2006-09-18 08:11:58 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Complacincy..............I dont think they nesecarally fall out of love , the love just becomes routine and the mundane Bs of life makes it so you forget all the stuff, then you crave the excitement you felt when ""in Love'''' .
2006-09-18 08:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no one explanation that can answer this question. But, I will try. The first way is when people grow apart. One person changes and the other doesn't. If one person is happy being the same all the time, and the other is learning new things then the learning person will probably get bored with the other. Another is if the relationship was based upon a false premise. Someone wasn't being honest to begin with. Another is someone thinks they can change the other person and then discovers otherwise. Another is one person gives up trying. This is probably the most common. Another is false expectations. Somehow they expected something from the relationship that you didn't deliver.
Still another is they found someone else.
2006-09-18 08:20:34 · answer #2 · answered by Scott E 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here is some simple truth but women deny it... but it's true. Women think that they can change a man. They will date a guy for years and even marry him to prove that she can MAKE the man they have into the man the WANT. WHEN (not if) they don't work out, these are most of the relationships that you are referring to. This is the "people change" and the "people grow apart" crap. The other 5-10% is that their feelings of lust got misinterpreted as feelings for love.
2006-09-18 08:21:37 · answer #3 · answered by tbayxxxv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being "in love" is a myth that is usually confused with being infatuated. Once the new has worn off and people start to see the flawed human being they have "fallen in love with", some people lose interest. Love isn't the heart-fluttering, can't get enough of this person kind of thing that most people call love. Real love means accepting that the other person IS going to annoy you, dissappoint you, fart in their sleep, clip their toe nails onto the floor. If someone has broken your heart by telling you they have fallen OUT of love with you, count your blessings that you don't have to waste any more time or emotion on someone who doesn't deserve it. Don't let this get you down, honey. Just love more wisely next time.
2006-09-18 08:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by chubbymom 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, it could be many different reasons. I've been through this a time or two. I just woke up to what they were really like. My first husband was lazy and good for nothing. He wouldn't work and didn't want me to work. When our daughter was born he didn't want to help me with her at all. He'd whine if I asked him to get up with her once, and he'd whine if I asked him to hold her so I could cook or get her bottle ready. We were living with his dad and grandmother, and I wanted our own place so we moved into a low income housing project. I started working shortly after we moved in. One day he just said "Did you know if you go down to part time or quit work we'll get more food stamps and our rent will go down". Although I knew something was wrong with how I felt, I was so young and just didn't know what it was. With that single question it all came to me what my life would be like from now on if I stayed with him. I wanted so much more for my daughter than extra food stamps. So I divorced him. Also my ex boyfriend was just controling and I decided I wasn't going to put up with that anymore either. Sorry such a long story. I need to add that I didn't really know what love was all about either.
2006-09-18 08:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by sweet.pjs1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay i know that this sounds weird but my bf and i when we broke up at the time sort of fell out of love. why you may ask..because he wanted the girl that he once started dating back and me i wanted the guy that had me at hello back. he never accepted the idea that i had to change and grow up really fast after a huge car wreck that i had with my car which made me rethink my life....he still saw and hoped that the girl/person he once met will come back. what i am trying to say is that most people are scared of change, but in reality nothing stands still. i guess that people fall out of love for different reasons such as one person growing up and the other not wanting change, for one person to want their gf/bf that they started dating at the beginning while the other person has had to grow up and so forth. i guess that all the time we dont look at what is happening in the other person's life, try to sort of push it to the side and then we start to distance ourselves.
2006-09-18 08:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because people change most of the time its for the worst and you fall out of love because this person is not the person you fell in love with
2006-09-18 08:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by Cassie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they were never in love in the first place, they were "in lust". In my opinion this is because too many confuse lust with love. Lust is that giddy feeling you have for a time after you first meet, where you have to be with each other every minute of every day and all you want to do is have sex with them all the time. Love is the condition where you find you can tolerate the other person in all other circumstances. When lust wears off and the reality of life together sets-in, many people find they have very little in common with each other. Lust blinds us to the reality of the relationship.
2006-09-18 08:58:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the chemicals in your brain generated by the emotion love stay in your brain for a long time, but will eventually attenuate. Thus unless there is real compatibility holding people together over the long run, there is a chance of falling out of love.
2006-09-18 08:14:51 · answer #9 · answered by s_e_e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my personal opinion it is because they weren't truely in love to begin with. Love is unconditional and can never be turned into anything else. If you are truely in love it will last forever even though you might disagree with the other persons behavior or attitude. You might choose to leave that person because of this, but if the love was real to begin with, you'll have it forever.
Dave
2006-09-18 08:23:36 · answer #10 · answered by Doctor fix it 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋