im 20 yrs old and still a virgin, if you were a guy and found out about me being a virgin , what crosses your head? what do you think of me? would it scare you away or would you just brush it off? and would you make fun of me?
2006-09-18 08:02:37 · 24 answers · asked by LaPosa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To be honest, we BOTH are a rare-species!!! I am 21 and still a virgin. I want to wait until I get married. The night of my wedding will be the day I will lose my virginity. You SHOULD NOT be ashamed of yourself, trust me, I also thought of your question by thinking what would guys think, and what would they think of me. I read the answers and I am glad that guys respect a woman who is a virgin.
I really respect you and you seem like you have very high morals. Keep it that way!! Until you are sure that you met a guy who respects you and has TRUE INTENTIONS, and you feel like you are ready, then it is your choice. Do not be ashamed or dubious about what others think of you. THAT is what makes us special. Because I know that there are people who wish that they would still be virgins or not lose their virginity at an early age.
Just pray to God that someday, when you least expect it, a guy will come and will make you happy. He will treat you and respect you how you deserve it. Hang in there girl, and be careful!!!
2006-09-18 08:32:56 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always wondered the opposite. What to girls think of guys who are virgins?
As for your question, I think I would be a little surprised (but not totally since I was a virgin when I was 20). It wouldn't scare and if anything you would be a lot more attractive to me than someone who had slept around. Also, I would have much more respect for you. You just have to be carefull about who you tell as many guys would take advantage. I know a few guys who actively search for virgins so that they can 'pop them' - they're not nice people.
Would I make fun, maybe the odd ocasion but only as a slight piss take. Really, there isn't anything to ashamed off. Enjoy it when it happens because seriously, it doesn't matter when it happens, it only matters who you do it with
2006-09-18 15:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by Joe_Floggs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I was a virgin till I was 20 as well.
I would honestly think higher of you. So many men and women these days give away their virginity because of "peer pressure" that they don't even really experience the special and emotional part of love making/sex.
I would definitely not make fun of you and it would not scare me away. If a guy likes you he should like you for you. Not because he thinks he can get you into bed.
I think its actually special for a guy if he is a girls first or special for a girl if she is a guys first.
Just remember, when you are truly ready and with the person you want to experience this amazing act of love with, it will be more special because you waited.
Hope this helped.
2006-09-18 15:13:17 · answer #3 · answered by trevor m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would love a girl like you! It's rare that a girl your age is still a virgin. Don't be ashamed of that. I am 17, and lost my virginity 6 months ago. Usually your first time is a disaster unless your with someone who really is here to dedicate themselves to you, not just use you and throw you away. Just know that that is a rarity, and you would be considered a treasure in my eyes and others. And whoever teases you are probably virgins themselves or just hating on you.
2006-09-18 15:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Experience, or lack there of, shouldn't make a difference for people your age... you will run into a problem though, I think, if you are looking for guys in their late 20's early 30's. If I were you, I'd keep your virginity a secret until you are ready to have sex. There are some jerks out there that just want to "...do a virgin and move on."
2006-09-18 15:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by tbayxxxv 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would not make fun of you, why would anyone do that. Being a virgin is your own decision. Being a virgin isn't bad. Personally, knowing what I do at my age, and being as self-assured as I am, I would prefer a more experienced woman to marry. A past doesn't bother me. I would think a man that was looking for a virgin wants one because she has no prior sexual experience to compare him to. It would seem to me to be an insecurity issue.
2006-09-18 15:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is great to know that there are still people with your similar beliefs. Don't worry about what they think, think high of yourself. It's important that you don't feel like you have to give in to these guys or fit in with what others are doing. Trust me when the right one comes along he will have the utmost respect for you and the decision that you have made to keep yourself to yourself. Any real man would love to have you on his side. He'll treasure, respect and love you for the stand that you have made. If a guy can't respect your wishes(decision to remain a virgin) then you don't need to be with them. When temptations come just remember once you give that(your virginity) up, it's gone and a major piece of you is gone with it too. When we are involved with people they have a piece of us and we have a piece of them --we're connected for life. Don't give in and you will have a wonderful gift to give your husband on your wedding night.
2006-09-18 15:12:01 · answer #7 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shouldn't be a problem. Of course, I hope you don't start the conversation with "Hi I'm a virgin." That should not be a social topic and if you are in a relationship, then it should be a wonderful thing for the man to learn. Knowing he is the special one. I know I would.
2006-09-18 15:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by JUNONNKI 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, i wouldn't make fun of you. In fact right now, I envy you cos it takes a lot of moral guidance and Gods grace for a woman to remain a virgin at 20 nowadays.
Keep your head high and don't be bothered about not doing it cos your reward for keeping yourself whole will be priceless.
You still have your entire cake and now that you are wiser, eat it only when you are hungry-Marriage- and believe me: your husband will love and cherish you for life except he is a fool.
I pray you find someone who truly deserves you.
2006-09-18 15:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by Max 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are one in a million and have nothing to feel bad about. The fact that you are still a virgin shows that you have high morals. You are special and do not let anyone tell you otherwise
2006-09-18 15:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by robsnor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋