was away for couple of nights to a city for a break with a very good friend who happens to be a girl whose age is 27yrs and myself 36yrs. we partied, met relatives, shopped, dined, walked, chatted for hours on one bed but slept on separate rooms ..was staying with my family friend. we have been seeing each other for more than a year now but have not kissed or had sex together. myself divorced and aware of the same and she is not married. we do care for each other and very open about ourselvs. she only goes out with me only and expects me to tell her if out with anyone else. she wants to get married next year as told to her friends but not told me anything as yet or directly. any decision she takes ..does give me a buzz for taking a call. this trip has made me fall in love and respect for her has moved up. What Should Be My Next Step ?
2006-09-18 07:43:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The experience is yours. The decision must also be yours based on your sole experience. It is a foolish idea to take a decision based on the opinions of others. 'Chatted on one bed and slept on separate rooms' is a clause that hides the real part of your story. You are 36 and she is 27. When this is the case, how do you expect that normal human beings would behave in the way that you have described? I think the instincts of both of you must have gone on long leave! Your next step should be decided on the basis of both of your thoughts, expressions, actions and reactions. Your love and respect for her should also find out whether she has love and respect for you. Have an open discussion with her about her marriage with you and decide. Mutual trust is inevitable for the success of marital life. Good luck!
2006-09-18 11:28:03 · answer #1 · answered by SRIRANGAM G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kiss her and have sex..... multiple times....and no don't write back on the board and say that either of you are religious or some such crap either or that you have too much respect. She has already told her friends she expects to get married?!! You are going to have to explore more dimensions of the relationship than just talking, partying, shopping and hanging out.
2006-09-18 07:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you thinking clearly?
I'm not sure if you're googoo in love (in which case I'd recommend you run, you guys sound like friends, not lovers).
If you're not googoo in love - what are your expectations of this woman? If you've been dating for over a year and haven't kissed or had sex - I'd have to seriously ask you why? If you have moral or religious objections then that's one thing, but if you don't, then why?
I think you should leave her and move on. You're not thinking clearly.
Go to your men and ask them.
FP
2006-09-18 07:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope u r a shy person or, your love is true & u respect her with ur great feelings. In very right time & right mood u propose her, i hope if she is that close to wo'nt refuse ur praposal.
If she has any personal problems then u r the only persone to solve it. Do continue this beautiful relationship.
2006-09-18 20:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by sandeep k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should try to move close to kissing her and u should try it take her to a fab resturant and then bring a blanket to go sit under the stars it will be very romantic and then kiss her once then let the rest of the kissing be up to her u dont want to move to fast
2006-09-18 08:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by nodaybuttoday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see 9 yrs age diff is not much so just be open to her and ask or wait for some time and see wht she feels for u .....and just knw wht her parents also want ..will they accept u as u are divorce and the age diff also ,,,U both seeem to be good friends and tell her u both will remain friends for ever .......
2006-09-18 12:48:28 · answer #6 · answered by koni1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you realy do love her and respect her and you know she likes you and yall have been dating for a year ask her to marry you. take her to yalls favorite spot and ask her in the most respect for her and who she is just ask her.
2006-09-18 07:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by lover_gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why havent you taken this to the next level?. Just let her know what u feel abt her.
2006-09-18 18:37:54 · answer #8 · answered by Heista 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have never kissed her? Call me mr obvious but that may be a good starting point?
2006-09-18 07:46:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r serios about her. dont wait even single minute. u want to mary her. its very good decision from your side. why to bother how she would respond. convincingly ask her. definitely she will agree. allthebest.
2006-09-18 13:10:39 · answer #10 · answered by meenakshim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋