2006-09-18 07:21:17 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is tough. Your family member should respect you enough to never take advantage of you.When you marry someone then they are the center of your world. Your spouse is the most important person in your life. Period. Anyone can make a mistake and forgiveness is not as difficult if they are truly sorry for what they have done. It takes a big person to forgive. Just try to eliminate the reason it happened in the first place.
2006-09-18 07:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by roppster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What background did you come from? How old is the family member?
How long has this been going on?
Now to answer your question is hard without the answers to my question, so I will guess the family member is at least 18, and you came from an uneducated background.
It is still hard for me to type on this question.
I will not forgive the parent, and probably not forgive the family member either. The family member looks up to the parents for the proper guidance and moral standards, and I am sure this family member went to high school where he/she was taught not to have relationships with parents or relatives.
I have a 38 year old daughter, 26 year old son, and an eight year old grandson. I have never thought about this with my family, and I am sure there are millions of people that would have never thought about trying to answer this question.
PLEASE STOP IT IF IT IS HAPPENING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-18 14:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's worse than cheating with a stranger!!!! There's a real creepiness, lack of morals, lack of loyalty, lack of awareness that while it isn't incest by any means it has some creepy tone of incestuousness to it, and boundaries-crossing to it that cheating with someone's family member involves.
Some people who might cheat with a stranger would never, ever, cheat with someone's family member (or even a friend) because they would still have some level of decency when it came to drawing the line.
There's almost something about cheating with someone's family member that seems to point to the cheater's (and the family member's) wish to hurt the "victim" more or to point to the possibility that it could be "feather in the cap" of of the cheater to have "had" more than one person in a family.
Creepy, creepy, creepy, and completely lacking in morals or decency.
So, no. There's no way I'd ever, ever, forgive such a sick situation.
2006-09-18 07:30:14 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't forgive neither of them at all. They are both back stabbers and you don't need that. They say blood is thicker than water but that is all a bunch of crap , family is worse than your enemies. They do sh*t thinking that you are family and you'll forgive them. If it happened once it will happen again , trust me. I found out the hard way with an ex bf of mine and my so called best friend
2006-09-18 07:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the spouse probably, because my family has been with me longer. Its a tough one tho, because your spouse becomes your family when you get married, and they would be breaking their vow to be faithful to you, which is something your family never promised....I would have a hard time forgiving both people!
2006-09-18 07:24:10 · answer #5 · answered by kari 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to forgive my family member or go crazy but his a** would be out.
2006-09-18 07:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ought to have a communicate with my sister, inner most lunch or some thing... ask her why her thoughts are for her husband and word if she is being genuine about it... because why have a toddler if she is dishonest too? Then i ought to tell her only for her to carry close and to imagine about having a toddler in a difficulty like this... and that her husband is dishonest as well. Then i ought to stay out of it after that aspect. i imagine human beings ought to study before making existence changign judgements.. yet i ought to also contain evidence, no longer merely words. it truly is merely me.
2016-11-27 22:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by dlabaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it all depends. The saying is "blood is thicker than water"...but being true...why would your family member betray you like t his! Keep your enemies cose and your family closer. I dont know if i could forgive either one.
2006-09-18 11:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by Angeleyes 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. I don't forgive for things like that... especially family because they should know better.
2006-09-18 07:54:25 · answer #9 · answered by jtj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
They may tell you that they will not do it again.
But they will probably do it knowing that you will take them back each time.It would be real hard to forgive that person. You may forgive the person, you would not be able to trust them though.
2006-09-18 07:26:02 · answer #10 · answered by swimmerchick12000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋