Please, I am serious about my question and just want honest opinions and answers, whether you are for or against my question, please answer nicely.....
Ok, I live in the United States. I am in my second year of college and I have an instructor that is single and gradually I have become attracted to him (yes, I am female). I could see if it was more controversial if I was just fresh out of high school and he was 40-something years old, but I am 27 and he is 31.
I know there is the whole issue with grades and everything, but next semester I don't have any of his classes.
Is anyone else in a similar situation? Anyone have any views they can point out to me and help me? I don't know if I necessarily want to act on these feelings or not, it's just that I feel like we meet people by fate in very odd ways.....
2006-09-18 08:10:03 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay - he's single & not like, waaayyyy too old for you, so this is not a bad thing. He is not - as an employee of the school - supposed to have a "thing" with you - he could lose his job, do time, etc. He has a responsibility to uphold. Once you are no longer in his class, then perhaps you could see one another - BUT - it would have to be kept quiet. That's the plain & simple truth. If you don't want to jeapordize his job, then while you are his student, let him be. Does he know how you feel yet? Perhaps you could talk to him about it - at least determine if there's anything there. If not, move on. If he returns your emotions, then ya'll will have to build a plan to go by. It's workable. Good luck -
2006-09-18 08:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of whether or not your are in any of his classes or not the University probably frowns on any relationship between students and instructors. That being said, you have to decide what you really want and if you are really interested in this person you need to convey this to him and then the both of you need to decide how to proceed. Feelings tend to ignore rules and "what is accepted practice" so if you both want to explore the opportunity there is nothing wrong with it, you might have to make some sacrifices however.
2006-09-18 15:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it. You're close in age, so why not? I would wait though until you no longer have him has one of your instructors. You wouldn't want other classmates to think that he gave you good grades just because he's attracted/dating you, would you?
2006-09-18 15:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woman, there is nothing wrong with it. now, if you were married or he was, then yeah, there's a prob. if you want to show interest, i would wait until after the semester. dont want to end up in a big mess
2006-09-18 16:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋