DO YOU THINK ITS FOR ATTENTION? I AM BUT MY MOTHER FORCES ME TO GO WITH MEN WHAT SHOULD I DO
2006-09-18 07:26:45 · 30 answers · asked by lisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your mother obviously has a poor understanding of what it is to be homosexual. She obviously thinks its a CHOICE, when I'm sure you understand its hard wired and just biologically who you are. How can your mother force you to be with anyone though? You mean she sets up dates and MAKES you go on them?
2006-09-18 07:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have known some women and men who were not always attracted to the same sex. Earlier in life, they were attracted to the opposite sex. Later, they changed their preferences and chose to be with lovers of the same sex. For some, I know it is CHOICE. Others, however, claim it is biological. Personally, I think that being straight is more biological than anything. A man and woman's body was made biologically to FIT together perfectly. I think your mother wants you to marry a man, and have kids the biological way that God meant for and "hardwired" their bodies to do. However, she can not force your attraction to men, like my mother could never force my liking of eggs or broccoli. It is your life and you have to live it until it's over which could always happen sooner than expected. We're not promised tomorrow.
2006-09-18 14:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by Christa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mother truly loves you, she should allow you to be who you are. No one, and especially not a mother, has the right to force someone else into unwanted relationships.
Does your mother realize how you feel? Explain to her that she is not you, just as you are not her. Everyone of us is our own person and we all need to live our lives for ourselves - not for anyone else.
Your mother is probably very scared, confused, and hurting right now, too. Maybe you could calmly ask her if it's more important for HER to be happy, or for her to see that YOU are happy? Your mother's probably never even had the chance to stop and think about that.
Be yourself. You only live once. Live for yourself and no one else.
Best of luck to you and take care.
2006-09-18 14:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by ♫ Jemmy~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is she? I'm angry with that woman, honestly! I need to talk to your mom! She doesn't love her daughter! Why does she want to make you feel guilty about unnecessary issues. Why does she want you to chase men like a who**re! Does she want to have a share of these men? Come on, you're not an animal!
It's wrong for your mom to decide for you. More especially in issues of lust! She is obviously teaching you to be lustful. It's love when you initiate the idea, take your time and choose the right partner voluntarily.
2006-09-18 14:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by Tom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were created to be a wife, to be a mother, to bear and raise children. That is what your body is made for. If you choose not to accept this fact you will never have what God has planned for you to have from the beginning of time. It just makes logical sense for you to be with a man and not a woman. They fit- they work- they produce life when joined together.
2006-09-18 14:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by mac_user 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? No offense but your mom can't force you to be straight anymore than you can force her to be gay? I am a single straight mom and it may not be what she'd hoped for you but she loves you and wants what she thinks is right! Don't fault her for that...
2006-09-18 14:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by Trisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is in denial. Have you sat her down and explained to her that you do not want to go out with males? Does she realize that she cannot force you to be something your not? I am sure your mom wants you to be happy so explain to her that this doesn't make you happy. Good luck
2006-09-18 14:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by lcplyr7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care for gays/lesbians/Bi but have no problem with them as long as they don't try to convince me it's normal and that they don't try to hit on me. However, no one can force you to do anything. Tell her you are quite capable to make your own decisions and that she will just have to accept that, mainly cause she don't have a choice. You will do what you want eventually and there is nothing she can do about it but accept you for what you prefer.
2006-09-18 14:34:06 · answer #8 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling will help you deal with a lot of issues, including what is going on between you and your mother.
2006-09-18 14:29:02 · answer #9 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should be forced into doing something they don't want to do. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink it.
Good luck.
2006-09-18 14:32:29 · answer #10 · answered by X-Woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋