This is strange but true. My girlfriend and I have a great relationship. We are best friends and have vowed to be completely honest with each other about everything. Her birthday is coming up and she has told me that she doesn't want jewlery or clothes. She says that she wants to do something naughty for her 25th birthday. Something completely out of character. She wants a stripper in a private hotel room. She said that she would pay back on my birthday. Any fantasy I wanted. I agreed--it may not sound like it but she is actually a good girl..she's been faithful.. Well, she has obviously put some thought into it because she recently said that she has decided upon a muscular, black stripper., completely naked. Ground rules are this: no touching but no sex. I searched forever for her stripper without luck. Finally, I found a guy at my gym. Only, his rule is this: his g-string comes off only if she removes her panties. When i told her, she just smiled and said it was up to me. Should I?
2006-09-18 06:25:01 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
of course NOT!! you are willing to let an outsider to see your gf's ...??? If you really love her then i think you shouldnt do it tho =)
2006-09-18 06:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're totally ignoring the thing I think is most important:
Have you guys already worked out what YOUR fulfilled fantasy is going to be? Don't EVEN work on bringing this one to life if there's any risk that she'll turn around and say "Okay, you know, when I said anything? I wasn't expecting THAT" and leave you feeling cheated.
She said "let's make a deal". Right now, the deal is only half-made. Make sure everything is worked out for BOTH your fantasies before EITHER side gets carried out. You're apparently willing to do a lot for this girl - make sure she's willing to do as much for you!
2006-09-18 06:34:30 · answer #2 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like trouble...It sounds like she's getting permission from you to cheat. Just because you know about it, doesn't mean it's not cheating. If it were you in a hotel room w/ a naked girl and you had to have you pants off, wouldn't she consider that cheating. Open your eyes. She's gotten permission from you to cheat and even has you looking for the guy. There's no way you should go for this. But, if this is what she wants to do, she's going to do it regardless. It sounds like she's been wanting this for a long time. Just be careful...
2006-09-18 06:32:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things like this can change a great relationship into a one of mistrust and hurt. It is fun to fantasize and to explore new things with the person you are in love with, but acting out situations alone can lead to other things. Would you ever really know for sure she didn't cheat on you if this happens? Would you always wonder about it? These thoughts would kill your relationship. Maybe you could suggest something else that would fill her need but allow you piece of mind.
2006-09-18 06:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm..... no. She would be crossing the line. And just the fact that the guy you found has that stipulation tells me that he is not trust worthy with her. I think this sounds like a bad idea all around and that it is just setting you up for problems in the relationship.
Ask her this..... would it be ok to have the same thing for your brithday. Can you have a completely naked stripper for your next brithday. if she says she doesnt care then she is full of crap!
2006-09-18 06:30:21 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the hardest things to ponder. All the while you are thinking about this deal, I bet you are thinking of two things... You want to let her do this because on your birthday you get what you want, and she is to have no sex with this stripper... But what you should really be asking, Do we love each other enough to experiment in this way. this means, do you both trust each other enough to enjoy what you both want to enjoy. This does include the possibility and likelyhood of both of you experimenting with others. This does not mean you do not love each other, but is shows you both trust each other more than you think. Ask yourself this, would you be turned on if she had sex with another person. Would she be turned on if you had sex with another person? you both need to talk to each other and not get mad or embarrassed. Be open and honest. Be careful, if either of you overreact, it could spell doom.
2006-09-18 06:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
JJ..you failed the greatest test a gitl can ever test a man. It reminds me reading some magazines where wives cannot let go after they get the first stripper. Sorry friend. You are losing your lady.
2006-09-18 06:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by Kinyua J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if that is such a good idea, I mean this guy and you go to the same gym, if by chance things got out of control or ugly, you would have to see this guy again from time to time.
2006-09-18 06:27:36 · answer #8 · answered by babydoll121070 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your like setting her up to cheat, i mean a stripper is one thing but her clothes coming off? youre crazy if you say its fine. sounds to me like she is bored which i can understand but why cant the two of you do something crazy together for her birthday? why does it have to be another man?
2006-09-18 06:29:10 · answer #9 · answered by domsmom701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NOOOOOO!!!!! A line must be drawn! Why the hell do her panties have to come off for some F***ing dirty strippers g-string to come off? When you go to a TT bar do you take off your shirt? F*** no! That guy is up to no damn good!!!!
2006-09-18 06:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by teenypurplebinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO Way!!!!!!!!!! Is he paying her to get naked? tell your girl to calm down a little bit and put this into perspective. if she refuses, she may just want a way to look at another man. i would seriously think about this for the sake of your relationship. just like parents tell their kids "no" to some things because it is best for them. it is best for you and her to say "no". good luck man.
2006-09-18 06:29:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋