady! Come on, don't waste your time!
2006-09-18 08:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay here it is in black and white. If someone wants to be with you, they will be with you - period.
If you want to test that out, find another girl to start going out with and back off from your friend.
If she doesn't care about you as a "boyfriend" then it'll be okay with her. If she cares about you, she will try to get your attention, run down the other girl, or make it sound like she's very serious with her other "boyfriend" in an attempt to make you jealous.
Remember, nothing bugs a female more than being ignored. A woman will always chase a male she's interested in IF HE IGNORES HER.
2006-09-18 08:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem like a really nice guy. But I honestly think she just want's to be friends. Move on!
2006-09-18 08:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by Tonya L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ypu r right that is long i think that you should just ask her out i no that it does not sound that easy but just do it and if she says no then deal with it go on with your life there is other fish in the sea
2006-09-18 08:27:15 · answer #10 · answered by tanner s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋