Is it bad etiquette to ask a woman if she is pregnant? My neighbor asked me this weekend and I've been feeling fat eversince.
2006-09-18 07:32:07 · 23 answers · asked by Miel 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes, bad ettiquette. Better your neighbour keep her mouth shut until someone has informed her they are pregnant. What is wrong with people.
2006-09-18 07:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by mad_hat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bad etiquette or form, I would have thought the latter.
In a different setting, how would the host know to offer the guest a cup of water if not first asked? Loosely alluding to:
Would someone out of politeness ask a pregnant lady before congratulating the lady for the coming birth of a baby ?
Or, for that matter showing concern by getting food for the Mother before ascertaining the condition of the Mother, which is worse ?
Hence bad form.
Personally, under certain conditions, asking a person close to the woman of the perceived condition would be a discreet way, and therefore, not inappropriate form.
2006-09-18 09:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by pax veritas 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes...it's TERRIBLE etiquette (etiquette is the RIGHT thing, so this is a misnomer).
When I was about 3 I asked a friend of my mum's that...and she left in a HUFF... She wasn't preggers...she was JUST FAT!
So, I can see why you feel that way.
& what about when someone asked my sister that when her baby was only 2 months old? ... She was fat not preggers....so you see your neighbor has the manners of a PIG!
Remember these words, whenever someone's bad behavior starts to influence your choice(s) :
"Don't let an upstart priest chase you out of your parish!"
In other words, DON'T LET WHAT SHE SAID MAKE YOU FEEL THAT WAY. (consider the source...bla bla bla). Really tho', SHE is the one who should feel bad. BAD for being so RUDE. Don't have anything more to do with her. and if she asks why? tell her!
2006-09-18 07:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find this question extremely rude. This is such a personal issue, if a woman wants the asker to know, they would tell them, and not wait to be asked.
I was recently asked this question by my 7-year-old neice (I believe she asked because my other sister-in-law is pregnant right now). Although I know children will be forthright and ask questions such as these, I was mortified when neither of her parents corrected her and told her how rude it was of her to ask this question.
I have no clue why adults (even some other women) feel that it's their right to ask a question with so many embarassing implications. I have not only been asked if I was pregnant, but when I was wearing loose-fitting clothing, I have had people actually ask me "when I was due." I have never been pregnant in my life!
2006-09-18 11:03:46 · answer #4 · answered by JenV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well etiquettes can never be generalised.
If you are close and intimate with a person then the person concerned may ask you seemingly embarassing questions with ease but if that is not the case...then it has to be done in a subtle manner.
I guess you know the answer to it deep down inside.All of us can make presumptions but you know best.
Anyway, if you indeed are pregnant...then all the very best and take care.:)
2006-09-18 07:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is.
But how bad is this?!...
I am 8 1/2 months pregnant and a snotty co-worker keeps trying to make me feel fat by making snotty comments if ever my ankles swell (even though it's CA in the summer) or if I lose my breath after a lot of quick activity. It took me a while to realize what she is doing... BAD BAD karma! The funniest part is she is fat and not pregnant!
Don't let it get to you... Maybe SHE was doing it to be a b$&*@ too?...
2006-09-18 07:37:11 · answer #6 · answered by snape4good 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling.It happened to me when i was about 18 yrs old.A lady that was ringing up my groceries asked how old my baby was now,and there was not even a kid with me and i had never seen her before in my life and she kind of looked at my midsection when she asked.Mind you i wasn't even overweight!I am now 33 with four little girls and that still bothers me to this day.Don't let it bother you though,just ask her the same question the next time you see her.That Will be funny.Bye
2006-09-18 07:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, very bad ettiquette to ask a woman that question. A friend of mine was recently asked that by a friend's dad and she broke down into tears.
2006-09-18 07:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My feelings are, unless you actually see a baby emerging from a woman's birth canal, say nothing!
2006-09-18 10:26:49 · answer #9 · answered by But Inside I'm Screaming 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is tacky to ask a woman that question. Try not to feel bad.
2006-09-18 08:18:33 · answer #10 · answered by sheeny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋