I just do not understand it....My fiance had a major cow last night, because I added a friend from high school who I have not talked to in over 14 years to myspace account as a friend. I explained to him that there was nothing there and that I just wanted to see what that person had been up to in the last 14 years. Well to try to help matters better I have since deleted that friend from high school off myspace account as a friend. Ok, granted back in the high school days I did have a crush on this guy, but trust me every girl in school did. He was popular, quarterback of the football team...he had everything going for him. I love my fiance to death and would do nothing to harm what hiim and I have that is for sure and I tried to explain that to him that night. What should I do...I am so damn confused?
2006-09-18 07:01:37 · 4 answers · asked by fhockey1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You may stop being confused. This is not about you. This is all about your fiance and his insecurities. I suggest that you and he find a way to discuss this objectively and unemotionally before you actually get married, even if it means counseling. His behaviour will not change in such cases after you are married.
I made the mistake of letting my wife make me drop some female friends of mine shortly after we were married. I later came to find out that my wife was an angry jealous person and those aspects continued even after I complied with her requests. She is now my ex. I won't say it was a mistake to marry her but it was the most expensive and painful lesson I have ever learned in my 52 year life.
God bless.
2006-09-18 07:06:25 · answer #1 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The point of the confusement is that you just added another man to your account. Like you said you love your fiance to death, your fiance feels upset due that you have another man you can contact and talk to. Seems like to me your fiance doesn't approve of this and when he doesn't approve of this then you need to let that person that your trying to add to your account go. If you are planning to get married one day and you want this relationship to continue on with arguments and confusing then I suggest you delete this friend off and out of your life also. Continue loving the good man you have beside you and explain to him that you are going to drop this friend on your account because you don't want your relationship ruin over a high school buddy.
2006-09-18 07:09:23 · answer #2 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most common reason that a person in a relationship gets really jealous and starts suspecting the other of cheating...
Is because they're cheating themself.
And afraid that you're going to cheat too.
Its called cheaters guilt.
2006-09-18 07:04:36 · answer #3 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he feels you are wondering he may have self esteem issues but that doesnt mean that you cant talk to an old friend just because he isnt comfortable in his own skin be careful he may be over controlling but if hes not try to boost his confidence level every now and then
2006-09-18 07:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋