i almost lost 7 stone but dont know why i bothered!!?

Question

hi..i started dieting in feb this yearweighing 17stone.5, i now weigh almost 10.5 stone..but iwish i had never bothered..i had way more confidence when iwas fatter,..and acutally im really disdraught..as although i excercised the whole way through..i had now really really bad loose skin on my stomach and arms and legs to the point of it discusts me and i actaully feel ashamed of my body..and everybody keeps asking "wow you must feel great now you have lost all this weight"..and you know what i dont at all!!..i,m so unhappy at the body i have been left with..and so disappointed and upset..i didnt acheive what iwanted..and iam so insecure now its unbelievable!!..i,m meeting..my fiance in november.and i,m terrified in when he sees me naked ( thats if i let him!!lol) that he will reject me.he loves me for me and my head..hes says he doesnt care..and maybe it does bother me more than it will him..its not that though my confidence and self esteem is so low because of the way my body looks

7 stone approx 98lbs!

Answer 1

This is actually a really common thing for people to go through when they have lost a lot of weight! People expect for weight loss to completely turn their life around and fix everything, and then when they still have problems (or have new ones like loose skin), it makes them incredibly depressed and insecure.

Is there someone, like a counsellor, that you can talk to?

Focus on the positive aspects-- like your health! You can live a much fuller, longer life if you are taking care of yourself by eating healthy and working out. What about trying to find some new activities that you enjoy? Take a class, join a group, volunteer-- find things that make you feel satisfied and happy that have nothing to do with your body.

I bet that your body does bother you more than your fiance. Most people are much more critical of themselves than they are of others.

Answer 2

My ideas? Try to do 200 minutes of cardio a week. Remember fat does not turn into muscle, so you need to lose your fat while putting on muscle. Work hard, but don't over 60 minutes at a time. Do planks and other abs exercises on alternate days.

On training days, do 5-10 minutes of cardio to warm up, then do your weight training. Do 30 to 60 minutes more of cardio, then go home.

The best time to eat is just after your workout within an hour when your metabolism is raging. For your muscles, incorporate some isolated soy protein or whey protein. Whey is more potent but the soy tastes better!

Don't look at your scale as the be all and end all, but get a measuring tape to check your progress, and that will show more tangible results.

Read magazines like Shape, Womens Fitness, Fitness, etc to get tips and to stay motivated.

Good luck and stick at it. This plan has lost me 20 lbs in 12 weeks so far, just go for it!

Answer 3

Actually, in the US where I am reading this (NYC area) we don't use "stone." But I'm somewhat familiar with the term.

I'm sure a doctor would tell you how much healthier you are now.

But it IS a big change - perhaps you could get a check-up and discuss all this with your doctor. Others must have gone through it, too, and they can help.

Congratulations on accomplishing this! Good luck.

Answer 4

Why are you weighing yourself with stones? You can always have that excess skin cut off. If you can afford it.