women answer me this one?

Question

why are so many women (not all i know) against doing the house work? im not saying its their job...im not saying"your a woman do it!' im just saying...so many women take it like your asking for them to be your slave. how i see it..and how iv been taught..is if the man is working(and making enough money for them both) and the wifes at home..she has a job to..and thats the well keeping of the house...is that so bad? i think its a huge job, and is very respectable. is it because so many men expect it that you women dont like it? or is it that you feel cleaning is very 1800's and you want to be working? doesnt it make sence of who ever is at home not working has the job to clean the house? if i stayed home (for some reason) and my (future) wife worked, i would do the cleaning and maitenence, because she is gone...why would i have her come home from work...and do another job of cleaning? just wondering all the womens opinions

what im basically asking is do girls realize that working at home IS a job? its not oh if you do that then your from the 1700's...i think its respectable and probably more work then the husbands office job

Answer 1

I agree with you. My bf was out of work for four months and he cleaned and cooked for me. Once he started working we split everything in half and would switch off cooking. I'm a clean fanatic so honestly if he didn't help I wouldn't care because I would do it anyways:)

Answer 2

I agree and disagree with you. In my experience, growing up in a house full of men, it was always implied that it was my job along with my mom's job to clean the house. My brothers always got off easy and it made me so mad. Hence my brothers are going to do the same to their familys.
It's totally logical that the person who stays home should clean. Hell if someone is busting butt to support the household then it's not a lot to ask that the house be clean by the other person.
BUT it doesn't always work out that way. Not to be stereotypical but I think a lot of men and women are raised where the women do the house work NOT the men.
I live with my bf now and I truly love him to death but I have to beg him to clean up his own freakin mess. We both work equally hard. By no means does he support me. But I do a majority if not all the housework, all the time. It is super frustrating. Especially because he is a housekeeping supervisor for a hotel. So he justifies it that he cleans all day so he doesn't want to come home and clean. So I guess after my 12 hour day at the office that somehow I should want to clean.
On my days off he comes home to a **** and span home. On the other hand when he has days off I come home to dirty dishes, piles of laundry and crap everywhere and him laying on the couch watching sports center. It's sooo frustrating.
So what do you think about that? Shouldn't it be pretty even, we should share the housework. But it never turns out that way.... If I don't do it, it doesn't get done.

Answer 3

We no longer live in a society where too frequently a couple can afford to have one partner stay at home. However, if a couple agrees that one partner will stay at home and perform the role of house-wife/husband while the other goes to work and brings home the bacon, then they should be setting out the ground rules.

Again, it's communication. Will it be the house-wife/husband's responsibility for all interior housekeeping only or will exterior chores such as gardening, mowing, weeding, cleaning of gutters, washing of windows etc. be part of the role's expectation. Will working spouse come home to a fully prepared meal every night or occasionally pickup takeout.....afterall both partners have full-time responsibilities.

Just because one is working out of the home and one is working outside the home, does not necessarily mean they cannot share in some of the daily tasks/chores.

All decisions should be discussed and mutually agreed upon, then no-on can possibly get their noses bent out of shape assuming it was the other individual's responsibility to perform a specific chore.

Answer 4

Get a new "wife"...j/k i am a stay at home wife/mom of 2 children i think you are right. A womens job is to clean the house and have dinner ready as well as laundry done. Some women feel that if they work they are tired and dont have enough time in the day to get it all done. Wrong i work as well as take care of my kids and keep the house clean. Its all about how you manage your time and schedule in the day. Believe me there is enough time in the day to get it all done. Maybe your wife is a lil lazy ( not being mean) just talk to her and let her no what you feel and think. Maybe you both can do your parts in the houshold and get the work done faster...

Answer 5

You obviously aren't married. Working outside the home is so much more fun than cleaning the house, trust me. At least at work you get to interact with another adult. Another problem is the stupid housework never gets finished, because when the man comes home he tracks mud in the house or throws his crap around and sits his fat *** on the couch and eats chips and gets crumbs everywhere. Need I go on? Now days most women work honey. I myself have two jobs. To tell you the truth, if I didn't have to work trust me I wouldn't. It would take me about one hour in the morning to drop off the babies at daycare or school, throw some laundry in, sweep and mop and then I would be on my way to lessons at the country club with that hot new tennis instructor until right before the old hubby was due home. Pick up the kids, walk in the door and throw some dinner together and voila! back to reality, until tomorrow of course.

Answer 6

I guess there are lazy women out there. I work part-time, but do all the cleaning and cooking. If I didn't work at all, I'd have more time to do more cleaning..
But I do know women who just don't clean..my sister-in-law, who is home all day. OK, she has a baby, but the baby does take naps.
I think it's only fair that both partners share the work, whether it be going out to work each day, or taking care of a house/kids.

Answer 7

There's a huge difference between cleaning the house and picking up after a lazy @ss husband ... !

When I was a stay at home mom ... my ex-husband was like another child .. he didn't know how to clean up after himself and it made everything twice as hard for me to do ... I hated it ... !

I don't mind doing the household chores now ( and I work full time too ) as long as my BF does the outside work (yard work, trash duty, vehicle maintenance .. etc ..) and does his own laundry I'm happy to cook and clean for him ... !

I agree with you ... doesn't matter who stays home ... if you're home you better be taking care of that house ... period ... !

Answer 8

Yes it is a job. A women who is staying at home should clean but she should get help as well. Im a stay at home mom with 3 guys and a man. Im not picking up everything they leave laying around! I will bark orders and have them pick up the stuff they have left laying around. My job is cooking washing dishes, sweeping, mopping, cleaning the bathroom, vacume furniture floors, dusting etc etc not picking up shoes toys books papers etc left out by others.

Answer 9

If the husband and the wife are both working then you have twice the money to spend on extra things that yall want...if the husband is just working then theres not a lot of money to spend...women want to do more that just clean all day...wouldnt you?

Answer 10

Being a liberated woman means being able to choose what we want to do with our lives. Some women choose to focus on succeeding at a career, some choose to focus on home life and some of us choose to balance both. Don't try to force a carrer woman to stay barefoot and pregnant. And don't try to make a voluntary homemaker go out and be the breadwinner. Just choose a woman who has the same goals in mind as you do.