If I stop caring about what my boyfriend does, where he's at or what he's doing. Would he care about what I'm doing? If I eased up off of him would he wonder why I'm not wondering what he's doing anymore? I want him to act the same way I was acting about him, how do I do that?
2006-09-18 08:17:02 · 14 answers · asked by kandie726 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Reverse psychology is not an exact science, or even a science at all, so there's really no guarantee that it will help with your problem. If it's not in your boyfriend's personality to act the way you want him to act, then there's really very little chance he's going to start doing it just because you try some game like reverse psychology. If you want him to ask about what you do, try asking him why he doesn't ask you about what you do. It will give you much better results with a lot less work and he won't be as likely to get frustrated and leave because he can't figure out what you want.
2006-09-18 08:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. This works quite often. If you dont show him any attention, ignore him and act like you do not care, he is going to wonder what is going on. If he does not want to lose you, then the tables will turn.
It has worked for me. The only thing is, after a while of you not really caring, and your boyfriend does what you want him to do, you might realize that you enjoyed yourself better when you were doing other things besides chasing him. And then thats it, the game is over. You got what you want from him, then you will be bored. MAYBE that is lol.. thats what happened to me.. It was all in the chase in that relationship.
2006-09-18 08:24:58 · answer #2 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reverse psychology is a very hard and tricky game to play, i would advise avoiding this really. It can and dose work in some circumstances but can also lead to disaster and resentment.if you let up asking him where he is and what he is doing or who is is with then he may take full advantage and not tell you , this will result in you becoming "paranoid" no insult intended. then again he may feel that you have stopped caring as much and want to spend more time with you or ask you the same question's .. what you have to ask yourself is do you want to be questioned by him all the time and why doesn't he care where you are or what your up too... i believe in the old fashioned .. sit down and talk about how your feeling
2006-09-18 08:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by uggs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships shouldn't be a game. But if you are making yourself too available to him, he will get bored. Act like you don't care, don't do anything nice for him. Go out with your friends and make yourself seem too busy for him. It might backfire if he never cared. But, at least you'll know and maybe you can move on to someone who does care for you one day. It sounds to me that he doesn't want to care and will wind up hurting you, been there done that. Hope you find happiness!
2006-09-18 08:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIrst off you do not know if it would work. What are you prepared to do if you behave in this manner and he acts like he doesn't care? It doesnt sound like you trust him and thats why you are feeling like this. If he gave you reason to not trust you should get out of the relationship. If he hasn't given you reason to not trust him...YOU need to ease up before you make yourself sick
2006-09-18 08:22:25 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and trust him. Then you can act like him. There is no reason to be worried, jealous or act insane if there is trust between the two of you. If there isn't that trust, then you should end the relationship and get in one where you don't have to act that way.
2006-09-18 08:20:27 · answer #6 · answered by JUNONNKI 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry girl... just give him some space because it sounds like you are smothering him and us guys DO NOT like that!!! If you keep doing that he will run far and fast, so chill and stop calling him every two minutes or else you will be dumped and known as a bunny boiler and that will be that!
2006-09-18 08:24:39 · answer #7 · answered by teapreacher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either find a bf who cares about you the way you want him to or quit worrying about it. What's the deal with playing games and trying to manipulate people??
2006-09-18 08:21:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea i played that game and he didnt think it was so funny cuz he beat my *** for it too. i tried the jealous game and it didnt end to well so if i were you, i would prepare for a beating or him acting like he doenst care. dont try that game. you never know how it will end. if you have to go that far, you shouldnt be together
2006-09-18 10:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it won't work. you are just different and anyway if he wonders what you are doing how do you know he won't get angry rather than try to reach a compromise by behaving as you want?
sorry, no chance.
2006-09-18 08:22:42 · answer #10 · answered by Boring 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋